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I’m going through a state of depression myself and I find that helping others on here makes me feel a little better. I would just say distract yourself etc but i think you’d get better advice from someone who isnt that depressed. The more you help people on here the more you’ll recieve help in general.
Thank you for that. I must admit that helping people does help me with my depression. I’m involved in a few clubs around my area where I get to help people and it really makes me happy to know that I am providing support for somebody.
Hello simone and mas1s. I haven’t really spoken to many people about it. I know that is a pretty bad idea. I speak to certain family members about it but they don’t really understand. I’ve never had the confidence to talk to a grief councillor, but I guess I could always try. Would you seriously reccommend going to a councillor?
Thank you mas1s and I’m sorry about your Dad. I think I will actually do that. I understand what you mean when talking to an anonymous person. I haven’t been on this site long, but I have noticed that a lot of people seem to get a lot of help. Would you recommend staying with this site because it seems to be a nice place?
Hello Daz.
First of all, sorry about your loss.
When I was 15 a good friend of me died in an accident.
I had the luck that we grieved with the entire school.
A lot of people think they have to stay strong. That they have to do it alone.
To be the rock to the people around them.
Fact is, you can’t always play that part. You are human too.
And need to find a way to deal with your loss.
Though it is totally understandably, your friend would have never wished you got into a depression. He would want you to continue on your life and make the most of it.
And you can. Death unfortunately comes with life, and we all have to deal with it.
Personally, I try to remember the beautiful moments with friends and share them with the people around me that knew the person too.
I am still looking for words, and come back to you in a second again.
About staying here at this website? Welcome to the family. =)
Thanks guys. To be honest, I didn’t expect to get such a good response. I know that death is normal, but sometimes it is hard to come to terms with it. I will try and find the number for the councillor and give them a ring tomorrow. I keep on reading about friendlists and shouts here but i arent sure how to use it.
thank you for you help and if I can get the hang of the site I will keep you updated and also try and help people.
Mas said it all.
Perhaps for the moment there is no need to use for more words.
Know that we are available and willing to listen and help.
Also with the plain practical stuff on how the site works.
Hope to hear from you again.
‘kat.
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thanks mas1s and miskat. I’ve just been looking around the site and it doesn’t seem that complex. I still confused with some of the concepts but I’m sure that I will be able to sort something out. thank you for your help and ill maybe log on 2moz and give you an update
These guy’s are great don’t you think? Sorry I didn’t get back to you sooner daz88. I agree with everything that has been said, so goodluck sweetheart hope you find your voice to speak with someone.
awwww Simone! thank you! =)
I am confident Daz will find his way back again.
Sure, it takes some time, but I believe the first steps have allready been taken.
Thank you everyone. Sorry about your IM mas1s. I spoke to a grief councillor today. Only for a bit because I had a prior engagement. It was good and made me feel a bit better. I’ve been looking around here and there seems to be a lot of people that are sound. However I keep on seeing a lot of mean people here. Do you guys have any advice on who to talk to here? Because I am starting to like it here.
Sorry honey you will have to find that out that out yourself. As there are many many more nice people than horrible, too many to name. But looking at your replies you seem to have fallen on your feet and met some of the most helpful and genuine people help has to offer.
Hello everybody. Not a good day today. I was going to talk to the grievance councillor today but I just didn’t feel like it. The reason why is because I found out today that my cousin has been stealing from me. My cousin usually comes round and we always have a fun chat (Well used to). I caught him today stealing money from my wallet. I was so angry at him. I just feel so upset right now.
Oh. Why do you think he feels the need to steal from you.
I don’t know. He was one of the few people that I really enjoyed talking to and felt comfortable talking to. I have only 1 cousin that I can trust now, but that is not what is bothering me. What is bothering me is the fact that I thought I could trust him and he goes and does that to me. He knows the pain I have had to go through the past few years and he… I just don’t know what to do.
You should sit him down and tell him how disapointed you are in him. That you loved and trusted him and he has shot that out of the water. Is he older than you.
Hello daz88. Just to let you know, like simone has said, the people who have already replied (inc. simone) are some of the best helpers on this site.
What your cousin did to you is unacceptable and you should let him know how you feel. I’m guessing you are about 19/20 so if your cousin is younger than you, he may be still under his parents supervision. If he is then have you told his parents yet? He needs to know how much of a bad thing he did to you.
Daz,
I am sorry I didn’t respond earlier, had some stuff of myself to deal with.
About your cousin. Yes, I think you have to confront him with it.
But also not lose your trust in him directly.
Every person makes mistakes, even I have my flaws. =)
(…can’t believe I just admitted that…)
Seems like you don’t know the story behind his stealing yet, figure that out first.
Talk with him about it.
And further, you made some steps allready, perhaps one step back, but that doesn’t mean there is still progress.
We are counting on you that you work on your way back.
I hope you count on yourself as well.
‘kat.
Hello everyone. I spoke to my cousin today about the stealing. I spoke for a while and found out that I’m not the only person that he has been stealing from. He told me that his parents had caught him stealing from them yesterday afternoon. Apparently, this is a problem that he has been having for a while and for some reason finds it enjoyable, but he really wants to stop. It’s hard to understand I know. His parents are trying to get him to see someone about it. I’ve managed to get my money back and I’m going to keep you updated if I find out why he is the way he is. That’s if you want me to.
I haven’t spoke to the grievance councillor today, but I do plan on doing tomorrow, hopefully.
Oh yeah. Thank you for all help that you have given me. You have ALL been great. Hopefully tomorrow, I might feel a bit better and I’ll be able to start helping out a bit more.
I’m sure after a chat with the councillor you will be a bit better. Glad you got your cousin in hand, you work good and fast…=)
I have only got time to make 1 reply because I have somewhere to go and I just wanted to up date you. I spoke with the councillor today. I am feeling a bit better; not brilliant but getting there. It is progress because I am not being as negative as I was about a week ago. I think what I really need is just a bit of sleep and some time to get my thoughts together. I should be ok by then.
Hello everyone. Sorry I haven’t been on in a while. I have gotten over the issue with my cousin. Let’s just say that he is “being repaired” and has got a councillor to help him. I have spoken to the grief councillor the past few days and explained about my cousin and my friend and I felt so much better afterwards.
I went to work yesterday, because I needed to do some overtime and I had this huge burst of positivity and was complimented by my manager. I think I am really getting out of this pit of depression and I feel that pretty soon, I will be back to normal.
Thank you everyone for the help that you have given me. You have no idea how helpful you have been and how grateful I am.
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Can somebody help me
I have recently been going through a phase of depression. My best friend died about a month ago and it has really been getting to me. He was actually my only decent friend and we got on so well. So now I am trying to look for help on how to get out of my pit of depression. I’ve seen the site for a while and seen some people on here that seem pretty sound and I would like to really get involved with helping people as well.
Thank you in advance
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Im sorry mas1s. I cannot handle it anymore. This week has just ripped me apart. This is my last reply. Thank you to everyone who has helped me.
Dude!! What is happening. You were doing so well a few days ago. Please reply. We want to help you. You’ve got my email address if you need to contact me. But please come back here. You were doing so well; don’t give up now.
daz88 what’s the matter? Is there anything you need to talk about with a stranger. I am a really good listener.
Hello everybody. Just to let you all know I spoke to Daz last night after he logged off. It took a lot of persistance but I eventually got speaking to him on MSN. It’s a long story, but I have advised him to see a professional about what has been happening and he said that he is going to try and do that today. He says that he may be back here when he recovers a bit, but for now he wants to stay away.
He has also asked me to keep you updated, which I will. He told me to say to you: “Thank you so much for the help”.
Just thought I would let you all know.
Please let us know how Daz is doing. Daz I’m just another helper here who is concerned for you.
Hello everyone. I spoke to Daz earlier and he has asked me to pass on the following message.
“Hello everyone. Elysium has told me about everything you have been saying. Thank you so much for your support. The reason why I have decided to stay away for now, is because I am currently with a councillor and I am trying to deal with some problems. I hope to get back online at help soon so that I can explain what has been happening. Thank you everyone for your support”
If Daz, gives me anymore messages, I will post them on here, however I do think that he will be coming back soon.
Hi everybody. I was wanted to leave an update for you, because I don’t think it is fair that Elysium keeps doing it.
I’m so sorry for any worry I have caused you all. I really didn’t mean it and I hope you can forgive me for it. I am so grateful for all your gratification. The other week I lost my job and got into some serious arguments with members of my family and have also received death threats from a neighbour. My councillor is really helping me out a lot though, but I think when I come here it may hlep even more. I still feel a bit fragile at the moment, but I have found all of your words so encouraging.
Thank you everybody; Cory, simone, mas1s, miskat and sansceriph. And of course you elysium; thank you for staying up late at night just to talk to me and keeping everyone updated. You are ALL gifts from God.
I made a mistake there. I am grateful for your support and words of encouragemnt. I can’t think straight
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Thank you
Hello everyone. I have been talking to my councillor for a few days now and I am getting a BIT better. I am still not feeling 100%, but good enough to start coming back here. I am feeling so much better. I don’t want to talk about what has happened yet, but I will do when I get a bit more better.
Thank you everyone for your kind words :)
Welcome back chuckles. Catch you later.
It’s good to have you back as much as you are able.
It’s great to know that you have finally started to get things back together again daz. Strange how when you recovered, I began to break down. Maybe it’s a disease and I’m taking it from you :D
I’m ok now though and I am really happy that you are to. All the best
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It’s great to know that you have finally started to get things back together again daz. Strange how when you recovered, I began to break down. Maybe it’s a disease and I’m taking it from you :D
I’m ok now though and I am really happy that you are to. All the best
pft. as if big bro allows you all to stay in that deep dark hole… =) / :P
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