friends help: ok, my girlfriend has this 28 year old guitar teacher..well…did…she quit and now im teaching her..anyway, me and her are both only 14. - Help.com

oh geeze. what a situation. honestly, if you start something it’s not going to change anything. i mean really, think about it. you should be proud of helping her get through such harsh things so far, keep doing that. if anything just make the guy feel bad about it. i’m not sure how that’s exactly possible.

and why did she black out? that’s such a scary thought.

Violence only creates more violence, plus, you will be sent to jail, which is bad……your girlfriend needs to tell her mother, (if her mother can’t see that she hides behind you) maybe not about the -er- touching but if she just says that this guy makes her uncomfortable, posibly…i don’t know, just throwing out suggestions, this is way over my head…….

what a situation .. maybe she needs to go church and confess it . even tho im not religious she might need to get her feelings off her cheast

yer ftballfozz00 is right, if i where u i would get you and ur g/f to go and talk it out with him, say that you want him to not come over or ANYTHING, what he did is wroung and u should point that out and the only way he can make it up is by trying to have the least ammount to do with her, he mite not do this then i would tell your g/f that she SHOULD tell her mum…

YEs.. i think the best choices if for HER to go to the police about this… if you start to do things.. you could lose your girlfriend.

You be there to continue to support her and stand by her.

Being the age she is - authorities and laws take this sort of thing very seriousally - this guy could get in a lot of trouble. She needs to stand up to him though…and do something about this. And i think going and reporting him or talking to a child protective service woman would be your best shot. She may be more at east talking to a woman in a private place about this - they have shelters, orginazations, child protective services, social workers, and such that she can talk to that would give her more accurate information on what her options are… before she goes to the police. That may be a better path, becasue they can help prepare her.

If she doesn’t want to tell her mom then tell the cops but tell them to keep it anon, they have to follow your wishes. They will take this seriously if her mom won’t. This guy is NOT allow to do that!

CALL THE COPS

I hate to suggest this, not knowing what kind of reputation your girlfriend has. If this is out of the question, ignore the post. But if your girlfriend is so dead set against telling her mom, then maybe your girlfriend somehow provoked the teacher’s behavior, like flirted or touched him back. It’s possible that if she tells her mom further investigation will reveal that she participated in the behavior as well.

Renegade_007 wrote:

Leopardfly wrote:
I hate to suggest this, not knowing what kind of reputation your girlfriend has. If this is out of the question, ignore the post. But if your girlfriend is so dead set against telling her mom, then maybe your girlfriend somehow provoked the teacher’s behavior, like flirted or touched him back. It’s possible that if she tells her mom further investigation will reveal that she participated in the behavior as well.

That wouldn’t matter what she did He’s an adult and is dead wrong .

That is true. Ask her why she doesn’t want to tell her mom, though, because it’s a serious situation.

Maybe you could write him a letter, tell him that you know what he did and that you will file a police report if he ever gets near her again. Tell him he should stay away from her, her house, and better find a good excuse for it too, or you will tell her mother, the cops and whomever of his family you can find. He knows **** well that it’s illegal what he’s been doing! Write all of that in a letter and hand it over to him the next time you see him at her house.
You don’t actually have to be prepared to follow up on the threat, that’s a decision you can make later, if it’s really necessary.
Of course, you should only do this if you feel comfortable with the idea of confronting him. I just thought it would be more productive than striking a blow at his face the next time you get angry about his behaviour.