Love help: What do you do when your spouse takes an argument to a physical level? - Help.com

dont let it go, tell him how you feel if it contunius, leave. why would you want to saty with someone who is hurting you?

Time to go for marrige councelling.

I agree with simone. But from experiance I know that very few have the strength to change. Don’t lose hope though, if he loves you enough you’ll be able to work through this. And it’s not your fault.

Honey I have great advice on this, but I can’t write it now, I’ll reply as SOON as i get home from work today! I promise, hang in there till then ok?! *gives you biiiiiig hugs*

I think you need to tell him that you know he doesn’t mean it. But regardless of whether he means it or not he needs to stop.

Tell him your not prepared to be in an abusive relationship.

At the same time i think you need to talk about your relationship issues.

It is healthy to have arguments but to that extent where you are both so worked up is not good for either of you at all.

If you stay the way things are, the violence will continue and escalate. You have to take control and put a stop to it right away.

Marriage counselling is a good start. If he won’t go, go by yourself.

If he continues to hurt you, surprise the hell out of him by leaving. And don’t go back. Ever. It will hurt you for awhile, but you’ll find another guy that won’t treat you that way. And he will (hopefully) learn something about how not to treat his next girlfriend.

No, don’t say that you know he doesn’t mean it! If he really didn’t, he wouldn’t do it in the first place! Do tell him that it needs to stop! Stand your ground on this cuz ultimately it will take your life! This is a way too serious problem and no one should ever have to go through it alone. I cannot make this sound serious enough… Dragonlady is right, if you stay it WILL escalate and continue to get worse. He may only be trying to block you from doing something or grabbing your shirt now, but he will someday try to hit you. Rage is one of those things you have to be careful around… and if you do plan on leaving if it doesn’t work that he doesn’t stop being this way, you NEED to leave. Make a plan and stick to it! Make sure you have places to go where he won’t know where you are. If he is the true abusive type he will try to follow you. Honey, watch the movie, “Enough” w/ JLo… I hate her, but the movie touches some very real subjects. Do you have kids with this man? Protect them first and foremost, even if that means shipping them to your mother’s or sister’s house… Make sure they are SAFE! If he does continue and get worse in his behaviour, call the cops, get a DOMESTIC restraining order on him, the court WILL provide one under the circumstance and it will include your kids. Please, take control of your life and DO NOT let him do this to you anymore. NO ONE DESERVES TO BE HIT!!! I’m around if you wanna talk.

I had a similar problem. I was arguing with my husband and he rushed towards me, grabbed my arm, pushed me against the wall, then put one of his hands around my throat. He didn’t choke me, but my first thought was that he was going to kill me. I’ve tryed talking to him about it after, but he refuses and won’t say sorry, and claims I turned beet red and snapped and he was just restraining me. I did not hit him or threaten him, or throw anything. I didn’t even yell that loud during the argument. I’ve let it go for now, but told him I don’t want to be afraid of him, and I am. I can’t fully let it go, I’m afraid of arguing with him now, and don’t know what to do. Please I need advice!