Love help: I feel empty with a lack of the “love” emotion. - Help.com

To see if he is smothering u or not, try to tell him that ur gonna go out with ur friends and see what he’ll says…It’s gonna be u and ur friends (with male friends) only ..without him.

If he’s fine with u going without him then ok, he is not. U know, actually ur quite blessed to have someone loving u this way. It’s either u love the person much more than he loves u or the other way round. U r lucky u know :)

I know I am very lucky. I don’t want to lose him. I just wish my mom could understand the way he feels

Do u have a good relationship with ur mom?

For the most part I do. I work my *** off working 40+ hours a week. I am 22 years old. I am on and off with my college degree because I got in a car accident about 2 years ago. I don’t understand why she doesn’t like him??? She seems always mad at me when I go out or drive far distances. She thinks I should stay in and rest and I don’t really want to. She doesn’t like my company over. So it’s not like I have many friends come over. I usually go to the bars or their houses to hang out. And when I go out my dad is usually with.

I think he’s a nice guy. He appreciates u and is PAMPERING u! I wouldnt think its smothering…but well, i don’t know yall so i can’t be too sure.

If u think he’s insecure, then try to reassure him. I would say, go with ur heart. If u like what he’s doing, then who cares. If u don’t, tell him its fine sometimes if u do stuff urself and to reassure him that u love him and appreciate him…still.

Sometimes, parents expecially moms…get overprotective cos they find it hard to accept that their lil kids are growing up so fast. Maybe she’s scared of losing u cos’ u have been in a car accident and i think it has shocked ur mom.

Wanna know why she doesnt like ur guy? Ask her!

I have asked her and just get the reply that she thinks he is smothering me… And not just that.. But crazy enough an ex of mine is in town. The one that broke my heart.. and since then I haven’t been the same. My mom thinks I should hang out with him… Stupid if you ask me

U know, ur mom is not marrying or dating ur guy. Ur mom is not your director of YOUR LIFE. SHe can say all she wants but eventually, it’s all about YOU. I was in one relationship ( a roller coaster I would say) as well. THat guy happened to be a little special and I would go the miles with him if I get the chance to. If my parents know about how “different” he is, they would hate him as well. But I know that, I would always go with what i want or not what they want.

Take it from some one who’s mom was telling them what they thought and where they went and basically controlling my life and me. I separated myself from her and found that I was my own person. Now that’s not the same as your situation but I felt a lot better when I started thinking for myself. So do what you want and tell your mom that she can think that he’s smothering you and that you shouldn’t be working and stuff, but it’s your life and she’s going to have to learn to live with that eventually. Congratulations on getting engaged.

I wish I could just keep my mouth shut and not let my mom control me. But it’s hard because I am already somewhat dist distant from her. She is a lot closer to my older sister then me. And if I don’t take her thought into consideration we just argue like crazy and then stop talking for days. It hurts cause I feel like I have to pick. I am so sorry to bring you into this, I am just so confused on what to do. I don’t want to lose either of them. I have already started to somewhat distant myself from my guy because of my mom. I just want to make her happy and I don’t want her to argue or cause anything between me and my guy. My mom has a sharp tongue.

Thank you guys for all your help.. I do need to be my own person. The sad thing is I have been so sheltered. I really don’t know how to be just me

I used to listen to whatever others say and be whoever they want me to be but i wasnt happy. There was this point in my life that really changed my life. THey wanted me to go for vocation school and choose a subject which i have completely no idea about. THey dont think that I can make it to college (bec i was always the losuy one). They wanted me to get a job after vocational school bla bla…and they say i wont regret.

Luckily, I went with my heart and choose another route. It wasn’t exactly the best school around but it’s a way to college and they were very skeptical about it. I have to suffer years of mental frustration, fighting with my choice and theirs. And u know what, i made it to college and i got awesome grades! That totally shut them up. And now, they trust me with my choices and when they try to tell me to do whatever they like, i’ll go….”it’s my life, let me decide”. They’ll shut up.

What im saying is that…it’s ur life, u decide kel_e15

Look, if u have gone with their choices and u happen to regret in future…al they can say is “well, it’s not too bad. I reassure u it’s ok..there are always better guys> mom is here for u”

If u go with ur choices and it turned out bad..they have so much to say. They’ll go ” I TOLD U SO”

If they tell me “i told u so”…I’ll be like “oh shut up, u don’t know. Stop trying to lecture me for something u didnt even go thru. So F off”….sorry but im really rebellious and rude to people that get in my way.

everyone needs their own personal space. perhaps you should spend some time away from him, with friends? then maybe you’ll begin to realise the impact he’s having on you, whether its positive or negative.