friends help: I feel like i am not a person to other people. - Help.com

Maybe you are ready to grow up and move on your own but your too scared that you’ll loose the friends you have or your connection with them. Sounds like you have matured and maybe grown out of your present life and long for more.

Sometimes when my identity becomes intertwined with others I forget who I am.

It sounds like you have a lot of things going on. If your clubbing regularly and any type of mind altering substance is involved (alcohol, drugs..etc…) It is easy to loose days even weeks. Depending on what it is, it can change the dynamics of the way our thinking is.

When I am trying to work a thing out, especially things regarding my purpose and meaning in life or what direction I want my life to go in…… I am always in my head. That is normal. It is usually the time I need to find someone to talk to that I trust. It doesn’t sound like you have that or you wouldn’t be on here.

I would say go to some sort of counselor and forget what people say. If it makes you uncomfortable for people to know then keep it to yourself and just see if it helps. Going to a therapist or counselor is different in different countries but it sounds like you might be in UK or something. I lived there for a short time. Even a social worker of some sort. Just anyone who can be objective. I wouldn’t recommend a doctor because I know here in america they just give ya pills and send ya on your way. That doesn’t really help.

hy,i think i can help you. I am from Romania and i am a physics professor studying fractal aplications of higher harmonics in the unified field theory.But that’s not going to help you :-). When i was a teen i was always depressed because o felt useless and guilty for every trouble of the world. What i felt was that nothing motivated me and that the only way i would truly be happy was to reach my potential.I was lazy, and egoistic.This might not be your problem , but i believe it has the same source.

The problem is you are not living in the present. It is quit possible that till this you have never lived in the present , you have been unconscious, in a state of dream. In psychological terms it is called the organ of ego. Something we create it to stop our suffering but it turns it begin to control us and stops us then from living in the present. And please believe me when one is truly living in the now,there are so many thing that just happen naturally that at one moment you might even be tempted to say you never lived before , but that is not true of course. You i think ,like me a few years ago look in the past searching for certain beliefs, sufferings, and trials that might have occurred.You are always trying then to defend the identity you formed and are always afraid how situations, people, and your one actions migth heart you substantial but that is impossible. do you know why? Because you are a spiritual being , a globe of eternal ligth , like all humans, but special for you are unique, and are here to answer unique questions.And you also look in the future to fool yourself things are goin to be better. thing are already perfect. you are already complete and beautiful either you are a human being , or a falling leaf, the “is” is what make you invincible. so ask yourself , do you have problems? no. you have situations, wich however unscapable they might seam , are , in fact, processes wich can be stoped and recovered if you want it badly enough. try to see how you feel now.without thinking about furture or past that is, just the beauty of the present.ask yourself that question whenever you feel you are stressed or alone in you’re own head and you will be ok.

This is pretty weird, im in the same situation, i feel like crap when im alone, but when im with friends, im goofy, funny, weird and all fun and games,but i feel its all fake and an act. Too be honest i battle this everyday and don’t know how to fix this. It sucks doesn’t it.