Stupidity help: i have a self harm problem, over stupid idiotic things, yes i am emo, but i dont cut to be emo,if there’s anyone emo here, could they help? - Help.com

Why do you self harm?

im not emo but if you go to your doctor they should be able to help you out.

well, why can’t you get in touch with her if you need her help?

screw a doctor… they suck… i went emo til i met this 1 girl who i met a while back and knew her for years… but she askd me some question i dont remember and the answer was i dont value my life then she cried and said if you kill ur self ill go with you so… i was like 4get that so here i am… thats my interestin story but yea… go meet someone lolz

ok, i’m guessing that the cutting is a copinng strategy, like it is with me. what i’m starting to do now, is when i feel like harming myself, i get a hard boiled sweet and i say to myself, if by the time i’ve finished this sweet i still want to harm myself then i can. this stops me 50% of the time.

you just need to find a different coping strategy, that’s all. next time your social worker is online, try talking to her about it. by the way, how old are you?

does anyone apart from your social worker know?

do you think you could tell her about it so she can help you?

what is there to stop you from telling her? if she can help, wouldn’t it be a good idea to take that opportunity?

is it just that you’re scared or that you just don’t want to tell her? what’s so bad in your life that you’ve tried to commit suicide 6 times?

look, i’m trying to get help for my self harm. i’m going to see a teacher tomorrow. as much as i don’t want to, i know i need to to stop and find other ways of coping. admittedly, a friend is dragging me along because she knows i’ll back out, but for you to solve this problem, you need to talk to your social worker. you do want to stop, right?

Xemoxlauren…I have a brother that is 12 that has starting cutting himself…can you tell me why you do it..Please help me to help him to help you!!! I don’t understand, but I want to so I can help, why would he want to cut his little body and why would you want to do it..Is there that much pain inside….tell me PLEASE!!!!!What kind of pain??

i care! if you don’t want to stop, then no-one can help you. you’ve got to want to stop to solve this, people can’t stop you.

wow lucky you… im in your exct same situation… same age best friend (girl) im a dude and except… everytiem i talk about death she says if i die she will kill her self with me… and she tries to make me look back at times but i see no point in it… shes tried suicide a few times aloong with me but never worked 4 either of us so were just 2 good friends in the same boat… and she dont say i have problems… she says i have issues lolz… but neway dont cut ur self cuz that social worker of urs will feel bad after ur dead cuz she will b like why wasnt i there to stop it… im not a good friend and bla bla bla… but yea shel probably end up killin her self with you beleiving… and if you cant talk 2 her about nethin then thats not a good *social worker* so find sm1 thats real… and kinda feels or has felt the same as you do now… make good friends with them cuz they can actually help you

why do you think you are emo?

ok. i don’t go for labelling because it can hurt people but i guess if you’re fine being called emo then that’s ok.

have you tried other ways of coping other than self harm?

i was only gonna go emo cuz i couldnt find a reason to live lolz… sm1 will snap you out of it 1 day… watch

do you go see a therapist? Maybe you should try that?

am i ok to invite somebody to this post who can give you tips on coping other than self harm?

so your bullied and thats why you do it?

a social worker isn’t quite the same as a therapist. a therapist will be able to help you understand your feelings more.

1. Deep Breathing
2. Challenge my thoughts
3. Write - anything an email, letter, what I’m thinking, just put pen to paper
4. Contact someone (a friend maybe)
5. Meditate
6. Wait 20minutes and see how I feel
7. Run my hands under cold water or hold an ice cube
8. Flick myself with an elastic band
9. A Tapping Technique I learnt at school (explain below)
10. Contact someone else
I’ve got rules to go with these. I just think, it’s too hard to go through all of these if I REALLY wanted to hurt myself so the feeling just goes away. If I didn’t have the 10 steps, then I think I wouldn’t have the strength.

The tapping technique, is I get 2 fingers and tap certain points on my body in a particular order. The first one is my cheek bone, then the bone above my eye, between my nose and top lip, collar bone, a bone under your arm pit near a rib, tip of smallest finger, tip of ring finger, tip of middle finger, tip of pointer finger and on the side of your hand - near smallest finger. If you repeat something over to yourself something such as “I want this feeling to go away” it can help. I hope this hasn’t confused you and it’s hard to explain in words

Just don’t give in, don’t give up. Scream into a pillow, go for a walk, do anything but cut yourself! Honestly, it isn’t worth all of the pain. It only creates more, it doesn’t stop it. Trying to stop all of the drama is by doing something constructive, not by harming yourself. It only makes things worse. I regret every single time I did it. I was so ashamed and embarressed. It’s honestly not worth the pain it can cause…not physical pain,emotional pain.

The therapist and the doctor… they both dont work… they only there for money not help… but neway ur bullied?! go do some martial arts… and how are you bullied and ur emo neway? emos dont have to give up on nothin cuz they have no point in living neway… they get what they want by reckless fighting without having to worry about… “what if i get hurt? what if i die? what if i do this or that or whatever” emos r coo cuz fitin is nothin 4 them

name somtthin that ur bro does to u…