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Right, theres this girl i know, we’ve been friends for around 2 years now, and i don’t think she wants to be neting more than tht.

But i hav a problem, im in love with her, i cant help it. I try telling myself theres no point, but she just seems perfect to me and i dont want neone but her. Is there advice on trying to make her want to turn our friendship into a relationship?

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optimismiles offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

make sure to stay close with her. start planning out cute spontaneous things and maybe she’ll catch on. don’t do anything too drastic because you wouldn’t want to ruin your friendship.

take her stargazing or something.

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Headless Chicken offline Verified User (12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (19 minutes after post)

Learn to spell ?

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dan.- offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (21 minutes after post)

Funny…

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2 months, 1 week ago (50 minutes after post)

Hola bud.

I’m in the exact same situation as you at the moment with my friend, so I know exactly how you’re feeling. Optimismiles is just right, keep her close as a friend - make her feel speacil. And even if she discovers how you feel, and turns you down.. don’t worry about it. Just keep her your friend and always keep her in the back of your mind - who knows what the future holds.

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liesonfilm2 offline Verified User (2 months, 1 week) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 22 minutes after post)

Ask her on a real date and tell her how you feel. Make sure you do it one on one so her response will be genuine. Make it very clear that if shes not into you romantically you still want to be friends like always.

If she doesnt want to be more than friends, thats okay… dont sweat it. It might be weird at first after you tell her you like her, but you two will eventually get over the weirdness if your cool about it. But once she says no, you shouldnt bug her anymore, you should move on, find someone else you like and continue your friendship with her. Who knows, she might find herself a little jelouse and start thinking of you in a different light in the future.

You really have nothing to loose if shes a true friend. Dont wait around forever… tell her how you feel a.s.a.p. and let your love begin… or let your heart start to heal. :)

Good Luck!

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dlilcountrygur offline Verified User (2 months, 1 week) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (6 hours, 55 minutes after post)

i used to feel tht way with my best guy friend then he finally after two years told me tht he didnt feel the same i admit it hurt me and all and it still kinda does when ppl tell me tht they cant belive me and him didnt date

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downman1 offline Verified User (2 months, 3 weeks) Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (7 hours, 58 minutes after post)

Yea sorry your forever in the friend zone with this person. read this article
http://help.com/post/172966-attention…

Hey i was just like you desperate for love never had a good girlfriend had trouble asking out women. But i realized that i wasn’t being a real Man. Romance movies have the sensitive guy who gets the beautiful woman and thats what society has brought us to believe. Really what makes a woman like you is if you are strong.

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downman1 offline Verified User (2 months, 3 weeks) Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (7 hours, 59 minutes after post)

you too anon # read the article

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Fooch offline Verified User (4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (1 day, 1 hour after post)

that was a really good article, thanks for throwing it out there =]

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (1 day, 5 hours after post)

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