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I am just looking for an opinion.

Usually when I read about people who break up, and are sulking, I say get over it, move on. Thats why I am not complaining. I am just looking for other peoples opinions on the facts provided. How would you view this situation. Me and my x girlfriend dated for 18 months, had an extremely involved relationship, a lot based on trust. This was not on online relationship. After 18 months, she decides “she doesn’t think we are meant to be together anymore.” She gives me these reasons which I have caused her to think so, which I understand, but can easily change for the better of the relationship and myself. I find out she is talking to a guy for some support through all of this. I confront her about it and she replies he is just a friend. Well we go on to break up from this very close relationship, and are going to be friends (which is I think bs). Anyway, not two weeks after, she is going out on a date with this ‘guy’ who is picking her up, taking her out to eat and to a movie, alone. Well she tells me it is just a friendship, but in my opinion, I think there is more. Now is there someone out there who thinks that she really broke up with me for more than she stated? And it had nothing to do with this ‘guy?’ I can udnerstand taking a while to rest and seeing someone. But after only two weeks of the break up going on a date with another guy who was standing in the way of us working out our issues? Two weeks is pretty soon to date again, and while she has that freedom to do what she wants, I still feel like she is not keeping her honesty open to me as she stated she would. I know it does not matter what she does, but I do think that she got away, just to do this. 2 weeks is pretty sudden. Any ideas?

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Ms. LL offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (38 minutes after post)

2 weeks is a little sudden but what can you do but move on

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Help me with: So me and my boyfriend decided not to break it off completely with each other.
halveanana offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (51 minutes after post)

Your nog going to like my answer. If she has another boyfriend now, you have lost her a long time ago my friend. It means she is over you. If your relationship was going as well as you thought you would, she would not even have been intrested in another guy. If one person in a relationship feels like your not ment for eachother, or does not see a future, it is better to end the relationship. To make room for someone else eventually.
Im sure she doe not want to hurt you thought.

**** happens

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5 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 44 minutes after post)

You sound a little controlling. Conduct an in depth self-evaluation and maybe you will find the answer you are looking for. Good luck.

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ktm250 offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 4 hours after post)

Dont think about it it will drive you crazy and maybe make you do something you will regret.even if she was seeing this guy for a while theres nothing to do.i wouldnt recommend staying friends though in my opinion it drives men crazy,of course it depends on the kind of guy you are.so cut your losses and move on.dont stay in contact or do its a matter of opinion but i couldnt stay friends prolly,id get mad if that guy was really more than friends since she would have lied to me,so say your not interested in being friends and move on.

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