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Before anyone else can love you got to love yourself confidence is very attractive if you make more of an effort to focus on what you like about yourself than maybe things will get better.

well my little friend you have to build self confidence first, thats the main point that will take you far away in life. Everybody have their own moments and yours bout to come soon as you ready to enjoy it. Probably you are little fat as you said but that does not make you less; you value is more that any treasure around the world. But you are the only one that knows that, you friend can be all popular but if she choose you as her best friend is because you are a great person, and in the end thats all that matter.

*Hugs* Hang in there! There are a few things that one could do, but the beginning always starts with this question:

There is a reason why you and your friend are friends; friends often are attracted to spend time with each other because they find something compelling in the other’s personality that is a great comfort or support for them (even if its not obvious or if they’re too proud to admit it). Why is your friend friends with you if you already dont have a great personality?

Ask your friends and your family what they like about you and list them on a piece of paper. Then look at it and note how long it is. See how many people have said great things about you? There’s nothing wrong about you, you are beautiful, girl!! And there are many types of beauty in life.

Also…

I’m 21 and I can still remember how stupid and mean guys some times can be at 13, 15, 17, heck…20! *rolls eyes* They’re jerkier and more stereotyped when young….You already have a wonderful personality and, while I know you probably dont want to hear this….in the end, to get along with guys well, for a long long, long time, they have to respect you for your personality! Not your looks….it doesnt work that way when you’re “cool” adults.

So, if they dont notice you and just notice your friend– its not because you aren’t good enouch. Its because they dont realize a great girl when they’re looking at her– yet.