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i would look for things that she can become involved with - maybe through a church or otherwise, some kind of volunteer thing. its best to focus on helping others who have REAl problems (like, food, shelter)when really down - its good to do that anyway - but it really isnt useful for her/anyone to sit and think about themselves how bad They feel constantly - better to focus outward. find groups, activities - some kind of social active thing or else church groups so she can have access to others and begin doing things that involve more than her just thinking about herself constantly. also go to joyce meyer dot org - she has TONs of resources, online, to listen to regarding all kinds of problems…she has to want to help herself …but maybe you can give her a jumpstart. the bottom line - she has to think about more than herself/get over it/get help so she can get grateful for what she DOes have (she’s not blind, right? she can walk? etc?)….

First, take a deep breath. Her social awkwardness isn’t your fault, remember. If she doesn’t go anywhere, it isn’t because of you. I just want to say this now because as awesome as I pretend to be at advice-giving, I am aware that not all things work out in the end.

First, when you wake up to her crying next time, pad into her room and hug her. She might just be lonely. And (as much as it pains me to say this) she might be doing this for attention. Sit by her until she stops crying, then go back to bed like it never happened. She’ll know that you’ve heard her and likely it will stop.

Introduce her to people. You need to start weening her off of you, slowly. If you know what ways she’s going to be socially awkward, stop her before she can. The more people she knows, the more comfortable she will get. Eventually she will figure out what she was doing wrong and not do it anymore.

Go clothes shopping with her and only let her buy the stuff that doesn’t kill you to see her in. If you’re really worried, pretend to be stealing an outfit from her, look at her and say something like “shouldn’t you wear that skirt with that shirt? It makes your eyes stand out.”

Talk to her, most importantly. Tell her how you feel. Explain that you can’t always be there for her, and that you have a life too. If it kills you too much to say that, talk to her in a round-about way. “Oh you know what kills me? How little time I spend with so-and-so.” She’ll probably take the hint.

Take her off of you slowly, let her get accustomed to being on her own. She’ll still want you there as a sister, but hopefully in a less needy manner next time.

Good Luck.

Um. I really hate the approval system. I’m sure it’ll go through, though. Some amount of waiting later.

Maybe you could refer her to this site.