girl help: I’m asexual!

ecki.ecki.bor

I’m asexual!

Alright, who thinks I’m being a presumptuous young lady who hasn’t had enough experiance yet? That’s what my ex told me - that I’d grow into it, that someday I’ll have the urge. But hey, I’m almost 20. And the thought of sex is worse than the thought of eating head cheese, and believe me, that’s bad. I appreciate what it does for a lot of people - I’ve listened to people talk about deep emotional connection and such, and it all sounds great, buuuut I’d like to think there are other ways of connecting deeply with a loved one? And how am I ever supposed to find a male partner who will respect my asexuality, if I continue being this way? Because I would like a partner. But not a sexual partner!

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jody4_lif 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

Well there’s nothing wrong with that if you want to be asexual just find a partner that accepts this and that would be someone who cares about you. Did you and your partner talk things through? Maybe you need to sort out the fear or whatever you have aganist sex.

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ecki.ecki.bor 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

Yes, we talked about things extensively. Weeellll, extensively, but I didn’t come out and SAY to him, I’m asexual. I didn’t tell him because he would take that very personally and think that I thought he wasn’t good enough for me. He’d take that as an insult to himself. And I’m not just guessing - he actually said that once, or something like that - he said that if things didn’t escalate sexually, he’d be ok with it (which he wouldn’t be) but he’d be insulted. Truth is I just don’t like the idea, or the risks or pain that can come with it. I’ll bet if I was a guy I’d have no such problem. But, yes - hopefully, if I’m always like this, I can find a partner who can respect that.

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essence 46 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

Lol i thought i was the only person who thought this. I always use to say i think im asexual then it went to i think i want to become a nun. People around me make me view sex as a bad thing. They date for a short time then have sex then say they are in love. To me love have to come first and i havent found love yet so thats why im holding off or waiting i guess. And im content with that. And yes like jody4_lif said find a partner who will respect your views or agree with them. Some guys might not mind waiting. Even though i havent found one yet but then again i havent been looking lol.

And to be honest i dont really like the idea or like the risks and pain that comes along with it. So i know where you are coming from.

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Fire 43 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)

… … this is an odd topic for me to talk about… but… err… ummm…. how can i say this…

well, you surely dont need to answer, but, i am just struck by the wondering of….

if you think sex is not for you because of the risk, etc, and other factors, what do you think about … masturbation?

its so not in my character to ask these things…

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chunsa 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (3 days, 10 hours after post)

Hmm, I know this is kind of personal, but have you had any sexual abuse in your past? If there is, it might be affecting your present and you should talk to a therapist about the matter. If not, there is nothing wrong with that. Explore your own body when you’re ready, and have sex when you’re ready. There is no point in rushing things. Just make this extremely clear to whom you date and don’t despair if you don’t find a partner right away. There’s nothing wrong with having intimate best friends you know? (Not intimate in a sexual way, but intimate as in being very close to a person).

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 month, 2 weeks after post)

Sex is an abomination. To obsess over physical pleasure to that level and use it like a drug is just disgusting beyond words. It’s materialism to an obscene level. Sanity is lost in the pursuit of it and the abandonment during it. People let it warp them and shape their identity, define themselves by it. It creates sexism.

In short to embrace sex is to forsake higher reason, independence, and the opportunity to define yourself rather than be defined, all for the sake of physical pleasure.

What could be more vile I ask?

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