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Seems,
You are lacking empathy for your fellow human neighbours.
You need to address these feelings to see where they are going,

If this is just a stage in your life well it will pass but
if this becomes a part of who you are then it will cause
you tremendous trouble. Whether criminal or in your family
and relationships.

If it is serious then you should consider some sort of counciling
as I for one am in no position to council you. I can only be a sounding
board for your feelings so that you are heard and feel like a human being.

How you feel depends on if you ack on it or not

Randolph

i used to feel bad when i saw people cry and there is one girl i know who wasn’t really my friend but went in my class and i sort of helped her out of depression, coz i told her she could talk to me whenever she felt like it and that i’d be there for her ect

but now if there’s someone i don’t like i plan on killing them like when i would do it, how i would do it and which way to run ect

idk i feel weird i didn’t think like that befor =/

It’s actually a common to feel like that sometimes, I mean alot of people have thoughts of hurting people they don’t like or like seeing them get in trouble or something. It’s just the matter of acting on your thoughts that’s the problem.
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Oh and the name for happiness in other people’s misfortune is called, Schedenfreude, in german.

ok coz i’ve tried but i’ve always gotten scared and not done it
but each time i try to hurt someone and not do it afterall, i’m always a little closer to doing it than last time

and i’m always horrid to my little sister even thought i don’t want to be which is odd but i can’t stop myself and sometimes if i’ve been horrid to her i give her a sweet afterwards so i don’t feel bad

idk i’m afraid i might hurt someone coz i’ve stopped feeling bad when i’m horrid to people =/

Anonymous,

you need to be carefull once you embrace the dark side you cannot go back,
you need some help

Okay

Randolph

Anonymous wrote:
ok coz i’ve tried but i’ve always gotten scared and not done it
but each time i try to hurt someone and not do it afterall, i’m always a little closer to doing it than last time

and i’m always horrid to my little sister even thought i don’t want to be which is odd but i can’t stop myself and sometimes if i’ve been horrid to her i give her a sweet afterwards so i don’t feel bad

idk i’m afraid i might hurt someone coz i’ve stopped feeling bad when i’m horrid to people =/

It sounds like you’ve suppressed some anger from somewhere…

i don’t mean to be personal but could it be that something bad has happened to you? How was your childhood?

This sort of reaction suggests your not dealing with your emotions and you are expressing them in another potentionally harmful way. (i know you wouldn’t hurt someone) but this is harmful to yourself.

I would encourage you to see your doctor..who would/SHOULD recommend you to a psychologist who can explore these issues with you.

I used to be really mean to my little sister sometimes because she would break valuable stuff of mine, but I did this thing that might help you, I don’t know if it will though. For everything mean I would say to her I’d make myself say something non-sarcastically nice to remind me why I love her.
As for the hurting people thing, I THINK the reason you want to hurt them is that you think they need to be punished for their behavior in a way, and want to deliever it to them in any way shape or form. And then when you don’t do it, it feels like they’re getting off the hook and not realizing what they did is bad. All I can say is try to distance yourself from the people who are upsetting you, it might not be much but it gives you time to sort out why you feel the way you do.

my little sister is really nice to me though
and my childhood was ****ed up, but it’s better now but now i want to hurt people and when i daydream it’s mostly how to kill people

i know the people haven’t really done anything worth to be killed for but i just get so angry
and i don’t think anyone would ever even think i thought like this because i’m always shy and quiet and normally am nice but now in stead of being nice to someone who has been upset, i’ve been “on teams with” the ones who upset them, and laugh at them

but i can’t go to the doctor because i’m under 16 so my parents have to know if i go and why i’m going and i’m scared in case they’ll think i’m just fooling about and being stupid

Is there anyone you can confide in to get help?

what do u mean by confide in?

Anonymous wrote:
my little sister is really nice to me though
and my childhood was ****ed up, but it’s better now but now i want to hurt people and when i daydream it’s mostly how to kill people

i know the people haven’t really done anything worth to be killed for but i just get so angry
and i don’t think anyone would ever even think i thought like this because i’m always shy and quiet and normally am nice but now in stead of being nice to someone who has been upset, i’ve been “on teams with” the ones who upset them, and laugh at them

but i can’t go to the doctor because i’m under 16 so my parents have to know if i go and why i’m going and i’m scared in case they’ll think i’m just fooling about and being stupid

Tell your parents that you want to talk to a counciller. You shouldn’t have to tell them why.

you dont HAVE to have a parent present at a doctor at all. If your old enough to speak your own mind and be responsable and behave then there is no reason for your doctor to ask for a parent to be present.

Just ring up and get an appointment. Your doctor is still bound by confidentiality and cant tell your parents anything unless he believes you are going to CAUSE actual physical harm to another human being or yourself.

Please make an appointment, trust me i really do know what i’m talking about. I promise you that just letting someone discuss your experiences and emotions with you and just HELPING you to put them in the right place and helping you to make decisions about your life will help you out. The way we think about the past does effect our present.

You may get better…or worse….but to be free from this and start thinking correctly means you will need to talk to a professional. There are special child psychologists who really know what there talking about and know how children feel about their parents knowing things…

i used to see a child psychiatrist, you can go with parents if you want but i chose to go by myself and talk alone with her.

Please don’t just leave this. Make an appointment with your doctor.

Anonymous wrote:
what do u mean by confide in?

Is there a teacher or a guidance conselour or a friend’s parent you talk to that you feel comfortable with, tell them how you feel and they might be able to get you advice that better suits your personal needs.