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The world is a shallow place. You can’t fake being happy forever. At some point you have to let out the sadness to move on.

Oooh. I like this post. Interesting point. I DON’T agree with you. At least, not entirely.

You do have to fake your appearance sometimes. Successful people know that other people judge them by how they look. (We can’t help it - sometimes, appearance is all we have to go by.) If you look like you’re unhappy, then people will often avoid you or think poorly of you. Happy people tend to make more friends.

But that doesn’t mean you should go around faking smiles. You need to think carefully about when you can be yourself and be honest about how you feel. Whenever you can, try to be honest. Your true friends don’t want you to fake smiles with them - so be honest with your friends. Close relationships are built on sharing the good times and the bad.

And when you do feel happy, make sure to share it with others. That way, when you’re unhappy, you can fake less. It takes energy to fake, and it hurts a little piece of you. In the end, the best solution is to try to deal with the things that make you unhappy, so you can smile and mean it.

That’s true….Sometimes you have to fake a smile…Pretend you are okay, just to deal with day to day life. You can’t explain why you are crying to everyone you meet…I am not very good at hiding my emotions…But I can act and I can lie about whats wrong and just walk away from someone who doesn’t really care asking whats wrong….

for a while it’s easier to fake it, but finally… when people mature you can be yourself. that may sound shallow but that’s true. and once you feel you can be yourself easily, then it’s about finding out who you really are.

I get that a lot, that people don’t like others for themselves…But I’ve always disagreed. Yes there are those people who judge automatically, but if you just stay open to everyone and everything there’s always people who are willing to be your friend.
Being joyous and honest just draws people, no matter how different you may be from someone, if you’re willing to make an effort, chances are someone else is going to respond, actually lots of people will respond.

I think you want to unload…Tell us whats wrong….We are here to help :) Please tell me?

don’t depend on others to ask. ask yourself, make a list of things that make you happy or things you want in life. branch out and go for it, you’ve got a lot ahead of you so don’t feel like you’re stuck!

ah… now we’re getting to why you’re feeling lonely.

well, silly, if no one is asking you what’s wrong - than you should start by making friends who WILL ask. that’s not easy or fast, but it’s a start. and as I pointed out, frienda are also people whom you don’t have to fake with.

but pollyannapenguin did ask - and so am i - what’s making you feel sad?

We’re all ears all_alone.

all_alone wrote:
what if there is nothing you can do to make you happy and faking a smile is all you can do its to hard to explain whats wrong especially when no one asks

Like Pollyanna says, we’re here to help, you can get whatever you want off your chest.

And the happy thing just comes with opening yourself up, and I know it’s a scary experience, especially if you’re someone who keeps everything inside. It might be hard at first but you don’t need to fake the fact your happy, just being around people and the things you enjoy eventually it’ll just come naturally.

We’re asking.

Do you have close friends? If you do are they really the best people to have around you….

Yeah we are asking you….We want to know whats wrong…

But I understand why this is different, It’s nice to have someone you know ask you whats wrong and refuse to give up un til you tell them.

Aww….Well maybe they don’t deserve the honour of fixing it..? I think I understand… It’s so lame when people just won’t make things right!!!

): that’s a bummer of a feeling.

but time heals things too, and there’s plenty more wonderful people you’ve yet to meet, i promise you that.

You will. It’s simple and we all know what it feels like to think you will never find love again but thts crap! People love you and will love you. Let others in and they can help you!

When a bone is broken, it heals back stronger than it was. It’s the same way with a heart–I know, I’ve had mine broken more than once–but in time it will heal. I know that’s hard to believe right now, but it’s true.

I agree with you on one point, I don’t think a broken heart ever really heals, that those feelings ever go away…They don’t fade, they just stop being as important with time. Other things become priority, and I know that it sounds dreary but once your broken heart isn’t the only thing on your mind anymore, it’s a heck of a lot easier to bear…And eventually your happy again.

ahh i agree.

if thats what you think is right.

but tomorrow. act completely like yourself. everything you do, ask yourself- would i do this differently if nobody was there to witness it?
see how that goes for you.
don’t even fake a smile.