friends help: my girlfriend just told me she’s bulimic - Help.com

Learn to accept people, not change them.

Your’e her friend, not her parent.

You can express to her that you sincerly discourage her from being balemic and argue your case like a world case lawyer, but in the end, let HER decide.

It’s hard to watch people your close to go down a track that isn’t favourable, but sometimes you need to just accept it and if you can’t, then maybe you need to re-evaluate your status as “best friend”

first off, its called bulimic (bulimia nervosa)
second off, i appreciate you trying to give advice about this autumn, but what you said is reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaalllllllllllllllyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy not what you want to do. most ppl dont realise how detrimental bulimia is to a person’s health. it could even leed to death if it is chronic bulimia.

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/bulim…

try to support your friend and help her to quit slowly. im sure you didn’t stop smoking pot all at once, and she will need to stop her bulimia in stages too. support her and if she doesnt stop threaten to leave her. i think that may give her a motive to stop. hope this has helped

well its pretty awesome that she told you in the first place. Bulimia and other eating disorders operate on secrecy. if no one knows, they can continue.
so for her to voluntarily come to you means she has so much trust in you.
and it means she wants help.
Bulimia operates on low self esteem. she views herself as fat, grotesque and unworthy of food. the best thing you can do is really really really try and convince her to get some professional help. Eating disorders require quite specific treatment that professionals know how to administer.
second to that you can encourage her to heal, and be supportive of her.
dont use bargains like the pot-thats not helpful to either of you. she needs to find out her selfworth and heal that way, not be forced into a corner.

dont threaten to do pot, but you need to get her to stop somehow though

tell her every day how beautiful you think she is and how much you like/love her dont threaten her it will only upset her just try to help her when you guys go out or even when you eat make sure she doesn’t go to the bath room afterward after you guys eat do something before she get a chance to go to the bathroom tell her how much she means to you its all you can do

I have read responses, I liked what “courtybubble” said.
I am quite a nice girl, but I have had bulimia for a period. She needs help, and if youcan stand this - you will probably save her life.

My personal advice: before talking to her, look through the sites about bulimia, and read other peroples comments. Iy may help you understand her better without asking too much uncomfortable questions…

make sure theyre not proana sites though

Give her the same threat Pot smoking is pretty much harmless but bulimia is very unhealthy and can be deadly. Tell her if she refuses to get help you’ll leave her. Since she had to tell you maybe learn about the symptoms
http://www.eatingdisordersonline.com/…
has a list of the telltale signs.