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Bah is that all your going to kill yourself over? Try going to locations to get a job not just sending out online resumes. There are places even if it’s a **** job… go work at McDonalds….

Why don’t you go to a temp agency?

first of all, don’t give up.
isn;t there a job centre near you?

dstutzbach wrote:
Bah is that all your going to kill yourself over? Try going to locations to get a job not just sending out online resumes. There are places even if it’s a **** job… go work at McDonalds….

not kind words for someone who is feeling suicidal. i seriously recommend you think before you say anything.

It’s not just that it’s everything. I have been thinking about killing myself and attempted many times in the past 20 years and I am just done with life altogether. Nothing in my life is even close to good. I have nothing to be happy about no job no money no friends my family hardly speaks to me what reason do i have to live???

A staffing agency is a great idea. You can pick the hours and days and you usually get paid more per hour than if you get hired on by the company itself. Plus, they have temp to hire positions. Just remember you don’t get the benefits (life and medical) if you work through the staffing agency. Plus, they are helping look for jobs for you. More feelers for a position.

I think they are being overly dramatic… So no. I’ve heard horrible stories on here before that defiently warrant “suicidal talk”… If there is more to his/her story that they aren’t sharing I may retract my statement… however… I hold fast in my statement for now.

thanks for your support thought this would be a good place to come but never mind sorry for wasting your time.

Not wasting my time if there is more to your story…

If you need to talk…talk people are listening

If your topic was “Help! Need to find a job” Well then I would just addressed you in a more light hearted manner. Keep your ear to the ground.

nicolesredbu wrote:
It’s not just that it’s everything. I have been thinking about killing myself and attempted many times in the past 20 years and I am just done with life altogether. Nothing in my life is even close to good. I have nothing to be happy about no job no money no friends my family hardly speaks to me what reason do i have to live???

I experience that feeling too. i find it hard to make friends, get job, father died in 2006.

dstutzbach wrote:
If your topic was “Help! Need to find a job” Well then I would just addressed you in a more light hearted manner. Keep your ear to the ground.

you are not being helpful, i believe you are being very rude and inconsiderate.

I don’t know why i feel the way i do anymore i just can’t stop feeling this way. I am just tired of living I have nothing to live for anymore. I have no reason to get up in the morning there is nothing there for me. Just me alone with no one to talk to at all. I just feel like a am more of a burden then anything and that it would be easier on everyone if i wasn’t here.

I understand how you feel. I am in the same boat..
I dont have a job..Unemployed. And i was working through a temp agency and i got to call them but ya they say i havent been calling and want to take my benefits away..
And all the jobs i have been applying for send me letters or messages saying position already been filled. And also I hardly got any friends either..but you and i got to look to the future..maybe something good will come along.

Do you want to die or do you want things to get better? I take care of people every week who try to kill themselves in the emergency department. It’s not pretty, and usually doesn’t work. You’re crying out for help and there are a zillion places to help you. Tell us what you need.

No I’m not… I’m being forceful in telling him to reevaluate his/her stance on acquiring a job, and trying to make him/her realize that he is taking things to far. Sometimes people need a splash of cold water. There are avenues to take… in fact many people gave him excellent recommendations…. Now that he is talking about these other issues I will address them…

How old are you Nicolesredbu? (if you don’t mind me asking) And with that how much education?

We can’t experience the “heights” of life without the lows. Stick around for that. It will come.

nicolesredbu wrote:
I don’t know why i feel the way i do anymore i just can’t stop feeling this way. I am just tired of living I have nothing to live for anymore. I have no reason to get up in the morning there is nothing there for me. Just me alone with no one to talk to at all. I just feel like a am more of a burden then anything and that it would be easier on everyone if i wasn’t here.

I think you need to find help and support. instead of setting high standards for urself, be willing to accept help whenever a person offers you it.

i have been waitin for that something good forever and i only get more bad things. I thought i found the answer with my last job i was making 70,000 a year loved it then they went bankrupt and i am left all alone again nothing good has ever happened in my life so why should i think it will start now

Ok what are your hobbies….

You are DEPRESSED!!!Pick up the phone and call 911.You will get meds, counseling, job help. They want to help you. This is very common. Please call NOW!! The chemicals in your mind are not correct. It’s no different than any other disease. Do it now.

I am 31 years old with one semester of college years ago though and i don’t have any hobbies really at all nothing makes me happy anymore so I don’t do anything

I live with 911 my father is a police officer and I don’t want anyone to know they will be embarrased trust me they think it’s stupid been there done that I don’t know if i want help really i think i made up my mind

My first recommendation would be to get some loans to go back to school…go back for anything just take a few common classes. Self improvement will help you develop some self worth…. Then and in addition to use some of your free time to do volunteer work… anything…. any volunteer work. It will make you feel better about yourself, you will meet kind hearted people willing to listen to you, and help you.

Hobbies and school won’t fix this. Therapy and meds will. Call for help now! I mean it. I work in the dang ED and I’ve seen lots of cops family there. They are not any less dead or OD’d. No one cares about being embarrassed. Doc’s kids. Lawyers kids.

Therapy can help as well yes… but it’s not a one trac thing… you have to make adjustments in your life in order for therapy to be effective… if your life is not what you want it to be… then you need to make changes, and yes Therapy can be helpful but isn’t the total solution… As far as meds go… they are debatable.

When someone is suicidal, meds are not debatable. They can be short term, but a hug won’t work.

I appreciate your advice bethbroc but i don’t think its an option that i want right now. I had a huge fight with my mother and decided that if she came after me to talk about things then i would tell her how i feel because that meant she cares but she never came after me so now i feel i don’t owe her enough to tell her since she doesn’t care at all. maybe she doesn’t want me here maybe i’m better off just dying maybe everyones life will jsut be easier than.

Now you’re playing games. Which makes me feel better. A good sign.

Didn’t say anything about a hug…. I think society is to quick to medicate and the side effects can be horribly debilitating or cause horrible MENTAL side effects.

what do you mean

I agree, society over medicates. and the side effects are horrid. In some situations, there isn’t an option.

I’m saying you should be evaluated by a professional before adminstrating drugs… and one that isn’t in the back pocket of the drug companies (a feat in of itself)…

Nicolesredbu you still hanging around? Any feelings on these suggestions…

I don’t understand what you mean by i am playing games!!!!!!! I just wanted to see if anyone cared to even know what was wrong but i now know they don’t so i guess they won’t really care if i kill myself either they probably wouldn’t even miss me or even know i was gone. I will probably be a relief for them

Nicole,You’re playing “If you really Love Me, You’ll See How Much I Hurt”. I’ve played it, we all have. I know you want relief, and love and someone to save you. I totally understand. But don’t you see, you don’t want to die. You answered that your self.

hey listen dont kill yourself its not the awnser trust me. people who kill themselves go to hell do u reallky want to go there? please accept help..
thats the best thing to do. the only reason you got on here is for help soo please lert me be ur friend let me help

but i really do. I have no reason to stay so why shouldn’t i

Lets not bring religion into it until the person who’s posting does…

oh just shutup

Create a reason to stay… make yourself important. Even if it’s in someone’s life who is seemingly inconsequential…

I am not a religious person I don’t believe in god or heaven or hell. I believe we die we are buried and that’s it

Because you gave your mom a chance to come, you’re giving us a chance, and in the morning you get another chance. That’s how we do this thing.

fruitportchi wrote:
oh just shutup

Perhaps you are unaware of the rules for the site and need to look at them before telling me to shut up…

I don’t know how many more chances i wanna give out though.

well..if there is a heaven you prolli would wanna go there. So ya the end about religion

i only wish i could convince you otherwise. do me a favor, after you finish reading my post go sit and think about it. think about what everyone wrote and then stop. think about it from a different state of mind, and optimistic view where you can actually take such opportunities.

it’s really depressing to see somebody stuck like you, writing about how unemployment has lead you to such thoughts. a job isn’t living, money isn’t living. we’ve all been given organs and bodies that work, eyes that see, and ears that can hear beautiful things. we can speak too. we have all been given the gift of life as they say. how lame sounding. but, taken into consideration it actually means a whole lot. do what you want to do, be a free spirit and travel, explore, learn, meet new people, try new things, have you ever had indian food? climbed a mountain? stargazed at the beach? sure money is a basis, a flaw which society has ruled everything around.. but if you save and work hard enough you’ll find you can afford a change in your life that will potentially bring you happiness. after all, if you’re going through the bad things in life now, or some of which, then it will make the good all the better when you get there. so don’t take the easy way out and give up- keep going so you can look back and be glad you made it through this rough spot. you’ve got nothing to lose and the world to gain, and we’re here for you while you get through things always

Just keep giving one more chance at a time.Just like taking 1 hour at a time. That’s all I’m asking.

You have to think Nicolesredbu how many chances would you ideally want… (i’m not saying you will always get that many but…) take how many you would want and give ten times that amount…. everyone deserves more chances then they get, be the better person.

If you want I will give you my phone number, and you get ***** about everything, cry, scream, call me foul names….and i want say anything….

Exactly! I promise you tonight is NOT the night! You must keep giving us a chance, because one of us will always be here with you.

It all sounds so easy to the rest of you to just do things i’ve never done and i won’t be able to do them if i die but I don’t even leave my house most of the time I don’t enjoy doing anything I really don’t like new things nothing makes me happy at all nothing has ever made me happy maybe i am a mistake and not supposed to be here and that’s why i never remember baing happy ever maybe i’m not supposed to be happy if i don’t die alone now i’ll just end up dying alone later and regretting not killing myself when i am miserable

Happiness is a swing. As stupid as that sounds. One simple step. Find and swing set and swing like you are 10 years old again.

the biggest mistake you will ever make is to kill urself

i got to a place in my life where i didn’t enjoy things anymore. so i pushed myself out the door to try new things. first it was awkward, i felt lost. at least i was getting out i thought. but now i’ve found where i belong, who i am, and things that truely make me happy.

push yourself to branch out. give it a shot

I feel that way a lot, believe it or not… and it’s f***ing hard a lot… but I find things… You have to spread your sphere of awareness into other realms, things you would never ever do… go do them. I’m saying even you think you will absolutely hate it. Give yourself a chance.

Would we all be here if we were happy all the time? NO! Helping others helps us and talking to you makes me worry. We all care about you. Isn’t that enough that total strangers care? In this big ugly world you found all of these people who stopped what they were doing to stop you. Give the world a chance. We have ALL been where you are.

I’ve never been someone who will do new things especially not alone I won’t even eat in a restaurant or go to a movie because i won’t do it alone. I cant’ do new things alone i never have and i just can’t

there are many things in life that could make you happy…
a new pet…a new love…you will find friends..im sure every single one of these people here talking to you now would be willing to be your friend.
theres soo much to life and to end it all now? you will be totally losing out on everything

Where do you live?

bethbroc you really do have a good poitn

Me and my fiancie if close enough would be willing to spend time with you, take you to a new restaurant.

i’m sure there’s somebody you can confide in. anybody. an old friend? or go out and make a new friend. if you truely want to end your life and are upset right now, you should feel you’ve got nothing to lose.

and yes, one hour at a time. things change, perhaps good will find you even if you’re not looking

I can’t believe all of you even care enough to offer me this advice. I didn’t think anyone would respeond really i just wanted to post this and put it out there ya know get it out i had no idea anyone would ever really be here to post anything back

This is therapy for me… it helps to shed light on my own problems… and find ways to fix them.

yeah alot of people care about people who are having problems.

Nicole,this place really cares. We want to help. Just keep reaching out as much as you need.

Especially when you have had the same problem before.

i am sure one of these people talking to you now have probably thought about killing themselves in their lifetime. and nobody wants you to make that mistake. You dont know how much pain it would probably bring to the people that love you.

i really do appreciate the fact that everyone here has taken time out to help me I really though i would post something and never get anything back from it. I was surprised when people actually started writing in response. And your right I have been offering excuses to why i should kill myself because i really really really want to do it tonight but i am starting to think that one more night won’t hurt

one day, one night at a time. Baby steps, with us at your side. You can do this.

tomorrow could be the best day of your life. and just because you feel nobody cares for you in your life now, doesn’t mean you won’t find people that do care. i mean, we care of course. but if you give it one more night, then another, and another, then with time will come good things.

Why not start the next day watching the sun rise? You can do that at home by yourself. Maybe stop by the grocery store and smell the flowers in the cooler?
I do it every time, though I get a lot of weird looks.

Amanda, I know what you mean. If we all got started we’d never stop. We’d all be liars if we said we hadn’t.

When you’re young or hurting things aren’t as clear as they are when everything is ok.
Everything is amplified and you feel out of touch. Time will help.

life is hard..but it is a adventure thats worth sticking through