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Been there, know that you’re hurting. There’s really no solution except for time to make things better. I don’t know what you’ve been doing lately, but the best temperary (maybe permanently!) advice I can think of would be to date other girls.

i had a hard time getting over my first love too. the good news is, you will learn so much about yourself once you get through this. what helped me to get over my first true love was deciding to do something for me–doing an activity that i loved and felt proud of. after breaking up with my first true love, a guy i almost married after 2 1/2 years of dating, i tried out for my college cheerleading team. as a former gymnast, i was able to find a new use for my tumbling skills, and i focused on learning new things that i loved. i also started focusing on my future–the things i could be and do with my education. it was only when i started concentrating on myself that i realized that i could do anything! its so hard to believe that you can get over someone and that you really will find someone so much better. but when you have a little faith and then make it a point to set goals in other areas of your life, then meeting those goals encourages you in your healing. i still cried at night and it was hard, but eventually it got easier and just when i didn’t expect to meet anyone new and didn’t care to because i was so focused on school and cheerleading, i ended up meeting an awesome guy. we’ve been dating for six months now and laugh about how neither of us expected to find eachother when we did. (he had had a similarly hard breakup from a 3 year relationship). the best part is, he’s so much better than the last guy i dated!

First love is always hard to forget, i am still remember that when i first break up with my first girlfreind, i cry secrectly in my room everyday.
But time will heal, i am fine now, there are tons of girls out there waiting for us!Let the love go happily, and then you will find the love happily, again.
Relax, breath in and smile when you see her, don’t feel awkward.
Again, time would heal.

You’ll get through it. You’ll be fine eventually. Try to keep yourself busy by hanging out with your friends. Coming back home and trying to sleep might bring bring you back down, but try to bare it for a few days or maybe a little over a week.

It is not the only love in your life, really! Start a new life right now! Be more socilazed!

might bring you back down*

“They spoil every romance by trying to make it last forever.” Just thought I’d add that here.

How old are you?

I see the reason why, you got it too late and keep it too long. You might think it is the only true love in your life, but trust me, there is no true love! Really, it is time to find another girl!

Must be tough. I don’t think you should go looking for another girl just yet. Just go socialize, meet new friends, try to do something with your life because before you know it you’ll be at work supporting a wife and 2 kids.

At least your feeling for her were true. I’m proud to met someone as pure hearted as you. I’m sure you’ll find someone you’ll want to be with even more.

Well if thats the reason, if I were you I’d run out my house now and find her, climb up the tree to her window if you have to and tell her how you feel.

time heals all wounds

Then go try until you’ve gotten your final answer. Seems to me you actually are giving up without a fight. If she feels that you didn’t love her as you should have, then go get your second chance and make it right.

give it more time then. Keep living your life, go out and socialize. I’m sure you’ll get over her even though it will take some time.

but who knows really? Maybe you can get a second chance with her

bye

I recommend not thinking about her since that seems to be the root of the problem. Try thinking about someone else instead.

I know exactly how you feel. I can’t stop thinking about my ex, and what kind of advice is that anon? He CAN’T!