Love help: i hate it when im going in to the maternity ward and all eyes - Help.com

Why worry so much about what others opinions are if you know the truth and they dont? They are making assumptions based on limited information and the fact that most 20 year olds dont really know what a healthy relationship is. You on the other hand know all the facts, and so, know the truth. You cant make people not “assume” things… because everyone draws some kind of conclusion in their mind to everything they see… its how the mind works. But we dont all have to voice those conclusions or display them in our character or expressions (becasue they could change depending on the information we get). So a mature person keeps their first assumptions to themselves usually - but no all peopel have practiced such a thing. Most let their emotions and thoughts clearly come out on their faces and verbably. But you cant help that. All you can do is either realize the truth - that they dont know all the info and are just naturally drawing a common conclustion for today…. or take the time to repetivetly tell on lookers and commenters a few basic facts whihc may or may not change their conclusion they’ve made anyway.

Wow! ‘d like to say I can’t believe people would outwardly make those remarks to you but these days they really think it’s acceptable to insult someone in public. You sound like you are doing a good job of standing tall and looking down your nose at them so keep it up. I had a few friends who got pregnant young and they are great mothers. I also know a few friends whose ‘happily’ married parents who had them in their 20’s or 30’s really, really screwed their kids up so age doesn’t always count for everything.

I’m jealous. If at twenty you look like a teenager (which is maybe why they seem so shocked) just imagine how stunning you will look at 30 ! and 40! Relish the attention and tell yourself it’s just because you have such youthful looks.

You’re happy .. you’re stable… that’s what counts.

Try not to be sensitive when others are insensitive.

My friend is only 18 and about to have a baby in a somewhat unstable relationship. But i love her to death and i know everyone supports her. People shouldn’t be asking you questions about your personal life if they don’t know you. You are going to do fine and there’s always going to be rude people but just brush them off, they don’t matter to you anyway.