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~Break-taking-bitsh~

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How do you cope with the loss of a three year relationship just out of the blue?
He says we’re incompatible, but he is a geologist and pretty much a hippie, likes to hike and be outdoors a lot. I love those things too, but it’s just not clear to me why he would just let go of us like that. He says he still loves me and cares about me and that our bond is still there *just not as strong as it used to be* so why isn’t that enough for him to just try to work this out with me? I still keep having the thoughts of the unhealthy nature rolling through my head. I don’t know what to do. I still love him and want to keep fighting for him, but it hurts so much to fight and still be pushed away…

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An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (10 minutes after post)

I don’t understand him too..what does he want? Everything seems alright!! Did he meet another woman who can make him feel better? But you are still on his mind,I know it is not too late to fix the relationship..try to ask him ,what goes wrong? Maybe you both can work it out.. fight to have him back,but never force him to love you..
but inspire him..good luck

~Break-taking-bitsh~ 59 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (19 minutes after post)

I think maybe he has found another woman who makes him feel better. I thnk it’s someone he works with, but he always told me that he didn’t want me to be the type of woman who cheats all day long while he’s at work and I hit him back with I don’t want him to say he’s working late and really screwing around on me. I know he was on a date less than a week after breaking up with me. Most of my belongings are still in his house… He’s still letting me shower, do laundry, eat or whatever I need to do at his house. I still have house keys. He told me I can keep them as long as I want. Do you see why I’m so conflicted?

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An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (36 minutes after post)

Hello, He might be in love with the new girl..but he loves you.Being in love is something strong in the beginning..But to love someone is not happening so quick..it need to be developed..let’s him go..be calm..give him sometimes..Maybe the new girl could not fullfill him emotionaly like you do..just wait an see..how well they can do? If they don’t fit well together, he will come back..The love he has for you isn’t dead..but that is the Man’s nature..men are selfish and animal.I hope he will learn. good luck

~Break-taking-bitsh~ 59 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (50 minutes after post)

I don’t know, I doubt myself on that one… I know he still loves and cares about me, our bond is still strong, so why isn’t that enough to try? :^(

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An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (1 hour, 13 minutes after post)

I used to have the same situation..I don’t understand my Bf either..I have so much heartbroken until today..but I am ok now ..Please just get back to yr life,focus on what u want in life..focus on work ,study ..a right man comes soon..Do you beleive in destiny?

~Break-taking-bitsh~ 59 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (1 hour, 23 minutes after post)

Funny you should ask but yes i do. I believe HE is my destiny. I was in a very painful relationship for five years, went on my own for a while then met the most amazing man in the world. I knew the first day I met him that we were meant for each other. I believe fate brought me to this place to re-evaluate what my life means, what I want. I know the answers to these questions… but I still want him adn want to understand him.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (1 hour, 35 minutes after post)

If you both are meant to be together,he will come back to you,sooner or later.Or maybe someone new is waiting for you? who know? Don`t doubt.. good luck

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How do you cope with the loss of a three year relationship just out of the blue?
He says we’re incompatible, but he is a geologist and pretty much a hippie, likes to hike and be outdoors a lot. I love those things too, but it’s just not clear to me why he would just let go of us like that. He says he still loves me and cares about me and that our bond is still there *just not as strong as it used to be* so why isn’t that enough for him to just try to work this out with me? I still keep having the thoughts of the unhealthy nature rolling through my head. I don’t know what to do. I still love him and want to keep fighting for him, but it hurts so much to fight and still be pushed away…

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An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (2 hours, 46 minutes after post)

Not meaning for this to come out the wrong way, but I used to get his feeling from 2-3 years, where i still cared for the person, but that “clcik” wasnt there any more. REally hard to explain I guess.

Maybe he thought this (if there is) other woman is wow, but from experience, its just the “newness” I hope he realises what he is missing in such a lovely woman as yout self.

~Break-taking-bitsh~ 59 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (2 hours, 50 minutes after post)

That’s just like he told me when we first got together: that everything was all new and hot. Our love life, etc. has always been fair and wonderful. He started working at the airport in the next state over and all of a sudden he started becoming distant to me. He broke up with me 5 days before my birthday. He made me feel so good and now he’s made me feel so horrible. I just want to go home to him and hold each other. It’s tearing my heart out to not be with him…

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