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dear liza, dear liza…

did someone mention me? lol

**** it! Anon beat me to it! *cries*

Well fix it, dear Henry, dear Henry.

HA! :D

Ya know, what can anyone really say now?! :-)
Except… this made me think of that Sesame Street skit with Forgetful Jones and his girl. What was her name? I fergit.

Lyza wrote:
did someone mention me? lol

lmao.

Anyway…i’m just…overly happy i think is the only way to describe it. I don’t know why i’m constantly like it-i put it down to the strength that i’ve gained through my experiences.

hmmmm, how many buckets do I have? I have no idea! I would say I have too many and don’t know how to empty them, but they are mostly filled with love and hopes for all the people I have met throughout my life. I would also say that I over learn from my own and other people’s mistakes, and these buckest are very heavy. Maybe that is my problem, I have too many darn buckets.

“Well I think I have a hole in one of mine as it doesn’t matter how much I try and fill it, it just never seems to stay full..”

I’m not understanding your analogy very well, but this sounds like something you’re hurting over. Can you tell us more about it?

“how do you go about keeping your mind light and free?”

Do not take things too seriously because
nothing wastes more energy than worrying,
by Count my blessings, not my troubles
and have hearth and hope and happiness.

By becoming more aware of what my perceptions and beliefs are. I cannot change what I do not understand. So spend some time looking internally and when I become disappointed, think about what is disappointing me. Is it really the situation or the person, or is it because they are not behaving in a way I believe they should behave? Then slowly as I do this, force myself to look at the bigger picture of what is going on. Force myself to see the situation from a new perspective and offer positive spins on what has happened. I believe that the more I do this, the less I will be disappointed because I will stop taking things so personally. I will also begin to realize that the way things turn out are the way things are supposed to turn out, whether they are in line with my beliefs or not. This will lead me to feeling more in control of my emotions as well as of my behaviors and actions. I will also be able to use any challenge as an opportunity to grow, develop, and move My life forward, because I will not continuously be knocked down by disappointment and I am too blessed to be stressed and too anointed to be disappointed!.

Sorry to hear about that lazy… you know , you are one of the very few people on help.com that i got to meet and i always thought you were that 24/7 happy, jolly person ..don’t change that lazy :(

Sometimes people dont have control over their emotions , believe me everyone has felt it at some point.. and ye having a little of anger is not bad .. but its just the right amount of it .. keeping your emotions bottledd up is wrong .. and letting it all out .. is bad too ..

I guess learning how to take control of our emotions is the hardest thing we can do .. i mean sometimes we can’t help ourself but feel the way we feel…. thats why it takes the WILL to have control..
I’ve learned how to take control of my anger somehow… i used to get angry over the silliest things , now i’ve learned to manage my emotions .. how ? well now i realized that getting upset over small things are pointless .. life means a lot to me..over the past few months i realized that my life is absolutly great… and things happen for a reason .. getting upset over something wont change it .. it would only hurt me .. so now im pretty much the happy person .. most of the time.. the right amount of anger and then its all good after 5 minutes.. back to being happy ..
so id say taking control of my emotions and my life lets me have a free mind .. well for now …i mean im young .. who knows what issues I’d face when i grow older hhaha ..

Its been a while but good to read your words again and WHAT TRUE WORDS THEY ARE..lol And if you ever figure out how to keep your bucket full throw a girl a hint…:)

Even with a leak .. you can still fix it ?? =D
goo lazzyyyy hahaha

hope everything works out for you =D

mah bukkit =( it is gone..
but anywho, interesting idea.
You have to find out which bucket
has the hole and patch’er up.
Try that stuff on TV, that stuff
the guy squishes and it pulls a
truck! but really, good luck =)

Nice post LazyDaze….

Are you related to richard..lol

Hi dear,
I didn’t have time to read your post yet, because I am talking to a very nice person at this moment.
But she told me that you have something very different from a hole, in your bucket…
Congrats!!!!

I keep on dropping my buckets. jk. I know one of my buckets has got a hole in. Aren’t sure which one. I find music keeps my buckets balanced and stops them from overflowing.

Because of the wide range of music available, you use each type to fill/empty each bucket. What about you LazyDaze? What do you do to keep the buckets balanced and light?

That wa my first thought too dear Lyza,cuz there is a Lyza I talk to on here.lol. this is amazing.did you come up with this? truly creative writing.How to drain the bad.hmmm,I will have to give this more thought.

Emotions are like a bucket??

Emotions are things we feel in response to how we perceive certain life situations and circumstances. I think maybe the issues is whether or not they “overwhelm” us and begin to control us or if we have control over them … not in whether we “feel” or not… but like a state of maintaining them… that sort of control. And i think to maintain that control - you have to see past the emotions themselves to the cause - and then reason if it is legitimate and worthy to become more than just “a feeling” but become part of your identity.

I understand what you meant and I think I have dropped my buckets in the past a few times as well. You just to get up and pick the buckets up again.

Amazing, really.And I know talent when I see it :)

Hello Emily. :)

My buckets have been empty too at times. It is just good that someone is cute enough to fill some parts of it. Hugs. And i believe in the balance you just said.

That is true. Allow the sad times to come. After sometime, you would be thankful the buckets were emptied. That allowed other nice goodies to fill it. :)

then fix it, dear henry, dear henry, dear henry,
then fix it, dear henry, dear henry fix it!

Are you asking how we recharge when we’ve worn our selves out with some trying event?

I paint. I garden. I sew. I take days off to just sit on the sofa and veg out with a bag of chips and the cat in my lap.

Sometimes, the only thing that really works is a complete change of scenery. A trip to the beach or even just a long day in the park can do wonders.

i have one bucket that is so full i cant lift it and one that is completly empty, apart form a few drops. either way i cant carry any water.

Well, there’s a complicated question!!! I try not to dwell on things I guess…. have to just try to get through a day at a time, and deal with small chunks of things. It’s so much easier. IF I stop and think about all the worries and problems I really do have, well… it would blow my mind!!! … so I don’t do that!!! One thing at a time…. and try to make the best of each day. Appreciate the simple comforts. Don’t let the bad stuff eat away at you. Do what you can to solve problems, and then let them go and keep moving onward.

Laz thanks for inviting me. this is a fun post. gets us to thinking. in a movie a long time ago… ummm billy crystal at that dude ranch….. and that totally wise Indian answered the question “whats life about” by saying…. “one thing”. Ive never forgotten that. everyday i see how gently observant that was. I interpret it to mean. Don’t look at the negative. Focus on what thrills you. I don’t think I have buckets of emotions, I let em spill all over the place. ♫ ♪ ♪ ♫ ♪ ♫ ♫ ♪ ♪

I haven’t read through all of the replies, so this may have already been mentioned…

I’m a problem solver, I enjoy the challenge. And so, I often challenge myself with the psychological and emotional engineering problem of pouring one of the buckets into another. Turning sadness into gratefull’ness, angre into conviction. The engineering problem often involves minor adjustments to my blueprint of perpectives.

Hmm.. I tried to be *as* analogus (sp?) as Laz, but I think I failed horribly. LOL.