life help: Triumph over a break-up! - Help.com

Thank you!

Thank you everybody and of course, thank you FIZZ! You definitely were there for me. I like being so amazed by the kindness of “strangers”! It gives me hope for the Human race! ^_^

Dug and anothernikki…you guys hang in there. IT WILL GET BETTER! And at the time you hear that in the midle of your gloom, you doubt it…but hang on, it does! It will NOT be easy…and sorry to say…you just must suffer through it. But! Once you reach that horizon…you’ve made it and you will know it!!! Know that you will feel empowered by not letting a break up, break you down.

There are some amazing people on this site and if you have friends and family to help you through, fear not! You will heal! Why must we be defined by a intimate relationship? Why must our happiness hang in the balance depending on the sucess or failure of that one relationship? Can we not be happy by ourselves? If not…then you will not be happy with anybody else. One should never be so dependant upon another.

Excuse my rambling…I’m conquering a summer cold right now and a little loopy from lack of restful sleep! But again…Thank you so much everybody!!!

~lilies~ If you are going through something tough in your life right now, what I can tell you is that all you have to do is not be defeated by it. Know that along with hard times, there WILL be suffering…that’s why they’re called hard times! But, suffering is temporary…so long as you don’t let it consume you. Don’t wallow in the misery. Brace yourself as you would walking out into a bitter storm. You can do this by keeping busy, finding a new hobby, taking comfort in friends, family and even talking about it on here! This way, you can help yourself deflect some of that rain, hail, snow or in human emotion terms…sadness, rejection or fear. I wish you all the best and I thank everybody for their responses! I hope I can help some of you!

Thank you everybody! 2greeneyes…I’m so happy to hear that your helping me has made YOU feel great! As well you should, you were a voice of encouragement, reason and strength that I so desperately needed at that time! So, how’s that for reciprocity?! ^_^ It’s a cycle good all the way around! May your life be filled with happiness, success, satisfaction and tons of fun!!!

In admiration,

desdinova

Thank you Fizz, I am normally silly and giddy! ^_^ I’m so glad to be back!!! Thank you guys!!! Thank you so much for this liberation! Your words and encouragement were voices of reason for me. And, believe me, I really went through them in my mind and sat here and read them from my first statement (it wasn’t really a post…and I never expected to get such support!) all the way down to the end. You can see the progression. I opened up more and you guys helped me talk it out and put it in perspective! You guys are amazing people!!! I absolutely adore you guys!!! Thank you so much! Now…enough about me, I’m fine! I want to help others…onward and upward!

I JUST THOUGHT OF SOMETHING!!!

I did not make this post to gloat. I made this post in honor off the wonderful people here who helped me get through it! I wanted to let them know that their selfless efforts helped me “Triumph” past my break-up which was so devastating to me.

But I was thinking that anybody who happened along and didn’t know the full story, may think I’m a pompous a$$ rubbing my success in other broken hearted people’s faces!!! That certainly IS NOT AND NEVER WILL BE the case!!! Just wanted to clarify that! Thank you for understanding!!! ^_^

…”in honor of”…I hate misspelling!!! ^_^

Thank you Michael and Fizz…I just had to make sure and put that here. Sometimes things can be misconstrued…and that wouldn’t be their fault. I just felt I needed to clarify! ^_^ Peace, love and happiness!

Thank YOU cattail! You were really the first respondant of my golden 4! ^_^ I hope YOU feel warm fuzzies for being such a genuinely caring and admirable person who helped someone feeling as low as the scum at the bottom of Mariana’s Trench! Who, thanks to you and the other jewels on this site, now soars with eyes on a new horizon. I just can’t thank you enough! I’m excited about my future now, not scared or fearful of it anymore. That was a very sinking feeling. But you guys didn’t let me keep those negative thoughts. And if I didn’t have your support, my recovery would have been delayed and incomplete. It would have been too hard to think all these thoughts without the perspective of supporting, caring people like you! *hugs* Thank you so much!!!

2greeneyes, I WANT you to get that feeling out of this! You DID help me!!! You deserve to feel proud of yourself and feel satisfaction knowing that you helped a random person keep from going under and crumbling. Every time I got a notice that there was a response on my post, it let me know that you guys were thinking about me and wishing me well. Then to read the kindness and heart-felt encouragement coming from you guys…well, that just kept me going and I would think, “Yeah! She’s right! Okay, I can do this!” You’re awesome, all of you are awesome!!! And, if I was anywhere near where you guys lived, I would buy all of you lunch and give you big hugs!!! Thank you so much for helping me! Your names are etched in my heart forever!

It was definitely more than you guys just saying the right things, you were there for me! I just can’t express how much that means to me and how much it helped me through! I guess because I’m older (turned 34 on May 20th) have had a lot of life experience and have my kids, I knew I had to try and overcome it. But, it was very painful and shocking and the prospect losing it was very scary. You guys were there for me, I had my own personal cheering section! What an honor!

Chev! Glad to see you back on here! You were one of my voices of light and reason, I’m eternally grateful to you for that! Thank you so much!!!

Love, admiration and respect to all of you!