life help: Me and my partner are desperate for a baby, we both feel so sad

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Me and my partner are desperate for a baby, we both

feel so sad and heartbroken every time we see just the one little line come up on the pregnancy test, telling us again that we won’t be having the child we dream off. I know it may seem sad to have to turn to complete strangers but I am seriously considering IVF treatment in the near future- If any body has any advice I am coming to the end of my tether and feel useless as a woman that I cannot do the one thing I was put here to do I would be truley grateful
Yours sincerely
Hollyxx

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holly_jade_murph edited this post 3 months ago. Read the previous text »

Me and my partner are desperate for a baby, we both feel so sad and heartbroken every time we see just the one little line come up on the pregnancy test, telling us again that we won’t be having the child we dream off. I know it’s pathetic to have to turn to complete strangers but I am seriously considering IVF treatment in the near future. The only thing is my partner has come out of a real messy divorce with his own financial tuggs and pulls and I don’t want to rely on him. I myself have my own problems owing thousands of pounds for a surgery i had done when i was 18. I don’t want to rely on the state to pay for my baby and as ironic as it may seem I am turning to you, a stranger to ask if there is goodness in your heart to help me pay off what I have outstanding to start saving for the IVF treatment and all the other things that a baby needs to get started in life so we can have the baby of our dreams. My email address is i> small>(email removed) /small> /i>, if any one has advice or a donation gift I would be truley grateful.
Regards
Holly Murphy xx

holly_jade_murph edited this post 3 months ago. Read the previous text »

Me and my partner are desperate for a baby, we both feel so sad and heartbroken every time we see just the one little line come up on the pregnancy test, telling us again that we won’t be having the child we dream off. I know it’s pathetic to have to turn to complete strangers but I am seriously considering IVF treatment in the near future. The only thing is my partner has come out of a real messy divorce with his own financial tuggs and pulls and I don’t want to rely on him. I myself have my own problems owing thousands of pounds for a surgery i had done when i was 18. I don’t want to rely on the state to pay for my baby and as ironic as it may seem I am turning to you, a stranger to ask if there is goodness in your heart to help me pay off what I have outstanding to start saving for the IVF treatment and all the other things that a baby needs to get started in life so we can have the baby of our dreams. My email address is my name (as under the big H

Bacon, God of Gods 119 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (6 minutes after post)

adopt.

Help me with: its funny because its true.

holly_jade_murph 7 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (7 minutes after post)

You are heartless. Nobody can give up at the first hurdle of having there own flesh and blood, to have a baby grow inside you, to hold it in your arms, you cannot compare such a feeling.

Bacon, God of Gods 119 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (10 minutes after post)

what the hell!? how am i heartless!? an adopted baby isnt human? is that it? screw you. im adopted, and if you think for one second that im not loved just as their own flesh and blood, then YOURE heartless.

Help me with: its funny because its true.

Winter.Rain 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (17 minutes after post)

Holly, People come here for advice, writen help, or ideas how to fix problems.
Anyone will tell you here, that people will not give out money on this site. Unfortunatly because of so many dishonest people, any request for money is usually disregarded.

And calling some one heartless for saying adopt is not nice. It was a good suggestion.

Bacon, God of Gods invited 12 users to read this post 3 months ago.

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miskat 95 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (18 minutes after post)

I have reported the post.

It violates the TOU as it is a request for money.

I do wish you all the luck in finding the funds for IVF.

On a personal note:
I think receiving children is one of the most beautiful thing.
It does not matter if this is biological or through other ways.

Every kid deserves a good and save life.
If someone can offer that too a kid, they have my deepest respect.

Help me with: We Feel Fine.

holly_jade_murph 7 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (18 minutes after post)

I didn’t say that for one second. People give up babies for all kinds of reasons, sometimes because they have no other choice. It is a brilliant system that allows people to adopt when they can’t have their own but for me it is not something I would want unless I knew for a fact that i was never going to achieve my goal of having my own. There are other avenues to go down such as IVF and I am going to try my **** hardest to do everything I can in my power because it is what I want more then anything else in the world. Your initial response - adopt. Is no help to me what so ever, do you think I haven’t thought about it?? It frightens the life out of me to think I will never have my own child but like I said I want to try everything I can before I give up hope. At the momment I feel useless as a woman to achieve the one thing that I was put on the earth to do. I am not asking for alternatives, I am praying for help.

Bacon, God of Gods 119 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (18 minutes after post)

might want to type that up again holly.

Help me with: its funny because its true.

holly_jade_murph 7 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (20 minutes after post)

When you have no where else to turn to what would you do?
I have never ever put down adoption but I am trying my hardest to find other ways- what is wrong with that. I have asked for advice too I am not on here to make money.

Bacon, God of Gods 119 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (21 minutes after post)

i didnt say theres anything wrong with it, im just saying, how can you call me heartless because i said you should adopt a child?

Help me with: its funny because its true.

holly_jade_murph edited this post 3 months ago. Read the previous text »

Me and my partner are desperate for a baby, we both feel so sad and heartbroken every time we see just the one little line come up on the pregnancy test, telling us again that we won’t be having the child we dream off. I know it’s pathetic to have to turn to complete strangers but I am seriously considering IVF treatment in the near future. The only thing is my partner has come out of a real messy divorce with his own financial tuggs and pulls and I don’t want to rely on him. I myself have my own problems owing thousands of pounds for a surgery i had done when i was 18. I don’t want to rely on the state to pay for my baby and as ironic as it may seem I am turning to you, a stranger to ask if there is goodness in your heart to help me pay off what I have outstanding to start saving for the IVF treatment and all the other things that a baby needs to get started in life so we can have the baby of our dreams. My email address is my name holly underline jade underline murphy at hot mail . com, if any one has advice or a donation gift I would be truley grateful.
Regards
Holly Murphy xx

holly_jade_murph 7 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (25 minutes after post)

because the way you said it felt like it was sarcastic. You just wrote adopt. Any way I have changed my post so I hope you are all happier with that.

Bacon, God of Gods 119 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (25 minutes after post)

i didnt feel like i had to elaborate on the process or anything…

Help me with: its funny because its true.

holly_jade_murph 7 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (27 minutes after post)

Well maybe I got my wires crossed but thats how it felt. I have never been on a site like this before and the first response I get when I have poured my heart out about the difficulty of getting pregnant and IVF is -adopt- i felt like, ok thats it, lets pack up and go home, im never going to get pregnant so i might as well accept it.

miskat 95 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (27 minutes after post)

When you signed up you agreed upon the TOU.
Here it is clearly stated it is not allowed to ask for money.

I do understand your problem and consider it a genuine concern.
What you can do is request for advice on ways to get funding.

Trust me, I understand your situation better than you can imagine.

Nevertheless, there are rules to be followed.
Also because it is not verifiable if one speaks the truth.

I see you edited the post.
It is not about how I feel, it is about respecting what we all have agreed upon, which seems correct now.

I am not capable of giving you advice on the matter, I hope someone else will.

Best of luck, ‘kat.

Help me with: We Feel Fine.

Bacon, God of Gods 119 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (28 minutes after post)

that was very robotlike, ‘kat.

Help me with: its funny because its true.

miskat 95 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (30 minutes after post)

YeOldeBacon The Bard wrote:
that was very robotlike, ‘kat.

If you knew me any better, you wouldn’t have made that remark.
I am out of this post, as I can not offer help.

Help me with: We Feel Fine.

Bacon, God of Gods 119 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (31 minutes after post)

im assuming you tend to be the sole voice of reason most places.

Help me with: its funny because its true.

holly_jade_murph 7 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (31 minutes after post)

Well clearly I didn’t read the TOU very thoroughly and i apologise but sometimes as humans there is no where else to turn and like i have said before I just don’t know what more i can do. I appreciate your comments. x

melt 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (33 minutes after post)

holly_jade_murph wrote:
because the way you said it felt like it was sarcastic. You just wrote adopt. Any way I have changed my post so I hope you are all happier with that.

no need to be so defensive.

my immediate reaction when i read “my partner has come out of a real messy divorce with his own financial tuggs and pulls and I don’t want to rely on him” was that as your partner and the intended father of the child you are both so desperate for, you SHOULD be able to rely on him.

secondly, i am personally offended by phrases like “if there is goodness in your heart” because it almost suggests that one who doesn’t help you does not have goodness in his/ her heart. maybe it’s just me being defensive now.

i don’t have any advice to offer you as i am also in a financial debacle but i can’t relate to your fertility issues. i’m sorry. good luck.

Help me with: I guess I’m a cheap-skate.

holly_jade_murph 7 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (37 minutes after post)

I’m not being defensive i was trying to explain why i felt upset. And if you read my post again you will see that I have changed it- I am not here to pull on peoples heart strings I JUST DON’T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO i thought i would be offered words of support not picked up on my errors. I know I should rely on him, physically and mentally but not neccessarily financillay when he can’t. I am trying every avenue to see what i can do myself but clearly this was a bad idea.

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