Thought of the day
When you soar with the eagles, you tend to have their vision too!
~ “I don’t think this is working out … “~
Love gone bad; how many times have you said those words or something close to them… It’s not working out, or I don’t know you anymore, or the infamous; “I love you, but I’m not IN-LOVE with you”. Wow, I used to think love was so simple. You loved or you didn’t but there are so many different nuisances; or is there?
In terms of modern psychology there are 3 kinds of love, but none of that really matters when you are breaking up. Nothing can stop the heart ache. Even if you are the one that wants to break up, you too will feel some pangs of upset. Why, because it’s a form of separation, it is a form of loss, and with every loss there is grief.
We all experience grief differently, but there are common threads within the grief process. Grief is a five stage process and it is normal to experience at least one stage in the process. You may feel all five in no particular order. The grief process is recognized by the feelings of: Bargaining (I’ll change, I promise I can change), Denial (she’ll come back… I know she will), Anger (I want to cut his cheating you-know-what off!), Depression (I don’t care anymore - I’m worthless), and finally - Acceptance (I’m ready to move on now by myself). It’s only until we have acceptance where true healing can begin. .
Usually, time is all we need to traverse this process, but sometimes it is necessary to talk to someone so that we do not get hung up on one feeling, like depression, too long. So if you can’t fix things, then understand that you are not going crazy after you break up, you are going through a process that millions of people are going through every single day.
Bright blessing ~ Richard
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