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I need advice.

I recently moved out and my mom who is very controling is upset towards me for leaving the family home. My elder brother and sister live with her and I still run errands for her. What is her problem?

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Chameleon offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 13 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

It’s hard for some moms to let go. It might be a big scary change for her when her children start leaving home. Sometimes a moms identity is totally wrapped up in taking care of her kids. But you shouldn’t feel guilty, you’re doing the healthy thing by moving out and being an adult on your own. Just let her know you still love her and hopefully she’ll come around.

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tmende offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

Thanks I feel better inspite of her making me feel like a traitor. Your response has made me feel more seure in my decision.

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Chameleon offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 13 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

Glad to hear it :) I’m a mom and my kids are about ready to start moving out. I dread it and just hope I handle it better than your mom is. But forgive her, she’s doing the best she can like we all are. Sometimes our emotions just get the best of us.

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c-eek offline Verified User (5 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 19 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

Maybe you can tell your mom that when she misses you too much, she can come over for a sleep-over. She will get a chuckle out of that, I’m sure.

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