Love help: Think BIG

Richard cor de lyon

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Think BIG

When you soar with the eagles, you tend to have their vision too!

~ Think BIG~

One of my favorite authors, Richard Bach, wrote in his beautiful story Illusions; “… argue for your limitations, and sure enough they are yours …”. Clearly that passage means that if you fight for those things you know you can do that is all you will ever have. That’s OK but what about your highest potential?

Here is a simple example; When you pass a homeless person they will ask you if you can spare any change. Why don’t they ask you if you could spare that extra $20? Even $5… because they know their limitations and they do not have the desire or the strength to rise above them. There’s an old saying that if you ask a man for a penny, you’re bound to get a penny, but if you ask a man for a dime, you just might be surprised what you get.

Now please do not turn this into something all about money. While it works with money the same way… I see that as only a by-product of what it is you truly may be asking for. Do you want to help people? OK great! You can become a customer service rep in a call center. OR you can get your advanced degree in psychology, and become a Marriage Family Therapist! The point is if you aim high you might not hit your mark (on the first try) but you will still be better off than if you aimed too low. I hear so often about “realism”. People tell me, “I don’t expect great things because then I won’t be disappointed when they don’t happen; I’m a realist.” I tell them HOGWASH. THINK BIG. Don’t live in fear of failure. If you don’t think big, you’ll never have big. Deal with the pain of failure in a positive way. If Edison was too afraid to continue after failure, you’d be reading this in the DARK!

Bright blessings ~ Richard

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Anonymous #
2 months ago (51 minutes after post)

Thinking big is easy, but hard to do in reality
Thinking and doing are two different thing

Why do you say that when ” People tell me, “I don’t expect great things because then I won’t be disappointed when they don’t happen; I’m a realist.” I tell them HOGWASH. THINK BIG”

What about the Buddhist say ” the Buddhist say that life is suffering because of our desires. Eliminate your desires and you will eliminate your suffering. The path to enlightenment is a very worthy cause ”

Richard cor de lyon 74 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (1 hour, 11 minutes after post)

Ahhhh reality…. realism. Thinking and doing ARE two different things… but then we are talking about your idea of limitations again yes? Stop telling me you can’t do it, and tell me that you will at least try. What are you afraid of? Failure? Looking stupid? Lose of friends? Honor? Might you die if you try? If that’s the case… then OK… you might be aiming a little to high. I wouldn’t want anyone to die or even get seriously injured… lets not get stupid about this.

True that is a Buddhist teaching… and if you are thinking of becoming a Buddha, then I would say that is indeed thinking pretty BIG… Go for it.

There are all kinds of paths that we walk. If you path is one of enlightenment through Buddhist practice more power to you; I love that idea!. Many people are not however, on such a spiritual path. They have more mundane ideas and ideals. I agree with that Buddhist teaching, but it can be looked at from both sides. It is because of our desire that we have suffering, OR… we suffer because we have a desire. The first means to me that our desire is bad, and I really don’t think that is what the Buddhist had in mind … the second means to me our desire is WORTH suffering for, it means that from our pain will come glory. Its a matter of, (like everything else) PERSPECTIVE.
Bright blessings ~ Richard

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Richard cor de lyon 74 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (1 hour, 35 minutes after post)

I just re-read my reply, and I realized it could be read not as I intended… I meant for it to be more general, but I used the word “YOU” to much instead of making it more general (a flaw in myself I’m trying to work on personally). This reply was not meant to be directed solely to YOU, but to anyone that would like to argue for their limitations. I certainly did not intend to call you stupid (or anyone really). I’m just saying we must use some intelligence and wisdom in our choices. Jumping off Niagara falls in a barrel is thinking pretty big… others have even done it. Would I recommend it? Not usually.

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Anonymous #
2 months ago (1 hour, 40 minutes after post)

what do you think about this ?
Being disappointed is all about perspective
By becoming more aware of what your perceptions and beliefs are. You cannot change what you do not understand. So spend some time looking internally and when you become disappointed, think about what is disappointing you. Is it really the situation or the person, or is it because they are not behaving in a way you believe they should behave? Then slowly as you do this, force yourself to look at the bigger picture of what is going on. Force yourself to see the situation from a new perspective and offer positive spins on what has happened. I believe that the more you do this, the less you will be disappointed because you will stop taking things so personally. You will also begin to realize that the way things turn out are the way things are supposed to turn out, whether they are in line with your beliefs or not. This will lead you to feeling more in control of your emotions as well as of your behaviors and actions. You will also be able to use any challenge as an opportunity to grow, develop, and move your life forward, because you will not continuously be knocked down by disappointment.

Richard cor de lyon 74 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (1 hour, 51 minutes after post)

I think that ideal is beautiful. I think that is a way to personal development that will unlock many many doors. We apply the meaning to our life; in every instance. Yes, others will impact us, and even try to impose their meaning on our life, but we do not have to accept that (and often we don’t). Another way to look at this is with personal responsibility. We must take responsibility for our life. If we constantly are saying our life is crap because someone did this or they did that.. if everything is “THEIR FAULT”, then you have no control. If we start taking personal responsibility then we take back the control, and can make some real positive changes.

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Anonymous #
2 months ago (2 hours, 21 minutes after post)

We have to take responsibility for what we want by taking the appropriate actions.

Blame No One. The point is to shoulder the responsibility for moving your life in a more positive direction.

Expect Nothing. Taking responsibility for your life is its own reward. We should do so because it is the mature, grown-up thing to do. A willingness to be accountable for our choices and actions is what it means to be an adult. Because there are no guarantees in life

Do Something. Responsibility demands action. Until you do something about the your life, nothing is going to change. And here’s the kicker: because it is your life and you are responsible it, only you can decide what you must do. So, take stock of your life and do what you can do to improve it. If you have been sitting around, get up. If you can’t run, then walk. When you fall down, take a minute to gather yourself, and then get up and continue with your plan of action. Because in the final analysis, taking responsibility for our lives by doing what we can to make them healthier and happier

Thank you Richard.

Richard cor de lyon 74 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (5 hours, 58 minutes after post)

and thank you very much too Anon :)

Bright blessings ~ Richard

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