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If you kill yourself your kids will never forgive you. I spoke with a woman who’s mother killed herself when she was a little girl and now she’s an adult and still mad at her mom. That wound doesn’t heal. That’s enough reason to never kill yourself.

If at first you don’t succeed…

AHHH! It was SARCASM!

Just, umm, learn a Rubik’s Cube.

dont be a tard pez!!! you know how upset you were when sarah tried. you really want to do that to your children? your girlfriend? sarah? thats just cruel.
you may feel you have nothing to live for, but ill bet your kids wouldnt say that. they wont think “oh im better off without her”. theyll think oh my god. my mother killed herself. i should have seen it, i should have been better, its my fault, and a whole bunch of other things you wont want them to think. just because youre thinking one way doesnt mean thats how its going to turn out.
your girlfriend is there because she loves you. not because she has to be. do you really want to give her guilt for the rest of her life?
in actual fact, its more wrong of you to go kill yourself and give no one a chance to help you. because your girlfriend will want to help.

who cares what people think here. if they think youre a troll, **** em. tell em to shove it. you know youre not, and that should be enough.

“I know they will be taken care of and loved, more then what I can give them. “

Uhm…by who? Maybe that person could watch over them for awhile so you can go to the hospital?

Please don’t suicide. You’re kids will spend their whole lives wondering why you would rather be dead than be with them.

Your girlfriend will spend her whole life wondering what she did wrong, and what she could’ve done instead.

Whatever is in your mind and thoughts, you can learn to overcome it. But you have to stay alive.

I’m with courtybubble,’Dont be a tard Pez’.But seriously,Pez, I know we dont know each other very well and this crazyness with the ‘troll’ thing sure put a damper on that but put that aside for a minute.(I dont even care about all that anyway)Just listen carefully please.I know babies and kids,they are everything to me.I know the impact this would have on them.sure they may learn to live with it,accepting this undeserving thing layed in their lap but as long as they live and breath this would hang over their head like a dark shadow following them where ever they go,in everything they do.A mother has something no-one can replace ,a connection they will not find anywhere .someday you will see that when you look into their eyes and know in your heart they love you just as you are.Please dont take that away from them.Focus on them for now ,putting aside your troubles,just enjoy every moment you can with them they will show you the way .Also, they are your responsibility , your job,first and foremost,it doesnt matter if they will have their needs met,its mom they want and need when they fall down.Also,talk to your girlfriend.its times like these that make a relationship grow and blossom into a deeper ,more intimate one.Your all in this together,a family,dont separate yourself.

youre not selfish, youre hurting.

pez420 wrote:
I hope my sons will forgive and forget me. My girlfriend Im sure will someday understand.

It SEEMS that way but it’s wrong! Your mind isn’t seeing things straight. I’ve been there. It seems like your kids would be fine in time and even better off without you. It seems like you’d be doing them a favor but you’re wrong! It will effect them harshly for the rest of their lives. It’s the worst thing you could do to them. Your last act causing the most pain that will burn in them for the rest of their lives.

Have you tried therapy to deal with whatever the reason is that you resent your kids? I’d sure try that first before I tried suicide.

But it can be fixed.Theres a name for what you have,yes a label,but it Can be totally erradicated.I promise you.You just have to hang on.

Maybe it’s time for medication then.

Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.seek faith,believe in it,practice it……honey, to look at it from your girlfreinds position she cannnot be objective ,so she is probably holding back what she should be saying as a therapist.To risk hurting feelings and causing problems in the relationship.Seeing a therapist that can be objective will help .im sure of it.And waht else have you tried? Self-help?, self-knowlege of your condition?You cant just give up without a fight

maybe a change in meds?

Different meds then. ****** I have had a very hard life, more than my share of tragedy, and lord knows i’ve been deeply depressed but the right combo of meds can pull you out of it. suicide is not the answer. ever.

Dang you pez,give me a minute will ya.

now i lost my train of thought since you got off yahoo….When you have these thoughts are they passing ones or do you actually picture it in your mind or plan it out?How to and what to use? Well, you probably wont answer anyway.so,, after a while you will see the babes as individual people.they will not be just the babies,or boys or the result of a happening.they will be blank and blank.,Please just hang in there to see that.This is the most crucial time for them to bond with you.If you choose to not take full responsibility,then just focus on quality time.give and do what you can….Im off to bed,exhausted..

i know how it fells to have someone attempt suicide. in fact just a bout a week ago my step mother tried. as for you thinking about it and your kids being better off, thats bull crap. when you take your own life you not only take yours but the lifes of those around you as well. all your friends and love ones will spend thier whole life thinking why? and what sis they do or what could they have done to prevent it. dont do this to your kids. they need you. be their for them.

i hope i helped you and if you need some one to talk to just let me know.
stone_wolf_09

Your anger at your children is misplaced. You’re angry at something else, but it comes surging up in the presence of your kids. Also, because they pose no threat to you, it’s easier to take your emotions out on them then it is to identify and repair the original problem.

Please don’t suicide. Give the meds and therapy time. Go to the hospital immediatly if you think you will hurt yourself.

Pez come on, you know better then this. Please take my word for it, suicide is not the answer. I know you love your boys, and are just scared of yourself. Remember what you said when you decided to keep Cody and Jackson? You said they werent a reminder of what happen, they are your stregnth, your future, your way to start healing. Remember? you said they were gonna help you live, love, and be happy. Keep trying to remind yourself of that. I remember the look on your face when you found out it was twins, you were so happy remember? please. I hope you got some rest and are working through this. Im gonna need a best friend when I get out of here, I need you to keep visiting me, so I dont die of boredom. I NEED YOU, CODY AND JACKSON NEED YOU, VALE NEEDS YOU. You are gonna be ok, you told me so remember?

hmmm….you need to analyze this…really well…its pratically normal for fathers to be enraged with their kids…once in a while…so dont feel like your the worst dad….many fathers get angry…but obviously…this is a constant problem you keep dealin with…in those moments of resentment…why not take a deep breath…and go outside…look at the sky…look at the grass…the beauty in it…the magnificent feeling of breathin and …jus have the ability to see…appreciate life…appreciate the little things you have…look at the wonders it is to …have children…how one day theyll grow up and youll be so proud of them…jus to get to the point of seeing them grown up…that would be wonderful dont you think….they are your own creation…arent they…??? look at life in the optimistical point of view…its good to always have somebody to talk to…why not make new friends…talk to your wife…tell her how much you love her…everyday…tell your kids …i luv you…everyday…the power of love is incredible…but most importantly…start lovin ur self…come on….you kno…that if you make the most of your life…your life would be so much well worth it…reach dreams….do something you always wanted to do…explore…find an outlet with art…reading books…get distracted from your own negativity…and be thankful you have the physical ability to walk to touch to see..to memorize….many people in this world turn cold turm bitter because of problems wit depression…just the fact that your here…tryin to be heard …trying to see if there is a solution…should let you kno…that you are tryin….that not all of your hope is gone…that there is something in your heart tellin you….there must be a better solution to this…and all of us can see that there is…but you…find it hard to…and i understand…if i wer in ur shoes…maybe i would see all the cob webs that make your mind feel so cluttered…but trust me…if there were no solution to this…no one would have cared to write at least a lil words of advice…which obviously must mean…THERE IS a SOLUTION…be kind to yourself…you are not going to be the perfect husband or father…you are not going to be the worlds greatest…cus honey…nobody is….perfect…i wnat to let you kno…from personal experience…it is at times like this wen you feel like no one can help you wen you must realize sometimes…no one can’t…you have to take the initiative to realize there is a greater force out there…making this world go round…a greater force out there…that put the sun in the sky…and that he’s just waitin for you to realize…you need him…some poeple really don’t believe…but many find…there only solution is by starting to believe …Jesus can help many…they just dont want to kno he can…..so before you start your day…clean your mind….concentrate…and with all your heart ….believe someone out there is hearing you…than speak…on your knees…tell him your problems…pour your heart out to him…tell him you need help…and that …your not willing to give up easily…keep in mind…this has to be a something you do consistently…its not going to get fixed in a matter of a couple a days…this is going to take a while…until you reinforce your faith…please honey…dont give up…trust me…this world is not going to get any better ..by not having you…its going to still be as evil as it can get…but dont let it consume you…please…be brave…be strong…have faith…for the love of your kids…of your wife…even though you dont see how…but obviously…they love you…no matter wat happens …your still going to be their dad…your still going to be that husband…you already left an imprint within their hearts…even if you disappear…you will still mean so much to them…it will be like you never left…dont do this to them…dont do it to yourself…i’ll be praying for you…

Pez , you are a wonderful person , the world needs people like you . You might be scared of the future but who isn’t ? I’m here for you , I believe we are friends so please shout me whenever you want to talk .

Your babies won’t ever be better without you , you are their mumy .