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I’m a sixteen year old girl and I am in grade eleven.

My mom died this past January, and she had been taking care of me and my sisters primarily for a about five years. (My dad had been working two hours away, and would only be home on weekends. If he wasn’t playing in his band on the weekend) Anyways, now he’s home constantly, and my sister and I have had enough of him. (By the way my sister is graduated and is eighteen) We get into fights constantly because of stupid things. Most of which are entirely his fault. He tries to control our every move. Keeping us under his thumb, so to speak. I can’t even go to my best friends (who so happens to be my next door neighbor) with out getting the third degree. He makes me cook every meal. My sister and I have to keep the house cleaner then it ever has been before. He’s making me work a job full time, and I have to save every cent of it. He doesn’t ask us to do anything, everything is an order. He is so old fashioned that it’s crazy. No tattoos, no piercings, no boyfriends, no shoulders showing, the majority of the chest has to be covered, anythingyou name that’s old fashionned, he enforces it. He also treats us like were children, he doesn’t realize that we have grown into young women. My sister and I have gotten to the point where we want to move out, and my sister says that she might hurt herself soon if something doesn’t happen soon. I don’t know what to do. I know i need to talk to him, but I’m scared of him. Scared of what he would do, or say. It doesn’t help that I’m uncomfortable being in the same room as him. (to the point where i would do anything to avoid spending anytime with him) Is there anything that anyone could think of that I could do, that would maybe lighten up the situation, but not be something that he would get too angry at….

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Kima offline Verified User (6 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

WOW, what a scarey situation.
You went from a comfortable life with your momma to feeling like a prisoner in your own home. BTW I am sorry to hear about your momma.

I don’t feel like I have the right words to say.. but have you ever thought of writing a letter to your Dad and just kindly telling him how you feel? It would be a good way to get your feelings out.

Why are you so uncomfortable around him?

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Kima offline Verified User (6 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (31 minutes after post)

Renegade_007… are you talking about “divorcing” her dad??
What is that called? Emancipation?

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jaceybak offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Edmonton, AB, CA | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)

I don’t know exactly why I am so uncomfortable around him. He’s just a little too touchy for me. Not that he touches me innappropriately, but it’s just uncomfortable. I’ve had a friend tell me that maybe he did something in the past that either scared me, or something, and even though I can’t remember it still stays with me…

I live in Alberta, Canada.

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jaceybak offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Edmonton, AB, CA | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (35 minutes after post)

What exactly is emancipation?

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jaceybak offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Edmonton, AB, CA | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (44 minutes after post)

I know that at sixteen, I do have the ability to legally move out of my house. So I don’t think that my sister getting custody would be nessesary. But I just don’t want to have to go to the extreme of moving out. Especially since I have tried running away before, and my dad forced me to go back home with him. After he forced his way past my friends parents, and into the house…

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jaceybak offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Edmonton, AB, CA | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (52 minutes after post)

I have sooo many people that say that we could live there, but the problem again is dad. Where ever we go he seems to find us one way or another and takes us back home forcefully. Its also the thing about what he would do if we actually moved out.

I can try to write him. Hopefully be able to put it in such a way that he won’t get too upset.

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jaceybak offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Edmonton, AB, CA | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

Yeah it would be hard to find me all the way in Texas. I do hope he will listen and actually do something about it. It would be better for everyone…

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jaceybak offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Edmonton, AB, CA | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 14 minutes after post)

Ok. I will. Thanks alot. It helped. :)

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jaceybak offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Edmonton, AB, CA | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 20 minutes after post)

Ok I will. Thanks again.

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allen57 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 51 minutes after post)

you and your sister need to get in touch with the local helpline for persons who are in the same situation as you. no u and your sisy are not alone. Please tell her that there are others just like you all in the same situation, so don’t get to the point of hurting yourselves.

Call the local help line in the town where you r.

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Kima offline Verified User (6 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (13 hours, 21 minutes after post)

Keep me updated too on your progress. I understand being uncomforatable around men!
Listen to your instincts!
I will pray for you and your sister!

BUT KEEP US ALL UPDATED!

HUGS to you…

GOD is love: Kima

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