boyfriend help: my boyfriend is always angry, not always with me he is just an angry person. - Help.com

im going thru the same. I love him but he needs to understand he cant deal with his emotions and have you pay for everything that his going thru…I put it like to my guy. I love you, but your hurting me when we fight. You don’t give the attention. You don’t talk about things. Then you get angry and aggresive and its not safe or healthy for us. I want to help you and talk about it. The way i see it..is talk to him but if he’s not willing to communicate hes probally not caring about the two of you. I told my guy i have a feeling theirs someone else. Especially when they change out of nowhere.

You don’t need to deal with any b s from anyone. Seriously I don’t! I cry over this and its not worth any tears especially if I cry and he seems not to care? How long have you guys been dating.?

what inner pain? i try to help him?

chances are he has unresolved issues - unfinished business from his past and that what you are is technically an emotional punching bag. It will not matter how much you talk, until you are blue in the face, he needs to make the decision to change - first he has to see that there is a problem and face it, then make a decision to change. Forms of counseling would help that - inner child work, Bowen technique. Getting to the root of the anger - most of the time the person that that person is with is just a trigger for the anger and not the actual reason for the anger. Know what I mean.

Hey im a boy and all the things that you women are saying are exactly like what my girlfriend says about us. And I know its not normal for me to get so angry about things that she does, but the thing is, she seems to be the opposite of what normal women are like! Normally its the girlfriend who tries to talk about things and sort problems out and the guy just doesnt open up and just shouts, but i ALWAYS tell my girlfirned every emotion i feel, and tell her all my troubles and never hide my feeligns. It is HER who never talks about anything. We have broken up yesterday for the 5th time in a year, and now im wondering is it ME thats bad in this relationship for getting angry at her, or is it her that is different and weird and causes the arguments? Is it wrong for me to get angry when she just hangs up the phone when im trying to sort out a dispute, or when she just goes to bed when im upset about something shes done? The thing is, 3 months ago, she cheated on me, but I love her so much that I stayed with her and forgave her. She never let me ask properly about the incident, so I feel constantly annoyed at her because I have never actually spoken to anyone about how I felt when she did that. She wont speak about it with me because if I say how I feel about what she did to me, she gets REALLY angry, and alot of the time punches me in the face. She attacks me alot when shes angry, but Ive never laid a finger on her. I need some advice from someone with experience… Am I a bad person for getting angry at her when she ignores me or doesnt open up, or is she in the wrong for never telling me anything or discussing our feelings? please reply