marriage help: I’m going to have a nervous breakdown!

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I’m going to have a nervous breakdown!

My husband works really hard during the week. But on the weekends he does whatever he wants, and leaves me home with the baby. I just need a break every once in a while. I deserve it. I work just as hard as he does, I’m just raising a baby instead. I’m starting to feel like a single parent. Again, I’m giving him credit for being a hard worker, but he needs to compromise. Yay! I got to vent!!!

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Breaking The Silence 2 #
Fort Lauderdale, FL, US | 4 years, 11 months ago (1 minute after post)

yeaaaaaaaaaaa, I dunno babies make life tough, and compromise is a must, so maybe you should tell him you would like a weekend to yourself once a month or get a baby sitter?

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SoulRising 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 11 months ago (3 minutes after post)

Next Saturday or Sunday morning get up bright and early and leave hubby with the baby to deal with, he will apreciate you more when you get home:)

This is assuming he is responsible:)

Breaking The Silence 2 #
Fort Lauderdale, FL, US | 4 years, 11 months ago (3 minutes after post)

I dont know, that could turn around on her.

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Soldier 4 you 4 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 11 months ago (7 minutes after post)

Why dont you guys go out together with the baby as well. And if you cant because your going to a club or something take turns i think thats fair.

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SELK 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 11 months ago (30 minutes after post)

Compromise. Have him watch the baby one weekend night while you go out and he can go out the next weekend night. Stick to a schedule. Or if you can afford a babysitter you can go out together one night a week.

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An Unknown Location | 4 years, 11 months ago (45 minutes after post)

for me it works like this, tell him you need a break and go out with your friends or family one next friday night, be strong about it, people in realtionships always work there side hard, you should do to, if he loves you he should understand, and after this also leave the baby with a sitter or family and also go for while night with him, taking care of a baby is also hard work so you should also get some time for yourself but it wont happens if you don’t fight to get it

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mr. anderson 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 11 months ago (1 hour, 22 minutes after post)

he brings in the money…..could you live without that?

2greeneyes 2 #
Midvale, UT, US | 4 years, 11 months ago (2 hours, 21 minutes after post)

He should be giving this baby, his time to bond. Doesn’t he want a close relationship with his child? It will be harder to get away if your baby is use to you being the sole caretaker. You will feel trapped and dealing with a crying child everytime you leave. I would go skiing with friends or the library, lunch. You just have to do it for yourself and them.

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vafric 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 11 months ago (3 hours, 33 minutes after post)

Mr. Anderson- with all do respect, just because he brings home a paycheck doesn’t mean that his job is more important than mine. And for your information I am only 27 years old and I will be getting a spinal fusion next month. Therefore, it makes my job that much harder and tiring for me. It is so hard to be picking up a baby all day when I am in so much pain. If I didnt need surgery, I would be working and bringing home a paycheck myself plus raising our wonderful baby. So yes we can’t live without money- but there’s a difference in this whole thing- my husband gets days off, where I don’t. Again I deserve 1 day off- I work just as hard as he does.

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An Unknown Location | 4 years, 11 months ago (15 hours, 26 minutes after post)

vafric wrote:
Mr. Anderson- with all do respect, just because he brings home a paycheck doesn’t mean that his job is more important than mine. And for your information I am only 27 years old and I will be getting a spinal fusion next month. Therefore, it makes my job that much harder and tiring for me. It is so hard to be picking up a baby all day when I am in so much pain. If I didnt need surgery, I would be working and bringing home a paycheck myself plus raising our wonderful baby. So yes we can’t live without money- but there’s a difference in this whole thing- my husband gets days off, where I don’t. Again I deserve 1 day off- I work just as hard as he does.

With all due respect, your man needs to get of his A$$ and take care of his woman, before he goes out to party. As you said your job is no less as important as his, and your not less important than him. He needs to step it up as a husband and a father. Sorry if this is insulting in anyway, i just hate to see people being neglected by their partners. Its sad because truly you guys created something out of your love and bond together, but it seems one of you (him) derailed off that course. Bring his A$$ back in and let him know that you are also important! My thoughts -tony

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An Unknown Location | 3 years, 4 months ago (1 year, 6 months after post)

this is the same argument i have with my fiancee… i go to work, she stays at home, i expect her to do chores as well as looking after the baby… she wants to split the chores down the middle, which isnt fair in my book… i work 40 hours a week or more, she should work 40 hours a week… and imho looking after a child for 40 straight hours does not equal 40 hours at a job where you are supposed to be productive… children, even babies, are easy to look after…

but then i do look after mine, give her days off, help with him if im home…

but mostly its just “im going out tomorrow, so you have your son all day” and i get told the night before… granted im usually like “wtf! oh whatever, just make sure hes changed and fed before you go”

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