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My boyfriends kids are here for 6 weeks.

He feels guilty about having a relationship because his daughter is still not over the divorce.

his ex got pregnant for another man and currently lives with him, its been 4 years.

He only calls me at work and I haven’t seen him since they got here 2 weeks ago. He has yet to mention seeing me while they are here or even meeting them.

I am getting annoyed and starting to feel like I have no place in his life. I understand they will be priority but no plans to see me while they are here???!!!!

Am I overreacting???? Should I just wait out the six weeks and feel that this is justified?

We’ve been together for almost a year now.

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live.enjoylife offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 31 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (46 minutes after post)

I’m with you. I guess I would wonder - why isn’t he including you in stuff with them? Not sure what to do…..because in a way, to me, that says it all….on the other hand maybe he hadn’t even thought you’d want to be included - being direct and honest is usually best….sorry no help!! just wanted to say - sorry youre going through that….yep it’d bug me too/make me feel unimportant too…..on the other hand - his ex already has another husband, he shouldnt bow to his daughters challenges….maybe ask him next time he calls if you can get together too? man, that sux

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Urine Sane offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 35 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 26 minutes after post)

are you over reacting? **** yes you are. theyre his kids!! jesus, how often does he get to se them? he has six weeks to hang out with them, you get him every day and night. let him have some time with them and stop being selfish.

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (6 hours, 5 minutes after post)

Maybe he does not quite know how to arrange a meeting between you and and the children. Could you plan a casual picnic at a park? The kids need not know how deeply you and your guy are involved. If you make it clear to all concerned that you are supportive of the parent-child relationship, it will be easier for all of them to accept your place in their lives.

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