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I have lost all passion for doing anything these days.

My girlfriend broke up with me because of it, which kind of opened my eyes to my lack of talent in anything. I’m shy and have low self esteem, and no talents. I’m awful as a conversationalist, and I have time this summer to try to make this better before I go to college next year. I need suggestions on what to do, anything that I could get into to make myself have some kind of passion for something, so I could have something that makes me feel worthwhile as a person. and no, this is not about my ex, I no longer care about her at all, but she did help me realize that I have a problem. I just want to find something to be passionate about, anything that would make get me excited again.

I feel like I can’t feel anymore. I used to get excited over lots of stuff, my favorite bands releasing new albums, movies, girls, you name it. My parents have moved me all over the place during my childhood, and I decided to give up on making friends in 8th grade (yeah, I know this was stupid but I moved again after 13 months so it wasn’t a big deal) but since about a year ago I’ve really started to regret that choice. I feel like I have no interests anymore. For the first half of high school, I just rushed home after school and played video games, and didn’t bother to develop any kind of skill. I didn’t realize that I would be in the same high school by some stroke of fate for all 4 years. This made an image for me, and nobody wanted anything to do with me after that. I don’t have many friends, and the ones I have aren’t that great. I almost never spend time with people outside of school, and now that it’s summer, and I’m going to college next year, not to mention moving again in a month (so I’ll never see most of the people around my current home again), I feel like I need to better myself in any way I can, develop some kind of skill, etc. just something to raise my self esteem, and help me make friends. I’ve just started playing the guitar to at least attempt to take care of this myself, and I fenced during school for 2 seasons, but now that it’s over, I feel like I have nothing. The worst part is that (not to sound arrogant) I see girls glance at me, and I hear people talk about me like they want to know me. I just don’t have the faith myself to feel like I have anything to offer these people, so I want to make something. please, anything would be greatly appreciated.

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anonymous9 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (26 minutes after post)

Eat cornflakes.

Eat cornflakes.

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wreeves #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (35 minutes after post)

The best way to feel better about yourself is to forget about yourself and look for ways to serve and help others. It’s also the only way to bring true meaning into your life. Best of luck to you!

The best way to feel better about yourself is to forget about yourself and look for ways to serve and help others. It's also the only way to bring true meaning into your life. Best of luck to you!

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wdarling 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (5 hours, 37 minutes after post)

I have to agree with wreeves on this one. It’s really important to take yourself out of the equation at times like this. It might feel counter-intuitive, but it really does work

Find a place you can volunteer at for even a few hours a week over the course of this summer - an animal shelter, a homeless shelter, read to sick kids - whatever. Even if you don’t like it it will teach you something about yourself, but odds are you WILL like it.

You should also exercise as much as possible - it’s the best way to cheer yourself up!

You should also buy the album “In the Aeroplane Over the Sea” by Neutral Milk Hotel. It’s an album everyone your age should listen to. If you don’t like it the first time, keep listening. It’s a ******* amazing album.

I have to agree with wreeves on this one. It's really important to take yourself out of the equation at times like this. It might feel counter-intuitive, but it really does work Find a place you can volunteer at for even a few hours a week over the course of this summer - an animal shelter, a homeless shelter, read to sick kids - whatever. Even if you don't like it it will teach you something about yourself, but odds are you WILL like it. You should also exercise as much as possible - it's the best way to cheer yourself up! You should also buy the album "In the Aeroplane Over the Sea" by Neutral Milk Hotel. It's an album everyone your age should listen to. If you don't like it the first time, keep listening. It's a ******* amazing album.

KaitKalKenz 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 day, 23 hours after post)

Regulus9,
Everyone has something to offer, even you. I disagree with the other posters that you should just forget about yourself and serve others. Of course it is great to help others but in order to help others, you need to first help yourself. In order to care about others, you need to first care about yourself. Your girlfriend had a hard time caring about you because you didn’t care about yourself. But you must have at one time because she did like you at one time, she did want to be with you at one time, didn’t she? Did something happen in your life to make you lose your self-esteem or your interest in the things that you once loved? What are you going to be taking in college (what major)? You could join a study group or participate in other extracurricular activities to get you involved in the good side of college life. Do you enjoy playing the guitar? Maybe you could either take lessons to improve or if you do improve a lot, maybe you could offer lessons to someone else. When you notice a girl glancing at you, just smile and say “hi”, that may just start a conversation. It is 2008, a lot of girls aren’t afraid to start a conversation but if you look down or away, they may think that you aren’t interested. Take care of yourself with good hygiene and exercise (that is one good idea from above). If a girl notices that you took care to look good, that will impress her. Please don’t ever think that you don’t have anything to offer. There is someone for everyone and you will find the right person one day. Never say never. Hang in there and good luck!!

Take care,
Sherri

Regulus9, Everyone has something to offer, even you. I disagree with the other posters that you should just forget about yourself and serve others. Of course it is great to help others but in order to help others, you need to first help yourself. In order to care about others, you need to first care about yourself. Your girlfriend had a hard time caring about you because you didn't care about yourself. But you must have at one time because she did like you at one time, she did want to be with you at one time, didn't she? Did something happen in your life to make you lose your self-esteem or your interest in the things that you once loved? What are you going to be taking in college (what major)? You could join a study group or participate in other extracurricular activities to get you involved in the good side of college life. Do you enjoy playing the guitar? Maybe you could either take lessons to improve or if you do improve a lot, maybe you could offer lessons to someone else. When you notice a girl glancing at you, just smile and say "hi", that may just start a conversation. It is 2008, a lot of girls aren't afraid to start a conversation but if you look down or away, they may think that you aren't interested. Take care of yourself with good hygiene and exercise (that is one good idea from above). If a girl notices that you took care to look good, that will impress her. Please don't ever think that you don't have anything to offer. There is someone for everyone and you will find the right person one day. Never say never. Hang in there and good luck!! Take care, Sherri

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nskut #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (2 weeks, 4 days after post)

i’ve lost all passion as well and i’ve only realized recently. but i must say that although i have lost all passion, i don’t feel as though it will last for too long. as any phase, you will sooner or later get over it and move on, and it is that phase which builds ones character.

i've lost all passion as well and i've only realized recently. but i must say that although i have lost all passion, i don't feel as though it will last for too long. as any phase, you will sooner or later get over it and move on, and it is that phase which builds ones character.

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thegabe0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (2 months, 1 week after post)

i also even at this point feel the same way as Regulus9, the same exact way as i aslo searched for help on picking a major…except i do have a girlfriend. she cares about me alot, but i have a big problem caring too much about money. my whole life is based on making money. thats all i think about. i have a problem thinking it’s not the “hidden” idea of living, but i have also lost the real idea of living. the friends and fun, photos and experiences. i was in the military idk if thats what did it to me as i worked many hours and longed for rest while wedging in alot of drinking. i lost my love for anything and everything. i feel working out works best, reading alot so you have something to say in conversations. its a slow process as you realize your becoming a cooler person. good luck!!

i also even at this point feel the same way as Regulus9, the same exact way as i aslo searched for help on picking a major...except i do have a girlfriend. she cares about me alot, but i have a big problem caring too much about money. my whole life is based on making money. thats all i think about. i have a problem thinking it's not the "hidden" idea of living, but i have also lost the real idea of living. the friends and fun, photos and experiences. i was in the military idk if thats what did it to me as i worked many hours and longed for rest while wedging in alot of drinking. i lost my love for anything and everything. i feel working out works best, reading alot so you have something to say in conversations. its a slow process as you realize your becoming a cooler person. good luck!!

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