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pillsburydogir
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I will try to put this in a nutshell.

I have a great life.
Good husband and daughter
Own a home
Have no debt
Just got a boat and have SO much fun on it.

There are a lot of good things in my life but I’m not really happy
- Communication problems with hubby
- Stress from being a stay at home mom (who also does all the books/billing for hubbys business)
- Always enough money but never enough to “get ahead”
- Have the boat but how do I pay 600-700/mo for GAS to use it!
- My house is probably worth less than I paid for it, and I hate the state I live in now. I want to move back to San Diego before my 3.5 year old starts school.
- I just feel so down.

I have identified what to do to accomplish these
- Put daughter in part time daycare 3-4 days per week for 5-6 hours on those days (she is shy and would benefit from the interaction, and of course I would benefit from the “time off”. Mental stress relief, and have the ability to start the business)
- Start the business I have wanted to start since October but have been too scared to do, and coming up with many excuses (some more legit than others) This business has the capacity to build the income that will pay for the move back to a house in san diego, and the freedom/abundance to do what I want to do without it hinging on money
- Look into renting out my boat a few days a month to bring in at least half the gas $ needed.
- Change my thinking (lifelong negative, self defeating thougths that are bringing the wrong things into my life)

So I have a plan, whats the problem? I just “wont” start. It’s like I WANT to stay unhappy and stuck. I kind of feel like “oh, I can’t do that, and have that life, this is how my life is supposed tobe” ARGH! I made one sales call about the business in Oct 07! It had a positive response and that scared the hell out of me. Haven’t made a call since. This isn’t just about the money. I NEED to do this business for my sanity. I can’t live with myself knowing what could have been but I was too chicken to do it. I HAVE to do this. I WANT to do it. Why can’t I start?

So here I am. Looking for an external source to get my internal source to hit the accelerator.

Sorry that was so long. It was good to get my biggest issues all laid out. Thanks for listening.

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poeismyho offline Verified User (7 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Raleigh, NC, US | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

My, my. You do have a bundle of things going on. I must warn you now, I won’t be much of a help seeing as to how I have no experience with any of these things (I’m 16). Still, I like to try!

If I were you, I’d be so overwelmed with the tasks at hand. First, I think, you need to just step back and take a breather. A day or two for yourself. That means no planning, no stressing over the future, just live here and now. Give yourself room to move around.

Now it’s time to tackle the list. Use all of that built-up pressure inside, your need to move and start a fresh new way. Pick the hardest (or easiest, your choice) of tasks and start working on it right away. once you’ve accommplished enough to settle your nerves a bit, step back again, let things settle. Don’t try to force anything, you know? The round ball won’t fit where the square goes. Don’t try to do everything at once. Things take time, dreams don’t happen just like that.

Then, after things have calmed, begin working on another part of your list. No rush, your daughter isn’t even four yet. You still have atleast a year to complete most of your list, you know?

Finally, get that ‘hubby’ of yours to help you out a little. (that should help with the communication) sit him down at dinner one night, or get a baby-sitter and go out to eat. Just let him know what you are thinking and let him know how he can help!

Anywho, I hope everything worksout for the best! =]

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Just Lyza offline Verified User (10 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

A lot of the time when we are experiencing something bad, for some reason or the other we feel the need to…well dwell on it. Like if you’re in a really bad mood, it’s more appealing to turn on some rock than it would be some soothing music. You’ve got goals. PUSH YOURSELF to do one at a time. You’ve got a lot of things done and you DESERVE to be able to relax for a bit in an environment that you care for. We deserve what we have the willpower or strength to get for ourselves. If you can do it, then you deserve it. =]

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Just Lyza offline Verified User (10 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

A wise person once said “Change your thinking to change your life” on their help.com profile. Sometimes the best advice we receive is our own. Start thinking “I can do this, need to, and if it works out, deserve to!”

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Help me with: you guys should check out the song “I’m yours” by Jason Mraz, it’s really cute and always leaves me in a better mood.
pillsburydogir offline Verified User (9 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Chandler, AZ, US | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

poeismhyo - I don’t discount advice based on age. You’re obviously a smart girl with some intelligent suggestions. Thank you. I do take the breather by going out on the boat (have had it 4 weeks) but it all came crashing down when I tallied up what it was COSTING to go out. Still good advice. I like the “don’t force things” part. Maybe I am just too wound up/stressed to get anything done.

Lyza - Hey, I like being referred to a “wise person” :) (even though I probably stole that line from somewhere… T Harv Eker, the Secret, Cheryl RIchardson, … )Changing my thinking is new to me within the past 6 mos or so I really realized how detrimental it was. “PUSH YOURSELF” is so obvious but put in all caps like that makes me think of it as literally pushing on my back to move. Hmmm, like that.

Thank you both!

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MaryJane offline Verified User (3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (2 weeks, 2 days after post)

Try going to church. God loves you and wnts you to be happy.

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pillsburydogir offline Verified User (9 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Chandler, AZ, US | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (2 weeks, 4 days after post)

Thanks for the idea, but I do not believe in god.

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