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so i was adopted at birth…. i was given up because my birth parents had only know eacother for 9 months (they consieved me in the first month of thier relationship)… they ended up staying together without me finding out till i was about 16 years old…. when i was 18 i finally went to meet them, they live quite close to me actually…. it turns out they have four kids, my biological brothers and sisters…. i never thought that i would have any type of connection with my birth family, i thought that i would just meet them and that would be it….. actualy its the exact opposite, i have a great connection with them and want to see them on a regular basis… the problem is that as supportive as my parents are to my relationship with my birth parents i dont know how to have a relationship with my birth parents without being inconsiderate to my parents or other family memebers…. i just wanna have a close relationship with everyone without hurting any feelings…. PLEASE HELP

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An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (19 minutes after post)

well prduyc. i am not adopted but i kinda know how you can feel. my real mother gave me up for her drug addiction. i was blessed enough to have a loving father who cared deeply 4 me. me and my mother has not had a good relationship to say the lest. but now after years of bitter fellings towards her she begain to wants a relationship w/ me. i cant just jump in to this. b/c i have been hurt so badly. all i can say is be consderate of the reasones your birth parents gave you up. and also appreciate your parents 4 taking care of you. i hope i helped.

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2 months ago (22 hours, 24 minutes after post)

I would like to say that you could have a relationship with everyone and no one would be hurt. That is just not going to happen though. Just make sure that everyone knows how much you love them. Give lots of hugs..

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