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I have no self control. I don’t do drugs, I have a job, I’m not depressed, I have a good life I always have. I just can’t get myself to do anything, I spend my entire life writing lists of the things that I need to do. I fail semester after semester of college wasting tuition. I have peridontal disease because I can’t get myself to brush my teeth, I have gained 70 lbs. in the last couple of years, I have no friends because I can’t make myself do the work that a friendship requires. I will sleep on my matress wrapped in my sheets for a week before taking the time to actually put them on the bed after I wash them.
I keep telling myself that I am going to change again and again and I never do. I can do this, there is nothing required to change my life that I do not posess, but I don’t. This is not how I want to live my life.
There has got to be someone else out there that has a wonderful life and everythinig going for them, but is still messing it up.

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Anonymous #
1 year, 5 months ago (13 minutes after post)

Only you can cange your life. You can ask people for help and advise but you can only change on your own terms and in your own time. If you want to change asap start doing things. Dont put them off and if you still strugle try and see a porfessional.

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meova offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Provo, UT, US | 1 year, 5 months ago (26 minutes after post)

It kind of sounds like you have some type of mental issue. Maybe try to see a psychologist (a lot of colleges have those for free) and since you probably won’t motivate yourself enough to go, get a family member or something to call you and annoy you into going.
Other than that, maybe just think about accepting yourself the way you are. I feel the same way often, but just not stressing out over it helps to make me a lot more motivated to do things I like to do.

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Tere offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (2 hours, 5 minutes after post)

I think you should go out and see someone else who don’t have any opportunity in their life.Have you ever see someone like that? I mean children in Afica,vistims ect. I understand the way you live and I’m glad to hearing that you don’t to live like this longer. you can do it!!

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zoo_baw offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (2 hours, 44 minutes after post)

i was exactly like you, and i think i still am at some degree… what you really need is motivation, some kind of “incentive”, and you got to grow some ambition to improve! it is very good that now you admit that you actually have a problem, it’s your first step. then, put it like this: what do you want more than anything else in the world?. after you’d found the answer, well, go get it!. it might even be something that does not require you to finish your college!, whatever it is,
it’s gonna be really hard, sometimes even seems absolutely impossible, but your struggle to get there is what ‘improving’ yourself.

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