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My best friends boyfriend hates me.

I don’t know what to do. We were best friends for years and then stopped talking for a year (long story that has nothing to do with him) but she started going out with him just before we stopped talking - he and I never had the time to get to know each other. She and I have made up completely since. He can’t stand me and is so rude to me. He even took me aside and asked me to leave their house - I told her about this and she said he was just in a bad mood. She admits he doesn’t like me but said when she asked him why he said he just didn’t feel a connection with me. I’m old enough (25) now to know that people can’t always like everyone but I’ve been nothing but nice to him and he’s still awful to me. Could he not at least get to know me before he hates me. I just wanted us to get along because she is so important to both of us - but he won’t allow this. I can’t even go to her house anymore, any advice on this situation would be really appreciated?

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Himikorule offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

Stand up to him! She is your friend and your her friend and NO ONE!!! Should get between that. If your scared, swallow it and tell him that you don’t like how he treats you and if he brings up that connection thing up then ask why he doesn’t try to make a connection.

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jaz_monster90 offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

I agree with Himikorule. Tell him that you don’t understand why he treats you the way he does and that you don’t appreciate it, either. If she is your best friend, you should fight for her. A guy isn’t worth losing the friendship, you know? While confronting her or him, bring up the history of your friendship. I hope this helped.

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missmeow offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
GB | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

Thank you himikorule, I actually feel a little scared of him. He says he doesn’t know why he doesn’t like me - even though I make effort and try with him I think he may feel a little intimidated my me?

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Dodgeville, WI, US | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

I also agree that you should stand up to him. Just be nice about it at first and if he dosn’t even try to be friends or whatever, get angry at him in an assertive not agressive way or you could ruin your friendship with your best friend. Hope it works! GOOD LUCK :)

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Himikorule offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

Intimidated… Maybe he is. But there is also a chance that there is no reason. I’ve had experiences when I hated people for no reason.

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missmeow offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
GB | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

Thank you for the advice people, it is much appreciated :)

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jaz_monster90 offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

If you are intimidated by eachother, put yourself in a comfortable situation when confronting him. Maybe he is jealous of the realtionship you have with his girlfriend, like threatened. Or maybe he thinks you’re jealous. Hahah, who knows? I think you should make an effort.

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samira.mansoo offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

u kno wat i think u shud go up to his face and tell him wat a jrek he really is after u say dat 2 ur bestfrnd{bout how her bf is such a jer head}….
den u tell her if she gets offencive which she will dat she was making a huge mistake and she will regret which she surely will
till den hang out wid sum other frnds of ur for a change and i am sure she will definately miss u…

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