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I dated a guy way back when I wa sin high school, many years ago who did the EXACT same thing. He suddenly stopped wanting to kiss me or mess around and when I finally confronted him about it he said it was not what God wanted. I was upset, but wanted to respect his religious wishes.

Well it turned out “GOD” was another girl in our class with much biggest b**bs than me that he wanted to mess around with instead, while dragging me along in the process.

It is 100% possible your guy is being up front and honest with you. Talk to him, though. And offer to help him with his spiritual journal if that’s truly wht he wants out of life right now.

“Intimacy, Committment and Passion”, Whenever people tell me that secx isn’t needed to sustain a relationship I just say these three words. Basic relationship psychologists will always say that these are the three things needed for a loving relationship. And passion may just not mean secx, but just a basic physical desire for the other person shown through physical means.

I went through a very similar situation. My girlfriend cheated on me a while back, and afterwards she just refused to have secx and refused to touch me in anyway, wouldn’t even let me hold her at night. I wasn’t sure if it was because she just felt ashamed about what she did or if I just wasn’t what she wanted anymore. Its difficult when someone who you were passionate with to jsut pull away and its ok to think “did I do something wrong?”

Give him time and assess the level of passion that are between you two. People say its shallow to break it off with someone due to lack of secx, but not if it is the level of passion that you’ve come to be comfortable with and expect from your loved one.

Good luck, hope it works out.

I wonder who is going to crack first here you or him?

I am intrigued as to how you have been messing around and what specifically is meant by your boyfriend wants to stop messing around?

Only you can make you happy and then it gives others permission to do the same - make you happy.

What is it that you feel is ugly about you?

Sounds like your boyfriend is need of feeling closer to someone and so it feels like there is not much closeness within your relationship. Maybe you could explore what closeness feels like for you and ask him what it feels like for him - then compare your words. Are you saying the same things or different? It might be a starting to place to understanding yourselves and each other more.

Next!!!

Seriously. I’d tell him straight out that he either starts recognizing that I have needs or he can find a new girlfriend. And I wouldn’t back down.

The last thing you want to do is marry someone with so little regard for your feelings.