friends help: Where can I find some real friends, seriously? - Help.com

if people you have helped greatly put you down, don’t accept it. let them know you’re hurt and walk away from them.

yeah i like helping people and they walk all over me and i wonder why do i do this then i see that i am being the better person and that they really dont know who they are nor care for them selfs to say hay i am walking over this person that helps me

Some people lean a little to heavily on their friends. They’re needy and reliant. Whilst we want to help, there comes a point when we have to take a step back and ask ourselves if they are dragging us down too much. I think you might be at that point. It’s not that we don’t love them and that they don’t love us.. it’s just that the balance isn’t right. Maintain contact by all means, but learn to say “no” and “i’m sorry I can’t help with that but I hope things work out for you”.

It’s important to keep making new friends rather than limiting ourselves to one particular group. Some will be “transient” - the sort of people we meet for a while and drift apart from.. others will be more fixed - the sort that we communicate regularly with.

Eventually we find the friends who “fit” just right and with whom we share a perfect balance.

First take a deep breath. Who said it was your fault everyone’s acting like that? since it certainaly isn’t. It very rarely is anyone’s fault when someone decides to become Queen of PMS.

Alright. Did you try talking to them? In a calm way? Just say you’d like to spend more time with them: friend to friend not shrink to psycho. You’re worth their time if they’re worth yours, the least they can do is let YOU have a shoulder to cry on and someone to hug and tell your woes to. If they roll their eyes or pretend to not be interested, let it go. Then let them go. they;re not good enough to be your friends.

Honest, truly honest people don’t exist in large numbers. But that’s not what you need to look for when searching for a friend. Heck, my best friend is my total opposite, even in looks. Keep a smile on your face, and help push wheelchairs and whatnot. I say this since I was in one circle of friends, I helped a girl in a wheelchair, and just as that circle was dying, moved to the other one. And am as happy as can be. Talk to people. It’ll be awkward at first, but there are some really good people out there with a shady exterior. Just be yourself and be nice and one day when someone asks you for advice it’ll be as a true friend.

Join clubs, sports teams, anything with people that might share the same interests as you. Go to camps. Put yourself out there even with your same friends. At the worst, they see you for who you really are.

And listen to mumstheword. She’s like my idol. And she says smart stuff.

Good Luck.

good grief indigo.. i just spluttered my tea all over my keyboard. Idol? Why thank you hun but that’s the first time anyone’s said anything like that! Is it ok if I just be your friend as I’m better at that than being an idol I think… :o)

0.o But you’re so smarrrt….that’s like blasphemy or something. *wide eyes* I was like “i’m setting out to be as clever smart and down to earth as she will and maybe one day I’ll get there.” You’re like my goal! Alone with several other people who have more brain power then I do. I think it might be the consumption of tea, you know.

tea and years of learning from my mistakes. That’s probably what does it.

*goes and writes that down in my memo book* To do: acquire tea and some mistakes to learn from…

I’ve got so much learning to do though…I don’t think I’ll ever reach your level…0.o

just so much smart packed into one person that should be illegal so all us not clever people can catch up one day.

As has been said, don’t let the “friends” walk all over you. :)

And you’ll find true friends. Just go through life doing the things you love, living the way you like. They’ll find you. :D