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Ask how their day is going, if they’ve got plans for the weekend, etc. It’s very easy to stem conversations off of that alone.

he does the same thing everyday so it gets old you know? aka boring..

If he’s boring, why are you interested? Don’t try to force a dialogue if one doesn’t come naturally.

If you’re really stuck on things to say just say anything you think can spark a conversation, even look around your room or something if you have too

i dont want to wierd him out lol…

we both like each other and hes really attactive to me.

i need a magic question!

Maybe hanging out in person would go better than a text convo?

I got the same problem except I’m the guy in this situation, I’m boring and do the same thing everyday. The guy might want to talk to you even more than you want to talk to him. Trust me, its very difficult to say come up with new things to talk about, particularly if you text every day….Not sure that really helped, sorry……

i would but im out of state all summer :(

hahah blueflames i hope your not the one im texting

lq2m….if you weren’t anonymous we would know hunh?? That would be very awkward……and being out of state doesn’t help, I was last summer : ) …..if your doing anything interesting you could easily just tell him random things you are doing even if he doesn’t ask…..if hes interested he probably will just go with it, but he might tease you by saying “why are you telling me this?”…..

and if he asks my why im telling him that?

and i asked him his weakness once, and what hes good at, and he wouldnt tell me saying they are bad. it seems like everytime i ask random questions they come out a little perverted and the convo dies lol

pst..im anon because i dont want him searching my username and find this hahaha

do you know if he has an account on this site??? i was worried about that because I joined yesterday but you can change your username at any time under settings so dont worry about it, it changes in all the posts you have made….i didnt mean ask him questions, I meant tell him things about yourself or what you are doing. He will hopefully become more comfortable and tell you some stuff in relationship to the stuff you told him about you(sounded way better in my head). But asking for a weakness is probably not the best, I guess its important but I nevr like answering that question….

my username is the same as my myspace, if you google it your account and posts will pop up on it lol..i dont think he has an account on here.

hahaha, i know, i wasnt gonna force him, i was gonna see how open he was.

i guess that sounds bad..?

what do you think the right things to say is?? or ask..
if i say random stuff i feel like im ranting

like i said previously, YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR USERNAME AT ANY TIME…..dont feel like you’re ranting, like if you said “guess what!! i just got my braces off!!!” (no, i dont know if you have braces…) then you just see what he says, you’ll at least get a few messages out of it…..also, if i’m explaining something, i often purposely leave out a key piece of information so that they will want to ask about it so that it lasts longer(a little strange, i know..).

i know, i was just telling you why i posted anon lol

hahaha hes done that!!

its funny, if i ask one thing about what he does he rants..its cute though hahaha

would it be better talking about him or me

in conversation, people tend to rely on the other person to talk about themself..and you clearly want to know about him, but im assuming he also wants to know about you…so if hes “ranting”, instead of just answering:k,cool,awesome,..try to like say “o cool, i like to wrestle with my dog too” and then he knows something about you and he can start things like “o, whats your dogs name?”…again, these are examples off the top of my head : ) …..

ahah thanks..you just helped me like..2348907293x

:D

no problem : ) ….what i gave you is just what i do to help in conversation and yet i still have trouble too..

PS. I highly doubt this guy has an account and you can change your username, I havent been here long and I already think its pointless to post as anonymous…the better the people here know you from the past, the better they can help : )

wait, but his way of saying ‘why are you telling me this’ is ‘haah what thee hahaha’

how would i answer to that..?

lol you just wanna know who i am hahaha
ill give you a hint..i have blue hair.

Well, men like to be listened to when they talk.
Even if it is something that doesn’t interest
you in the least try and pay attention. That
goes for anyone really. People like to be heard.
Don’t know much about guitars myself, but you
could ask him some game questions. Like what
system he has/likes and why. games same thing.
maybe try voice chat? *waits for something from space to him him*
I know everyone is on text mode anymore but maybe
try voice to voice, or better yet person to
person if he is nearby.

# ‘What are you up to?’
# Ask each other about your favourite things
# Discuss a movie/song/ band
# Ask ‘what are you thinking?’ - my best friend and I do that and we can hold text conversations for hours (he’s a guy and I’m a girl so it could work well for your situation too), lots can stem off ‘what are you thinking’
# That’s about all I have at the moment, I’ll come back if I think of anything else =D

blue hair is so hot : ) ……
as for “why are you telling me this”….uumm you could just say “i dont know, why not *insert smily face here*”…..i suppose thats a difficult question, I’m usually the one asking it, not answering…

hah! ok ok…im reverend twitch.
smiley faces kill the conversation. its the only way i can reply to that but i guess he just doesnt know how to start a convo lol

thanks ken, thanks dancefloor