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wow, pretty much that exact same thing happend to me. my ex cheated on me-not just once, but had a fling with her for several weeks. and i’m positive they did it “while they were drunk.” and he still denies it and is a complete liar. i hate him and still kind of love him at the same time. yet HE was the one crying and acting like a victim. are you kidding me?! you cheated on ME! i should be crying you *******, and all i wanted to do was punch him in the face and make him confess. but he won’t ever confess and he won’t tell me the truth and he won’t change. i’m sick of hearing all his bullshit about how i am helping him learn and become a better person. well, i can’t sit around HOPING you can change when clearly you aren’t willing to. like you said, if we mean that much to them, why do they cheat on us? i just don’t get it. but then i think about the whole “actions are louder than words” thing, and all he does is talk a bunch of **** with nothing to back it up.

but a question back to you…isn’t it just as hard being friends with him? because i hung out with my ex today and it was kind of like it was before, but it wasn’t because it never can be. but he still wants ANOTHER chance from me and i can’t take it! i don’t even know i can handle being his freind because its so hard. i just imagine his lies and that other girl. so is it better to lose him all together or try to be his friend but still hurt inside?

Actually. Its not hard being friends with him. Sometimes it is because I HATE SEEING HIM WITH OTHER GIRLS. And Im sure they havent F*cked or anything. But Idk he is like my best friend sometimes and I wanna kiss him…But Other times I wanna just slit his throat. But when he talks to me. He talks to me like he doesn’t have a gf and he expects me to just drop and be all over him like we are still togehter. Yea we tell each other we love each other…But thats as friends now. I dont think we will ever love each other like we used to. But its ok. I try to get over him…But its not working.

I know exactly what you mean. That sounds completely unfair to me. He shouldn’t be able to be with whatever girls he wants but expect you to still love him. I don’t think you will ever be over him if you guys are still best friends. I have to force myself not to talk to my ex. it kind of sucks but it helps me get over him and realize what an unfair relationship it was. I dk if that will help you but you deserve better and you’ll never find it if your still holding on to him