marriage help: The death of my marriage draws near.

crznpch

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The death of my marriage draws near.

I feel so horrible inside. My heart is torn in half. I have fought to get her back & have failed.

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spiritedsoul 4 #
Sandgate, G5, GB | 1 year, 5 months ago (5 minutes after post)

u can;t make someone who doesn’t love you want you.

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rrxapture 1 #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 1 year, 5 months ago (13 minutes after post)

I’m sorry to hear that.
You seem like a nice guy. But people change, and drift. It may hurt now, but it will get better with time. You’ll find another woman even better than the one you have. No worries. Everything will work out. :]

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spiritedsoul 4 #
Sandgate, G5, GB | 1 year, 5 months ago (46 minutes after post)

how come ur online but not answered yet?

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anabanooz 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (54 minutes after post)

Try and have a calm, but very heart-to-heart conversation with her in which you tell her of your fears but that you would really like to try something, anything, to see if there is any chance in making things work out. Try going on a trip with no kids, work, etc. where the two of you can do nothing but focus on your relationship with each other. Or some suggest, completely opposite, take time to yourself still with out the work, kids, and other obligations to focus on how much the relationship means to you and what you can do to revive it. But first step….trying to find a time when she agrees to simply talk to you….and avoid at all costs any finger pointing at that point. Then try small romantic things and talk about the bigger options like the two listed above. Best of luck to you. And I’m sorry for your hurt. It most certainly can be understood.

crznpch 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 hour, 2 minutes after post)

spiritedsoul wrote:
how come ur online but not answered yet?

I am here. I am just tired. Haven’t been eating or sleeping properly for quite some time. I really don’t know what to say or do any longer. I have said everything & done everything I could think of to change her mind.

Read my inital post you will understand a bit more:
http://help.com/post/161815-i-am-not-…

anabanooz wrote:
Try and have a calm, but very heart-to-heart conversation with her in which you tell her of your fears but that you would really like to try something, anything, to see if there is any chance in making things work out. Try going on a trip with no kids, work, etc. where the two of you can do nothing but focus on your relationship with each other. Or some suggest, completely opposite, take time to yourself still with out the work, kids, and other obligations to focus on how much the relationship means to you and what you can do to revive it. But first step….trying to find a time when she agrees to simply talk to you….and avoid at all costs any finger pointing at that point. Then try small romantic things and talk about the bigger options like the two listed above. Best of luck to you. And I’m sorry for your hurt. It most certainly can be understood.

Thank you for your kind words they comfort me.

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crznpch 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 week, 4 days after post)

Sadly it is over. The life that was our marriage is gone forever amemory that will fade & be forgotten.

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anabanooz 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 week, 5 days after post)

crznpch. I’m so sorry to hear that. I guess you can try all different things, and there’s a lot you can try, but then there becomes a point when it’s simply not all up to you. Even if you’d give anything in the world for the marriage doesn’t mean you could necessarily make it happen by yourself. Hang in there. Life can look like it’s almost not worth living right now, but there are better things ahead, I promise. My thoughts and prayers will be with you.

crznpch 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 week, 5 days after post)

anabanooz wrote:
crznpch. I’m so sorry to hear that. I guess you can try all different things, and there’s a lot you can try, but then there becomes a point when it’s simply not all up to you. Even if you’d give anything in the world for the marriage doesn’t mean you could necessarily make it happen by yourself. Hang in there. Life can look like it’s almost not worth living right now, but there are better things ahead, I promise. My thoughts and prayers will be with you.

Thank you so much!

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