friends help: My best friends Dad died when we were about 8. - Help.com

You can only hug her and keep telling her you’re there for her, she’s not alone.

ok, i am 14 and my dad died a few months ago…
but really helped me the most was just knowing that my friends were there for me.
and that i wasnt alone in this.
because when people that you love die, it just makes you feel alone.
and i advice spending as much time with her.
and it is VERY hard to deal with, because i still have suicide thoughts, and i still want to die. and this mostly started since my dad died, but there were times before, and stuff just keeps happening at its annoying. and it drags people down.
so, just let her know you love her, and she isnt alone. and that she can always talk to you, or that if she comes on here she can find people who know what its like. because it is hard for people who havent expeirienced (spelling?) it to know just how bad it hurts…

Yes be there for her - and, also, while its okay to grieve its not healthy to have a spirit of grief come over you. If this happens a LOt - its a problem. It is healthy to deal with it and move on….it could be she’s displacing general depression misery onto that and it isn’t healthy - in which case maybe try to get counseling, seek a minister - get some help. Yes she needs being supported but also it would be healthy if she could have a grateful happy attitude for what she DOes have instead of having that define her/take up her energy and steal her joy and peace …years later..She needs to find a way to healthily deal with this and move on. And yes, my father died too….I’m not heartless, just think its healthier to keep in perspective, move on, put it in its place, and choose joy….its been years….sounds like she needs help particularly if its happening a lot. not healthy….sorry dont mean to sound harsh….you sound like a good friend…