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Okay, so here’s my dilemma.

I feel like suicide.
My family is falling apart.Mum wants to kick dad out and dad just hates everything mum does, and I’m just caught in the crossfire. Both are pressuring to do well at a selective school (a school only smarter kids can get into) and apparently I’m doing awfully. I got all these peers doing so much better than I used to.
On top of that, I’m a genetic freak. I’ve got extra flexible joints (connective tissue dysplacia sp?… different protein in connective tissue.) … meaning I could be labeled ‘freak’ which many have not hesitated to do so. I’ve got a heart leak (minor, but I’m hoping to keep it that way) which prevents me from participating in sports. While I don’t really like it anyway (I know, what a nerd!) I still feel alienated. I also got a really high metabolism, which means all the stuff in food I eat goes straight through.. so I got pencil arms and easily exhausted energy. I get called anorexic a lot. It’s not fun, is it. I run for a few metres or walk up stairs and I’m worn out. There’s this guy who just won’t leave me alone and hits me in the arms a lot. It hurts like hell but I gotta pretend it doesn’t to be ‘manly’.
My only real friend lives on the other side of the planet, so I gotta stay up til 1 in the morning to talk to him without parents noticing. Even then we never get to do a lot. Him and a lot of people also don’t get my concept of ‘I don’t want to get married, I’m not interested in ‘love’ or anything like that’. Him and a lot of other people call me gay when they hear that. After a 1-year failed long-distance relationship I’ve found the whole thing is not my thing. I just feel like there’s nothing worth living for. There’s a lot I want to do but I know I’ll never get to do it. I cant sway myself from suicide for the last few weeks and I feel like its the only real release I can get. I’m just so pissed off at life. You could probably ignore this, it’s amazing you’re still reading. Because soon enough it won’t mean anything. I’ll finally not have to bother with this stupid and sickening world. I know ‘there are those worse off’, so don’t try to tell me about them, because I’m looking down a very deep and dark cliff and there’s no more worries at the bottom.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (23 minutes after post)

“dilemma - A situation that requires a choice between options that are or seem equally unfavorable or mutually exclusive”.

Ok, after reading your post I can almost agree taht your life sucks! Well, I said “almost” because even if the circumstances that you’re in suck, YOU don’t suck! Do not confuse both things! So, if yu have an health problem of some sort, that doesn’t mean you’re a freak, and you do know that. For sure, you’ve got more mental health, and intelligence when compared to someone who calls you “freak” or hits you in the arms!

I’m now 35, but I always was a single child with my parents always arguing. They even get a divorce bur married again two years later to get back to their arguings! Go figure…

What I’m trying to say is that I understand your problems and “dilemma” (a lot through my own experience), whay most do indeed suck! But I’m now 35 and I am happily married. I still have my problems but I’m happy I’ve never given up or lost all hope. Please do the same (or even better!). You seem like a person that I believe whould be a great friend of mine, and that, believe me, counts a whole lot. You will find people in your life (not in your death!!!) that will know how to look into your true nature and will respect you. You have a sensibility in you that is not common. Use it to help people later on. The will thank you.

I was help before, more than once, I sometimes I tery to help somebody else, in any way I can (not as often as I should though). I honnestly believe that sometimes I don’t know how to help. I just hope I can help you, even if a little bit. That will make be happy too. Even if my own stupid ego gets in the way (if you understand what I’m talking about…).

Remember to keep smiling, even if you feel like crying too. The sun will still appear tomorrow.

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2 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 24 minutes after post)

so whats ur dilemma? you have almost decided on suicide as the best escape? alright no one can judge how hard it is for you, its probably the worst, we can’t choose how are lives will be sometimes situations get beyond control. look at it in a different way, something that has been put in front of you as a challenge and work around things. its not gonna be easy, I know its hard. but the fact that you have made an effort to reach out for help shows that you have strength to face things and not escape. do not confuse your self with your sexuality now, let things be concentrate on your studies and distract yourself with things you like doing. most of all brooding on your difficulties is like picking on a raw wound, let it be and you will come through. You have the courage, don’t give up so quick. :)

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