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He does not want to marry you. He has been having fun with you. Now that it is getting serious he is making himself clear. He wants you to terminate this situation so he is not stuck with you or a child/support that he never wanted with you.

I’m sorry to say this, but you just need to get away from him.
if he is having problems like that now, it will be ten times worse later on.
I’m sorry for saying it so bluntly, but it is what’s best for everyone.

and, this may be hard to hear, but these days, people confuse even slight attraction with love.

If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (1 corinthians 13:3-7)

does this sound anything like him at all?

You need to do what is right for you and the baby, regardless of him. It doesn’t sound like a good situation to bring a baby into, and personally I would leave. If he decided to try to work it out, it would have to be on MY terms then.

God doesn’t make mistakes. If you don’t feel you can provide the right home life for your new baby. Consider adoption!

I would love a baby… :o)

But he doesn’t sound like the type of man to stay with.

Move on.. I know it is easier said, then done… but in the end, you have to make the right choice for your children.. born and unborn…

I will pray for you!

God is LOVE:
Kima

We all don’t act like our true selves sometimes. Sounds like you did that awhile ago, and sounds like he’s doing that now. If you are really wanting the relationship to work, try going to counseling together or try giving him one more chance to be that knight again. Eventually, you will find that you have to move on if nothing changes. Don’t take it out on the baby, and sometimes adoption is the best solution if all else fails and you find you can’t take care of him/her. Good luck. God bless.

Hello, sounds like this guy maybe scared, this may be bringing up old feelings for him that he thought he had dealt with. It’s easier to go to that place in his head and lay blame elsewhere than to actually admit he has to take responsiblity for you becoming parents again.

He may be thinking or telling himself inside that this child is not his and it’s going to take alot of understanding on your part, but regardless he has no right treating you this way, and it may be a good idea to sit and talk with him and help him understand that you are in this together and that it has to be clearly understood that belittling you is unacceptable and should not and will not be tolerated regardless of his feelings.

Would you both consider counciling?You have your daughter to think about, regardless, he has stepped in and taken the role of daddy to her and she deserves the best you both parents can give her. She deserves you both trying and making this work…

My youngest came as a surprise, and my now husband was so scared and believed lies about me and was actually telling me to my face that I must have cheated on him… I was willing to take a paternity test… but regardless how it worked out, I understand what you are going through… if you need to chat, just give a shout.
your friend, Shannon

You messed up in the past. But you do not deserve to be unhappy. You need to push away from him. Don’t let him bring you back down. He sounds scared and who knows if he can overcome that. Take a step back. Let him know that this baby is his, you will not keep it from him, you expect him to financially support his child, but that you deserve better. Messing up when you were younger is not a life sentence. Tell him you are willing to work it out, but if he can’t get it together then he needs to find his own peace so you can find yours.

If he wants to **** one of your friends, tell him to go ahead, but you are unsure if you will be around. You didn’t do it to hurt him, you were careless, he is seeking revenge, he is seeking to hurt you. Those are two different things.

Good Luck and I hope you find happiness for you and your children.