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im 16 and my family just doesnt get me.

they are rich and always want things to be perfect! im not like them! i’m a rebel, i dont get straight a’s like my older sister, i dont wanna run the family business, i dont go to church with them, i hang out with the “wrong people” and i date the “wrong guys”. i have tried to talk to them and write them letters and stuff but they dont get it so recently i decided that hey if they dont listen to what i have to say why should i have to listen to what they have to say? so i just didnt come home one night. they didnt like that so much and now im grounded. and the thing is that i dont even do bad **** at all!!! ever!! it drives me crazy to sit in my big quiet empty house by myself. i cant stand it here. people think im just ungrateful for what i have but im not im just not like them. i dont fit in and we all know it. i need a break from trying to be perfect but i dont know who to do it! help.

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Sherooo offline Verified User (6 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

as soon as you can, get the hell away from there. doesnt sound like its doing much good!

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Anubis offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 99 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

You’re 16, no one is supposed to ‘get you’. Things will work out when you have the perpective of maturity.

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littlenick offline Verified User (6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 134 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

Have actually sat down and really thought about the things that you might be doing and the things that your might be doing to actually make the situation bad? Do you know what is expected of you? Have you told your parents what you think should be expected of you?

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Moo. offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

put yourself up for adoption

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littlenick offline Verified User (6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 134 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

Moo. wrote:
put yourself up for adoption

Actually if you can show that your parents are unfit parents and that you can do a good job at becoming a productive member of society and can actually support yourself with no help from your parents, any family court will cut you loose from your parents. Is that what you want?

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Moo. offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

littlenick wrote:

Moo. wrote:
put yourself up for adoption

Actually if you can show that your parents are unfit parents and that you can do a good job at becoming a productive member of society and can actually support yourself with no help from your parents, any family court will cut you loose from your parents. Is that what you want?

but there wasnt actually any mention of bad parenting, was there?

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melt offline Verified User (8 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

i’m 33 and my family STILL doesn’t get me. just do whatever you have to in order to keep the peace until you can move out and live your own life with your own rules.

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littlenick offline Verified User (6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 134 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (44 minutes after post)

I love that children nowadays take everything for granted. If her parents were poor and lived in a one bedroom apartment, she would complain about that too! Either way, she would not be happy. Sorry, but you need to be more appreciative of what your parents actually provide for you. Emancipate yourself. Show that you can actually be autonomous and self sufficient to any family court of law and they will let you be free from your “parents who don’t get you.”

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