friends help: I feel like i am not a person to other people.

ScienceGirl

I feel like i am not a person to other people.

That people have nothing to say about me, like I am pretty much there and I spend all day arguing with myself in my head and then i see people, have some chats and then go back into my head.

I feel like I don’t really have a life, or any intrests or anything that stands out. I don’t enjoy anything.

I don’t see myself in the future. At all.

Contrary to this I live with a group of friends, we all get on well, we are moving again in September, we hang out all the time, go clubbing and we are planning to move abroad togther, but somehow, I feel totally distanced from them, its like I am not really there, sometimes, I don’t know where I have been for certain periods and days seem to fly by without me remembering them.

Im not fat or ugly, I have friends, boyfriends, family, i like to have a laugh and be with people, everone thinks i am slighly crazy (in a fun way) but I think that is an act i put on, because I am nearly always in my head and not really with them.

Help.
It’s eating me up inside.

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I feel like i am not a person to other people.

That people have nothing to say about me, like I am pretty much there and I spend all day arguing with myself in my head and then i see people, have some chats and then go back into my head.

I feel like I don’t really have a life, or any intrests or nothing that stands out.

I don’t see myself in the future. At all.

Contrary to this I live with a group of friends, we all get on well, we are moving again in September, we hang out all the, go clubbing and are planning to move abroad togther, but somehow, I feel totally distanced from them, its like I am not really there, sometimes, I don’t know where I have been for certain periods and days seem to fly by, without me remembering them.

Im not fat or ugly, I have friends, boyfriends, family, i like to have a laugh and be with people, everone thinks i am slighly crazy (in a fun way) but I think that is an act i put on, because I am nearly always in my head and not really with them.

Help.
It’s eating me up inside.

Chameleon 46 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (4 minutes after post)

But how can you know that the way you experience life “in your head” isn’t the way we all do?

shesaidimavixen 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (7 minutes after post)

i’ve felt that way before. and then i didn’t realize until after that it was because i was depressed. so maybe you’re depressed? maybe you could talk to someone?

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cole_wrinkle 3 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (8 minutes after post)

me to but i realize that if they want to ignore me then find be it there lose because i am a good person

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Chameleon 46 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (11 minutes after post)

Oh wait, I’m confused - people are ignoring her?

cole_wrinkle 3 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (15 minutes after post)

sorry i have a lot on me right now im geting like 5 messages per sec

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Chameleon 46 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (16 minutes after post)

ok how about dissocitiative disorder? Do you think you might have that?

Chameleon 46 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (20 minutes after post)

Here’s a definition of it - Dissociative disorder: Is a condition, often caused by trauma, in which a person disconnects from a full awareness of self, time, or external circumstances as a defense against unpleasant realities or memories.

cole_wrinkle 3 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (20 minutes after post)

yes lol i just got done looking it up lol

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morekra #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 hour, 18 minutes after post)

Maybe you are ready to grow up and move on your own but your too scared that you’ll loose the friends you have or your connection with them. Sounds like you have matured and maybe grown out of your present life and long for more.

Sometimes when my identity becomes intertwined with others I forget who I am.

It sounds like you have a lot of things going on. If your clubbing regularly and any type of mind altering substance is involved (alcohol, drugs..etc…) It is easy to loose days even weeks. Depending on what it is, it can change the dynamics of the way our thinking is.

When I am trying to work a thing out, especially things regarding my purpose and meaning in life or what direction I want my life to go in…… I am always in my head. That is normal. It is usually the time I need to find someone to talk to that I trust. It doesn’t sound like you have that or you wouldn’t be on here.

I would say go to some sort of counselor and forget what people say. If it makes you uncomfortable for people to know then keep it to yourself and just see if it helps. Going to a therapist or counselor is different in different countries but it sounds like you might be in UK or something. I lived there for a short time. Even a social worker of some sort. Just anyone who can be objective. I wouldn’t recommend a doctor because I know here in america they just give ya pills and send ya on your way. That doesn’t really help.

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Chameleon 46 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 hour, 20 minutes after post)

Some doctors here in the US hand out pills like candy, some are extremely stingy with them. It depends on the doctor.

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