This post left anonymously
im so jealous of my girlfriends past sexual relationships.i
fear its going to ruin us and i really dont want it to.shes my first love, but im not hers. its breaking my heart that im being so unreasonable and un-rational. i need help
Since writing this post Anonymous may have helped people, but has not within the last 4 days.
Post Tags (11)
She’s with you now.
Don’t be jealous of that.
You’re the one that gets to have sexual relations with her.
You do it, if she loves you, she won’t mind.
You learn, and keep on.
It’ll get better, it’s fine.
i have to say im in the same boat, my boyfriend is my first love and im jealous of his past relationships to the point it has me in tears and i dont know how to get over it
I’m in the same position as you. This girl I’m with isn’t my first relationship, but it’s my first real serious one and I think I love her. But I feel that when we’re together she doesn’t really love me because she’s been in so many relationships like this. Also I’m a virgin, and she’s had sex A LOT. It’s breaking me up inside, and I actually got so crazy today I started cutting myself. I wish I could help you out, but I don’t have the answer either.
I feel the same my boyfriend is my first love and his was someone else. I get so jealous thinking about them and cry myself to sleep all the time about it. Just the other night we got into a fight about it. Nothing seems to make it better. If you haven’t givin yourself to her DON’T do it. You will regret it forever.
im passing trough the same problems. I’m jealous about my girlfriend’s past , sometimes i also think to commit suicide. But i know that’s not the answer ! Any pschologist or anything who can help ? I’m in serious sress , problems and many more , my brain is splashed !
trust and communication people…..best advice
leave her….thats the best you can do… she doesnt deserve someone who is clean and pure… you belong to another girl just like you….
oy, same problem here my girlfriend wont suck my **** because its “icky” but lst year before we met she sucked some random guys **** at a party, who she didnteven know for very long, wasnt even dating….and also she and like 3 other girls at a different party flashed this one guy in a room and that just ills me idk why. just knowing that some guy all he had to do was go to a party with her to get the same treatment as me (and more) just rips me up. someone reply with @AJ PLEASE
I can relate to your situation. I’m currently with my first girlfriend, and she has had many boyfriends before. At first, this really bothered me for some reason–and it is not completely irrational. Back in most of the 20th century, it was common for women to have one partner, maybe 2, and that was it–it meant you were the one. Nowadays it’s common for girls to have 20 or even 30 past relationships before she dates you. It’s a discomforting thought.
Things go through your head like “Has she had better sex?” or “Do I even please her sexually”, “Does she still have feelings for someone else?”, “If she doesn’t have feelings for someone else, are the feelings she once had for him, stronger than the feelings she now has for me?” and all sorts of crazy stuff. It’s funny how creative your mind can be in these situations.
It’s a tough thing to have running around in your head, and it makes your heart feel like cold chicken. The thing is, you obviously recognize that you are being irrational, which is the first step to making this better. So high five–you’re on the right track.
Talk about it with her–but in a sober way. Don’t get riled up, or make any upset statements or accusations. Simply tell her that you feel uncomfortable or insecure about this situation, and you realize that it is irrational, and you want to take steps to making feeling comfortable with it. And then actually take those steps–that’s the most important thing.
When she says she loves you, or cares for you, listen to her when she says that. It’s important. Relax your muscles, stretch your back, and tell her how you feel. And try to understand everything she says in reply. Be open to it, because if she’s willing to do this with you, it means you are special to her.
Once you do start taking steps to feel better about it, it will help grow your place in her heart. Women admire men who realize their mistakes, and take initiative to make it better. All of a sudden, you’ll not only find yourself comfortable with the situation, but in an even better situation :)
Trust that she cares about you. Trust that she wants to be with you. I have been there, and I have grown above it. The rewards are plentiful, and I know you can do it :)
I’m in the same situation, i’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year now and he was my first to do anything sexual with. The thing is he has had sex and done other stuff like that before me… it’s driving me nuts. All i can think about are the other girls. I cry. I can’t do anything sexual because its bugging me so much. I was waiting for someone really special but obviously he wasn’t. I love him, what do i do? I’m killing our relationship.
In my life,I always expected a girl who was desent and pure just like me. But unfortunely,Im in love with my girlfriend who has done it 10 times or more and oral sex too. Bad enouph to know she sucked another guys ••••• everytime I kiss her,I want to lose my virginty to her knowing I’m her 12th nd she’s my first. I want her to experience the same feeling I would feel but sadly she can’t. We get into many arguements because I get pissed everytime those stuff I’ve been supressing comes back and I could imagine her having sex with another guy and it gets me so jealous. I know how you feel,but breaking up with her that’s not her fault seems irrational,something that she didn’t do and can’t change. I try to accept it and instead of saying I’m not her first…I say that I’m her last :)
Maybe after all those meaningless experiences she’s still looking for her fairytale. Maybe she thought they were it. Maybe this is it. Thats far more impressionable.
mostly the same problem here. i know people will mostly have a past as i have my own. i’ve been in a relationship with my present gf for over 6 months now and it was a super high at first, things have’d slowed down now but i love her. so now lets add the story. so i’d had a slight crush on this girl for a couple of years, (she lived in the same town as me (but started high school the year after i graduated). well somehow one thing lead to another and i met her out one even at the club. we kissed, the night ended and we decided to go to a concert the following week (DMB) i was DD and she had some to drink but quit about midway through the concert. we waited for people to clear the parking lot before we left and got a late snack. i went back to her place (it was an hour drive home for me and already 1-2am) and started to go to sleep. nervous as i was, we started to have sex and i stopped and grabbed a condom. i head home the next day and she calls me later the next night and says that we needed to talk. this immediately frightened me as it should. so after a long talk she tells me she has herpes, had an abortion (at the age of 14-15) and used to cut herself. i myself let her know that on a drunken night as i was passed out that another guy sucked my **** (not one of the happiest moments in my life. so we both got the deep secrets off at the very beginning of what ended up being a relationship. but started to wonder why she never told me she had herpes before we had sex that first time. then after a month or so we both got drunk as had unprotected sex and a then contracted herpes. we approximately another month later i decided (since she went to the same high school that i did) to ask her previous partners. (mistake first and formost) well i found out and actually did a lot better than i thought i would. sometime after this i decided that i loved her. but the other evening on a drunking night i brought up something of a sexually question and something came out about past people again. and found out she didn’t tell me everyone. while in high school she had sex with 7 people.and then 4 afterwards including me. one of which was my roommate for a year in college but after high school one guy was a guy she dated for 3 years and for some reason that one doesn’t bother me for that, though she is now really good friends with him and that bothers me and he was not a good influence on her life either (he did cocaine and pills in which she decided to also do) which lead her to the other 2 guys after high school while her and the long term boyfriend had broken up. the 2nd guy was the guy she contracted herpes from. after that she came back to the long term boyfriend and then they final ended it and me and her started dating. so i know it shouldn’t say bother me about her past but it does for 4 reasons.
1st because i had to meet her after she got herpes from the douchebag and the other
guys didn’t have too
2nd - because she lied to me the first time i asked her about her past. though there could have been a miss-communication
3rd - i praticially know all the guys of her past due to the fact they went to my high school and the only one outside my high school gave her herpes.
4th - i’m bothered by the fact that knowingly i have herpes and that if something were to go south with this relationship i have to take it with me to my next and i don’t know if i could/can handle the factor that i would have to bring that with me
now i know her past had crappy family life with real and step dad and if i had to go through was she did with that i don’t now where i’d be in life. i know that if i had have more chances i would have had more sexually chances. i know that i didn’t try enough (maybe subconsciously did that purposely) i’m thinking about discussing the option of no longer having sex until later down the road to examine things without sex being in the picture.
i had the same problem with my girfriend. she told me about her sex life and i couldn’t stop thinking about it and it hurts . Now im getting over it though u just need to think YOU have your partner now not them , they should be jealous of what u got . They might of thought it was the right thing to do at te time but things h ave changed . if they wanted to be with some1 from their past relationships you wouldn’t be with them. whats in the past is in the past . every1 deserves a mistake if they love you it doesn’t matter abut the past
yeah the past is the past …. right
If I robbed from a shop and got a criminal record, you think I would get a job without people judging my past.
Only people that say past is the past are the hoes
Well I think everyone who has replied here is proving that when u love someone u feel like… ownership. And when u feel ownership u feel… jealouusy. And the jealous comes from the though that U WEREN’T THERE. The bad feeling that u came second.. or third.. or 20th. But to all the dudes in here, I really feel u. I’ve been with my girl for 6 months now and one day a few months ago I asked her to tell me everything she’s done with a guy. The thing is when she did all this stuff.. I knew her. She was in love with me and had a huge thing for me. But I never liked her in that was, just as a friend. I’ve been having girls throw themselves at me since I was 13 when I lost my virginity. Now… when my girl tells me she was at a concert one day (cochella) some random guy leaned in to kiss her and they made out the whole show. The thought of her letting some random guy kiss her for half an hour makes me so sick I can’t even kiss her. (That’s the “u weren’t there” feeling.” Everytime I wana kiss her I think about that and just kiss her cheek. Next, this random guy who she hadn’t even met started texting her and asked her to come over to “watch a movie” so when she goes over to his place to meet him for the first time, he’s making out with her within 5 minutes. And he asks her if she’s down to go to his room and he takes off her shirt. Picturing another guy take her shirt off makes me sick. But she didn’t do anything with him. She left right after her shirt was off. But the though that she went back a second day, knowing what this dude wanted, and was down to kiss him again makes me sicker. Now, I want to say this. I was her first finger, first oral, first sex, first nudity. And I was and am her ONLY of all the things. She’s never had a real bf and I’m her first and only everything. I’ve taken 6 girls virginities and had sex with 4 otber girls other than them. Girls love me. YET the though that my girl kissed other guys, even if they were strangers, makes me want to die. Why? Cos i love her. And love leads to the feeling of ownership. Even their past. Like “why not me??” And ownsership leads to jealousy. My advice to all us guys is this. If she’s right, we’lll get wayy over all of this. If we can’t, whatever. She’s not the girl were gonna marry. There’s billions of other girls we can try again with, and maybe next time, if there is one, not ask about their past? If anyone wants to talk to me more bout this my email is i> small>(email removed) /small> /i>
Good luck fellas! And stay up! :D
Well I think everyone who has replied here is proving that when u love someone u feel like… ownership. And when u feel ownership u feel… jealouusy when u arent or werent involved. And the jealousy comes through the thought that U WEREN’T THERE. The bad feeling that u came second.. or third.. or 20th. But to all the dudes in here, I really feel u. I’ve been with my girl for 6 months now and one day a few months ago I asked her to tell me everything she’s done with a guy. The thing is when she did all this stuff.. I knew her. She was in love with me and had a huge thing for me. But I never liked her in that way, just as a friend. And every girl who i ever wanted as just a friend has fallen for me. Tbh, I’ve been having girls throw themselves at me since I was 13 when I lost my virginity. Now… when my girl tells me she was at a concert one day (cochella) some random guy leaned in to kiss her and they made out the whole show. The thought of her letting some random guy kiss her for half an hour makes me so sick I can’t even kiss her. (That’s the “u weren’t there” feeling.) Everytime I wana kiss her I think about that and just kiss her cheek. Next, this random guy who she hadn’t even met started texting her and asked her to come over to “watch a movie” so when she goes over to his place to meet him for the first time, he’s making out with her within 5 minutes. And he asks her if she’s down to go to his room and he takes off her shirt. Picturing another guy take her shirt off makes me sick. But she didn’t do anything with him. She left right after her shirt was off. I actually know him, and they both told me the same thing. But the thought that she went back a second day, knowing what this dude wanted, and was down to kiss him again makes me sicker. Now, I want to say this. I was her first finger, first oral, first sex, first nudity. And I was and am her ONLY of all the things. She’s never had a real bf and I’m her first and only everything. I’ve taken 6 girls virginities and had sex with 4 more girls other than them. Girls love me and are down to do anything with me. YET the thought that my girl kissed other guys, especially if they were strangers, makes me want to die. Why? Cos i love her. And love leads to the feeling of ownership. Even their past. Like “why not me??” And ownsership leads to jealousy. My advice to all us guys is this. If she’s right, we’lll get wayy over all of this. We’ll have to, cos its fate. And If we can’t, whatever. She’s not the girl were gonna marry. Lets build our own past. Im not saying try and have sex with every girl possible, but dont sell urself short, especially if she doesnt deserve u. GIRLS THAT GIVE IT UP TO JUST ANYONE ARE THE INSECURE ONES, AND IF FEELING SPECIAL AND SECURE MEANS NOT STOPPING RANDOM GUYS WHEN THEY TRY TO KISS OR HAVE SEX WITH THEM, THEYLL DO IT. There’s billions of other girls we can try again with, and maybe next time, if there is one, not ask about their past? If anyone wants to talk to me more bout this im down, this problem is tearing up my relationship and more importantly, me. my email is i> small>(email removed) /small> /i>
Good luck fellas! And stay up! :D
oh man, so many people are on the same boat as me.
good to know i’m not the only one. but yeah idk i try
to think to myself that i’m the one who has her now.
and no one else. the past doesnt matter etc.. and yeah
it does break you on the inside. i feel like telling
my gf in her face that she’s a total ****. maybe that’s
how i’ll stop suffocating. but that’s mean. hehe
I’ve found the perfect girl and she’s into me. I’m ecstatic and I know I should be content and leave it there, but she mentions a lot of the sexual experiences she’s had in the past and it makes me uber jealous. I’m afraid to ask her how many guys she’s been with, it doesn’t even matter anyway, I know. I hate this ****** feeling, thinking about all the other guys and Douche-Bags that have been on top of the girl that I truly admire and care for. I’m just another notch in her belt, doesn’t make me feel too good you know? It’s the mental image more than anything that bothers me, someone else humpin away at my darlin. It hasnt affected our relationship in any way, I never bring it up. I just would like to be exceptional in a sexual way.
Any-hoo, i’m probably preaching to the choir.
I have the same feeling when my boyfriend tells me about his past relationships, makes me want to cry because he was my first and I wasn’t his. We’ve been together for 7 months and it still bothers me to know what he did with other girls in the past I can’t get over the fact he had sexual relationships with others before me and it makes me thing he doesn’t consider it special when we make love and that saddens me but he tells me I’m the only girl he has ever loved and the others was because he was young and stupid. I am trying really hard to get over that; he is helping me with that. He is always reminding me that the past is in the past and there is a reason why they are not in his future BECAUSE OF ME :)
Just think that person is with you now and not them.
I like what someone said earlier in the thread;; “I’m not the first, but I’m the last” & I would like to add “…the last && THE BEST!” ;)
This is exactly the same for me, my girlfriend had a relationship of a year in which she lost her virginity, the guy was a prick and cheated on her with sex and kisses, she believed him when he said he didnt, i was a virgin up until 3 months ago when we had sex for the first time, it was amazing, we have had sex 5 times now and everytime is it just as special,
i am just jealous of my guy who took her virginity, this girl is my dream girl, i wouldnt want sex with anybody else, and we connect on a spiritual level as well as a physical one, When i think in bed at night, i always think about what we have, and i have done for the past 6 months (since i asked her out) i am in love with her and i know she is with me, but i just get a thought of her losing her virginity and it tears me apart, i never cry normally, even when people die, but thinking about this brings tears to my eyes.
She is not a reformed slag or ****, she just lost it to a guy who didnt care about her and treated her like dirt, a way in which i wouldnt dream of treating her. i have had many relationships before her, but none of them went anywhere, i thought i was in love twice before but i now know what love is.
writing this has actually helped me out alot because i know how well suited we are for each other, i shouldnt be jealous, when i read emopanda21’s post saying try to accept it and instead of saying I’m not her first…I say that I’m her last,
That really connected with me because i feel i can be her last, and she can be mine.
It would seam that this is not so rare as I thought. I have had this problem for years. my first real relationship had slept with alot of people. I remember after the first 3 months of being together I could name over 40 people he had slept with, at the time I had slept with few and in truth still have. I am a gay lad and unfortunatly due to people feeling that they are unable to come out (especially in the latin european countries) they simply sleep around. Over time I learnt to deal with my partners ex male partners, but how ever I found it hard to deal with his ex female sexual partners. I found and find it still hard to understand how a gay man can preform a sexual act with a person who he is completely unattracted too. This was something I never dealt with when I was with him and something he just told me to **** off about. After 4 years we broke up and since I have met one of the kindest people and loving people I could imagine, yet my problems with the past still come back and much worse. My presnt partner is gay yet had a relationship with a girl for 3 years and had a few one night stands with other girls. I find this impossible.Its kills me that even when he realised he was gay he continued to do this. due much to pleasing his family. It is strange because logically it doesnt matter,. He loves me like nooner has ever done, as do I him. Yet it is eating me alinve. I spend half the time feeling sick and the rest in a panc and wanting to cry. It doesnt help that he is in spain and I in England.
One thing I must say to you though (person who first wrote this). It does get better with time, and confronting it has helped alot. I have just actually confronted it abit since writing this email. However I must say that my partner is a great lad and helps me alot, my ex just made things alot worse. Is there another forum where everyone can talk about this problem? please could someone letme know
i> small>(email removed) /small> /i>
yeah im going through the same thing almost, my girlfriend and her ex are together at collage and they have the same friends from high school so they’r together alot. He made advances to her in the first few months we started dating and we have been dating for a year and 5 months now and i recently saw them posing and kissing on a pic on facebook. I realy love this girl, she’s my first real serious gf and i cant imagn a life without her anymore what do i do plz help
WEll this is my story: I have been with my partner for nearly 2 years, I love this Girl so much. She does more than what any girl has done for me in my life (unsexually speaking). She truly is the perfect person for me, She is the most beautifull girl I’v been with, She is the best cook in town, we live together my house is tiedy and the food is always on the table ready when i get bk from work. When she smiles at me I nearly faint at how stunning I think she is. She covers up tottaly and doesent display her naturall ornaments (bum and breasts etc…) her clothing is baggy and she is sweet and concealed and hounarable. She loves me and I love her and wear young adults married.
I have never herd her swear for all the 3 years I’v known her apart from one mild word. She is straitforward no mind games or anything like that. sweet loving and caring.
But the problem is shes been with 10 guys sexually before me and it crushes me. I have what any man would die for but yet I cannot be happy because of knowing that other guys have experienced my love. that feeling of lust between her and other guys destroys my resolve to live sometimes!
Strangly shes not my first infact shes not even my tenth so why do I still feel like this?
I have been with beautifull girls from many diffrent contries, I have had experiences that many guys want. I have had beautifull girls beg me to be with them and even turned them down.
I have slept with and even cheated with 3 of my best freinds girls (3 of my best freinds girlfreinds can you beleive it kmt!) what was I thinking? its hard to refuse when a beautifull girl comes on to you. I even slept with my best freinds beautifull older sister she was older than me and took me and made love to me something out of my greatest fantasie, hes girlfreind and sister gosh!.
I dont know if people class oral sex as a sexuall partner in that case I would have been reaching early 20 tees.
I have done things in public private and crazey places. I have cheated on nearly evreyone I have been with apart from her. I was known to be a womaniser and a girl magnet. I had my way with Black,white,brown,caramel,asian, u name it. I have been in blutooth sex and music videos around town. I have done some dumb things to wemon that I regret. my freinds would only have to call me and they could get laide that night, people were jealous of me, people admired me people even respected me for my skills with wemon (regretably now)
so I have done some crazy things, I regret my past an my partner doesent care about it or doesent want to know about it. well well well reality is a crushing thing isent it?
after all of this Im crushed by her insignificant relationships. is it because of the guilt of my past? Is it because some poor girl cursed me when I hurt her. why is this haunting me I wish I dident even have sex before marriage! endless expereinces of diffrent people to finally meet a person u love and U cant be happy with eachother because of past experiences.
Sex and fantasies are nothing but amusement an play for a while
let it not spoil ur future reality!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If u are a virgin you have with you a key to happiness to be honarouble with yourself and the people around you! if you truly want a person who loves you and treates you correctly then dont have sex with them! but instead if they marry you then only give them ur key to ur own very special paradise.
But what man would waite for you to mary them before sex? Let me answer by telling you a real honest deacent man! You see people… A real man waites for what he truly loves but only a man looking to have fun wants hes way with you as fast as possible!
A womans biggest tool in finding a good person is TIME! if he cant waite hes not worth it!
in this way you save your past and future from endless meaningless people
sorry fellas but I got to be tru to the weomon! Im not who I used to be I wish I could help other people not to do wat i did.
I dont realy know what to do myself guess time will tell.
This is my first time writing my feelings down ever…I struggle everyday thinking about my love of my life’s past, I feel this horrible pain throughout my body,heart and soul. I wish I could take away all wrong I’ve done in my past, And I know she wish she could too. I love her so much and I want to get over this pain. I want to move on and give her a 1000% but I feel like knowing her past and struggling with it, I feel like I’m not giving her a 1000% I don’t even feel like I’m giving her a 100%. I wish she wasn’t a flirty person, I wish didn’t do sexual things in her past. Especially when her and I were talking “Dating” or whatever you want to call it. I kills me to know that she was talking to other guys while she was talking to me. But whatever, I have a past too. I just can’t get over it…..I need to get over it….I need to erase it from my memory….I need to erase my past and her past from existence…I feel like that is the only way I will feel better….The only way I can feel like I can give her 1000% , my whole heart, my soul..I need help. I can’t do it on my own. I know that it is only I who can make that decision, make that choice to move on. I just want it to no longer exist. I want a fresh start with her. I want us to have a clean slate and be each others first everything. I want to be her first and her last….Her One and Only. And I want her to be my first and last….My One and Only….I want this peace and happiness, freedom to love with no end, Absolute joy and comfort, I want to Make true love. Pure Love. She told me once we made love a verb, I hope she never said to anyone else before. I’m back to square one if I start thinking about that again. Round and round I go. I just love her so much, I need help.
I am 42, and at last i understand it all, what i believed was jelousy, was in fact wanting to control someone, also it is possible to love someone too much, one day you will meet you life partner, you may not love them as much as previous loves, but they will be a perfect match, equally, any virgins i have known where boring in bed, the older ones were always more fun,
my GF lied and told me she only had sex with three guys and eventually I found out she had had sex with over 20 guys just since she was 15 to 17
she has had sex with all her guy friends and she has alot and she basically loves older guys in their mid to late 30’s and shes let other guys come on her face and swallowed and let one guy shove her panties in her mouth and had sex with one guy that had a girlfriend and she lied to me saying he just didnt tell her he had a g/f but I found out she actually seduced the guy on facebook after he kept telling her no for days
and she had sex with a friend of the family thats late 30’s and practically her uncle she grew up with him and hes married with a kid and she had sex with him anyway sending him video of her masturbating and she slept with several girls and went down on them and she banged a manager at a place she worked
and banged a guy she saw at the gym and she banged a guy that was tattood up in his late 20’s when she was 15 and he was an ex prison inmate with a 9 inch penis and he practically raped her but she liked it and she has a fetish for being banged in her sleep and she fantasized about getting banged by 2 guys at once and she watches incest porn all the time and then after I found out all of this AFTER we were engaged to be married (because she fooled me into thinking she was a sweet little angel with good morals)
She claimed to have just recently got fibro mialgia so her joints were sore and she wouldnt have sex with me me but a couple times a week like 4 times and then 5 days without then maybe 3 times then 5 more days without and sometimes 10 days without but she used to have sex with me almost every day
and I found out she used to date a sex addict off and on for 2 years and they had sex every day twice a day in the mornings too and she never let me have morning sex. And then i found out she’d been obsessed with the guy that took her virginity for the past 4 years he took it when she was 13 and he was 17 and he only banged her to get back at her ex b/f and thats the only time they had sex and they never managed to make things for for 4 years because he always snubs her yet shes obsessed with him and leaves me for him a week after she says we are soul mates and she wants to have my children and get married and raise a family.
then I find out shes moving in with her Uncle that just got out of prison for beating his g/f and that she is now living with him and having sex with him and hes in his 40’s and balding and has a beer gut and liver spots on his hands and is not even handsome and she is a sweet petite beautiful girl. and shes now having sex with several other friends of the family uncle types in their late 30’s too.
and you know the worst part? she fooled me so completely in the beginning and made me think we were best friends and soulmates and ment to be together that I STILL LOVE HER
who would still love someone like that? I cant help it she made me open up like I never have to anyone and told me I was her hero and the most important man in her life even more than her father and that I was her dream guy and that I was perfect and that we were soulmates and that meeting me was a miracle that made her believe in god again and all kinds of ****
and we went exploring out in the woods in the country and I wrote her poems and she spelled I Love You in stickey notes on my apartment wall and I even painted her two legit paintings which I have never done before and they came out awesome and they were love paintings and she bragged to everyone about me all the time and her parents loved me and told her to make sure to keep me above anyone shes ever met
and her dad took me snow skiing and I helped her sisters with their math homework and yet she just took off and left me. She doesnt want to talk about our relationship and shes only agreeing to be my friend I think because I know shes living with and banging her uncle now, her parents think shes living with her aunt. shes only 17 still.
It makes me sick, and she texts me telling me how AMAZING they are and how much FUN they are having watching movies and smoking weed and how she gives them huge hugs and jumps in their arms and starts crying and she never cried for me before.
I cant stop loving her thats not an option, so if I cant stop loving her then what the ****** am I supposed to do at this point?
I’m a handsome guy girls flirt with me all the time, but I’m just still so in love with this perfect girl who turned out to be a crazy person. I need help I feel lost.
Im going trough the same situation. I have been with my girlfriend for over a year now. But there was one thing she never told me til this summer. She left with her family to Orlando Florida for summer vacations and one night while we were on the phone she told me that she had oral sex with her ex boyfriend of hers. I was heartbroken to have herd that from her after so many months together and to have heard that news trough the ph made it so much worst it is really hard for me since i myself am a virgin. I really don’t know what to do. It bothers me that she would do such a thing but i still love her but i can’t move on. One of thae reason why i can’t is cause not one girl has done anything sexual with me. I seriously don’t know what to do.
Oh guys. I’m near the end of the exact same situation as all of you. And there is a solution. No, it’s not breaking up, no, its not going out and having sex with others to make yourself feel “even”. Because honestly, would that change anything about her past? Even if you wished you had sex with others before her, would it matter?
I love this girl who has had sex with 4 other guys. (I was a virgin until her) We’ve been in a relationship for 4 months. She’s told me crazy stories about how/where she’s done it, and i can only imagine how many hundreds of times shes had sex. For a couple months all i could do was think “what a ****” or “that stupid whore how could she do those things” But then i got to thinking, what if i were in the same situation? Would i have done some of the things she said she’d done with others? of course I would. Which made me realize this. It all comes down to insecurity, and jealousy. There are many other factors here, drugs, alcohol, partying, all in her past, that tear me to shreads. but that’s beside the point. She said she never knew a love like mine until she met me, and up until me, sex was just something fun she did with guys that she liked. Made me realize, there is no way in hell i can leave her and be another number on her list of guys .
So i took a look in the mirror. Why was i so jealous and insecure? I’m a pretty good looking guy. Not to brag but for the sake of understanding, I could have had sex with at least 20 girls before me. Why didn’t I? I wasn’t confident enough to. I was afraid of being sexual with a girl. Not because I was waiting for “The right one”. I’ve been taking for granted this she says, how much she likes me, how much i mean to her.
And although i still want to hate her for her past, and how open she is about sex, I realize that i am the exact same way. But when she does it, I get extremely jealous. Because i am not confident enough in myself yet. How can i expect a beautiful funny and smart girl, not to have sexual relations before me? It’s ridiculous. She didn’t even know me. The point is this, there is nothing at all, AT ALL, you can do to change the past, the only thing you can change, is how you think of it. Or whether or not you do. You are going to ruin your future together if you don’t stop this right now. I know exactly what place you’re in, because i’m partially still there. Stage one is recognizing the problem. Make her happy, make her laugh, pleasure her sexually, do all of the things she needs. She will love you, and she will only want you. Don’t hold her past against her, that’s what made her the woman you love today. You have to believe that you can get over this, or else you won’t. Breaking down and crying/cutting/hurting yourself? Yeah. I’ve been there. It doesn’t help. It makes things worse. I couldn’t eat/sleep/have fun. At all, it was constantly on my mind. This is something YOU have to change, if you love them. And to me, it’s completely worth it. Be confident in yourself, and forgive her past, because right now, none of that matters.
i feel the same but i love her so i will get over it i just feel like i wanna kill the other guys but i will get over it she is amazing
I am naturally jealous type but I am happy I don’t have a girlfriend. No girl no pain
holymanlacalovetempl invited 1 user to read this post 8 months, 2 weeks ago.
Ya. well people oys suck that’s your gf is a ****,if she was before noit ti othing chages the just out to **** everything and and anything
Even to point were she has a loser for lover and will date rap you just to get back at you because and really got very littleback forwhat you put so much into! its not they love you guys its because they well never be happy, the only thing that makes them is knowing they are ripping the one person off that the one person that cares for them. and they care for you they they or sorry she just t
Akes takes takes never to give to give anything back and make you feel like **** for all the good u do and prrform tje ***** for herself even to make herself feel supperior! when she is nothung more then a drug money snatching hooker blowing every dude she can the
Pretend she some get wife mel, well call her to oint were she she jyst gi ing her money to convict loser that has no life nothing and dose it all for a dime bag not hing mire a she will aell her aoul and hwr daughters as well for the cauae which! if you think for one second that a person mel slweps with over say 2200 hunderd man just for fun and is going to chamge ecause your a nice guy
The only reasin the guy has a beer gut as they call it is because they ate on dope 24/7 and dont eat and on herion weed you name it! dont think.for second that your specail to her your just a trick, just sayo
G three stds in 3 yr says alot about somebody.which isnt much at all were she cant even support her kid! just to support her convict liver with a bright future ahead of him she a douche and has to use ishe jyst be on a stret corner before you. knoe so run and dont look because next thing you k.ow she be asking you to.be on a street corner with her! ! looking out for her!!!
Invite Others to Help
A logged in and verified Help.com member has the ability to setup a Friends List and invite others to help with posts.