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Does this make me a horrible person?

What’s the best way to cancel a plan? I can’t help but regret it. As in my last post, I said I made a mistake by telling a guy that I would go out with him.. But, I had gone out with him before. And during the time we “went out” I became really depressed and i don’t want to feel like that. And now I’m scared because I feel like crying again… Over all the things I’ve cried at before.. I feel stupid for saying yes.. but I don’t want to hurt him.. He wants me to go to the movies tomorrow with him.. and I told him I could.. It’s all a mistake.. Why am i so stupid?

I need to find a way to cancel going to the movies with him.

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*!Mary-Chan!* edited this post 2 months, 1 week ago. Read the previous text »

I can help but regret it. As in my last post, I said I made a mistake by telling a guy that I would go out with him.. But, I had gone out with him before. And during the time we “went out” I became really depressed and i don’t want to feel like that. And now I’m scared because I feel like crying again… Over all the things I’ve cried at before.. I feel stupid for saying yes.. but I don’t want to hurt him.. He wants me to go to the movies tomorrow with him.. and I told him I could.. It’s all a mistake.. Why am i so stupid?

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (28 minutes after post)

Tell the truth….It’s the best way not to hurt him…Please don’t lead him on. Is the reason you got depressed him?

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*!Mary-Chan!* offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 38 #
Denver, CO, US | 2 months, 1 week ago (30 minutes after post)

I think so.. He made me feel horrible sometimes, and called me a liar about something that I was being totally honest on. Or he would sometimes completely ignore me.. Or talked to me like I was just someone he really hated..

So as for tomorrow. I think I am just going to text him and say that I actually have plans tomorrow…. and then cut it off…shortly after…ugh.. I feel so horrible.

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*!Mary-Chan!* offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 38 #
Denver, CO, US | 2 months, 1 week ago (42 minutes after post)

I feel bad.. I think i might ‘Break up’ with him when I am in texas…

Does this make me a horrible person?

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*!Mary-Chan!* edited this post 2 months, 1 week ago. Read the previous text »

What’s the best way to cancel a plan? I can’t help but regret it. As in my last post, I said I made a mistake by telling a guy that I would go out with him.. But, I had gone out with him before. And during the time we “went out” I became really depressed and i don’t want to feel like that. And now I’m scared because I feel like crying again… Over all the things I’ve cried at before.. I feel stupid for saying yes.. but I don’t want to hurt him.. He wants me to go to the movies tomorrow with him.. and I told him I could.. It’s all a mistake.. Why am i so stupid?

I need to find a way to cancel going to the movies with him.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 14 minutes after post)

Cancel plans as soon as you don’t feel right. Don’t lead him on. Let him know it is not going to work.

It does not make you a horrible person. We all learn from our experiences. :)

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*!Mary-Chan!* offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 38 #
Denver, CO, US | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 20 minutes after post)

I’m going to tell him soon.. I just can’t date him hahaha.
I want to keep my bestfriend and laugh at the dumb mushrrom joke forever and have us be best friends.. true bestfriends I am sooo happy I have my bestfriend back! I don’t want to ruin it.. and for now.. I don’t need to “go out ” with somebody.. plus that guy he probably just broke up with someone and asked me out so he can have someone to date… hmm this is still hard.. he’s on msn.. and I need to say this the most nice way as possible… but how?

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*!Mary-Chan!* offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 38 #
Denver, CO, US | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 46 minutes after post)

Well there goes a huge weight off of my chest. I told him. and now i feel amillion times better. Thanks!~

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