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I recently started living with the girl of my dreams.

I love her so much I feel that I am a little scared that she will hurt me. I am a risk taker and I really believe that she is the one and only for me. We are so compatible we are both so funny and love life so much, I recently found out 2 weeks ago that I will be having a beautiful baby with this amazing woman. Its an honor to have a baby with her, I have one dilema, I have always considered and have strived to be a real man. one that provides, in everyway possible and then some only because love is that. She comes from an abusive past in her relationships, I admire her she is so amazing and strong. Though the men she had were loosers, abusive mentally sexually, and physically with her, non providers, leaches, lazy would not help around the house, drunks and drug addicts. She treats me like she can do it all. I often notice she pushes me away, and It hurts me. I love her so much I really want to show her how I feel for her. Currently the landlord that she has is going foreclosed and to me she stole her money for months and took her for a ride, on top of that the ac at home went out and the land lord refuses to fix it since I now refuse to give away rent to a thief. So its been 3weeks in Las Vegas weather of 110 and its her 3 year old daughter and I living in a one bedroom in order to keep cool. Today she took my laptop and showed me what hypocandria can do to our 4week growing beautiful fetus which is brain damage to to a mothers heat stroke during pregnancy. I enfurated and threatened a lawsuit on this lady by the end of the month. She yelled at me and closed her self to confrontation and told me to stay out of it for good. this makes me feel pushed away, I want to protect her she is now with a new breed of a man that loves her unconditionally and would literally give my life for her. I am very passionate about my family and take it to a level where I will go against anyone anytime to protect them and she has disarmed me, I dont want to upset her especially now. What do I do, how am I suppose to love this woman, how do I love her without offending her and making her feel over loved. I am so lost, I hope my email makes sense I need advice.

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bfleming offline Verified User (3 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (3 minutes after post)

your doing the right thing…your protecting her..anyone who loves something protects it right??

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (10 minutes after post)

It sounds like she’s had to become very self-reliant because of the hardships she’s been through, and I’m sure she’s furiously protective of her child. She’s not a helpless maiden that’s fallen into your arms, and you have to give her room to be the independent woman she’s become, otherwise she’ll feel helpless and scared handing over all the reigns to you.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (20 minutes after post)

How do I do this, I am lost I dont understand how do I know when

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (23 minutes after post)

try giving her some space just hang out with the guys a little more and when she is ready to get bring you closer to her she will let you know…just be patient

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (23 minutes after post)

baca.jess wrote:
How do I do this, I am lost I dont understand how do I know when

You have to change your mind’s image of her from helpless damsel in distress to strong independent woman. Can you love her as a strong independent woman instead of a damsel in distress?

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (28 minutes after post)

I can Chameloeon I love her anyway possible. I had never felt this strong about anyone before, I can give her her space and I will make an effort to learn to not be so overprotective. I am so attracted to her self reliance, Its just that I need practice letting her solve herself. Should I communicate how I feel about this situation or should I just let it go.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (29 minutes after post)

Open communication is always good! Whenever you can let your girlfriend know what you’re feeling inside - it’s a good thing! I wish all men could figure that out!

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (33 minutes after post)

maybe try to wait and if she asks talk about it…or wait to let her know when you feel you have improved in your goal …but if you feel like its something that u guys should talk about then talk away

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (33 minutes after post)

I have to pick up where she isnt, In my past relationship I was the one who avoided communication and it didnt work out, I dont want the same now that I found the girl of my dreams I am willing to pick up where she cant at the moment. I have chosen to make her happy everyday and show her my love and also let her know of how loved I feel from her.

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3 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 30 minutes after post)

I appreciate your instincts but a) if she’s used to being independent…b)used to having loser guys — you may need to back off/listen to what she wants/needs to not crowd/bug her……let it go….otherwise you may seem needy. if she’s asking or showing she wants some space, its not loving to keep at her….you sound like a great guy you can do it…

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