life help: Why do parents and other adults think that Teenagers dont have stress? - Help.com

Because alot of adults get old and wish they could go back to highschool and they forget how hard it is but there are some who still know how it is.

I’m a parent and an adult and I never thought that teenagers don’t have stress.

but you know you really shouldnt cut, haha of course you know,but man I know things get hard but whats wrong?

but what is it man, why do those thing hurt you so much?

I think it’s because some adults when they look back at the past, they remember about a lot of good things.
Or maybe they’re just mean, and think that because they lived longer, their lives are harder…
Which is not true in some cases.

It’s all about perspective. At the risk of sounding harsh, there are things in life that are way, way more stressful than worrying about the zit on your nose, or what Sally in homeroom thinks…those things can be all encompassing at the time, and that says nothing about the stress of figuring out who you are and where you fit. But worrying about your health, or wondering where the money to buy food is coming from are things that the typical teenager doesn’t even have to worry about worrying about…again, it’s all about perspective.

Most adults take on some serious habits from their own parents when they are fathers or mothers. Maybe they were raised with THEIR parents telling them the same stuff, so they think they should do that to you since they turned out alright.

Also, I am one who believes in strategy, learning, and lessons. So if I were an adult I might say that too. It helps the kid deal with the stress themselves, which is important when they grow up.

Of course cutting is not the answer, but I hope you can grasp this possibility of why adults think this way.

It’s because we now know better. If you think life is stressful now, you’ve got a lot coming. Life does not get easier after high school. Yeah sure, you’re school worries go away, but you only trade your old problems with a set of new, more serious ones.

Instead of school bullies, you’ll have to deal with incompetent co-workers and useless bosses. Instead of homework and assignment deadlines, you’ll either be working a dead end job for minimum wage, or clawing your way forward to claim a good job that hundreds of other people are competing with you to get.

Socially it’s pretty much the same though. Depending on your personality/mentality, you still have the same worries and problems, only you might not be arsed to worry about it too much anymore, because you’ve been through that crap too many times before, and all the worries and problems are getting old.

Financially you’ve got a serious problem. Can you afford the house, the car, the lifestyle that you really want? And how about supporting your family? Will you earn enough to settle down comfortably? Can you afford putting your children through a good education? And how about vacations?

Sure, some teens have it genuinely rough (bad home and all that), but on average, things are a lot better for you than you realize.

I’m sorry I can’t be all heartbroken over how stressful a teens existence is. And I’m truly sorry to tell you that things only get harder with age. The thing is, we’re not good at sympathizing, because: We’ve gone through that, we’ve developed the tools (mentality) to deal with it, we’re living in the “now” and can’t really turn back time in order to experience how our teen brains worked, we’re tired and have our own problems and therefor don’t feel like listening to your problems too much.

Now do I think it’s wrong of you to complain? No, I’ve done the exact same thing. It’s all very natural. Although in general, I think we all spend too much time complaining and pointing fingers. I know I still do a bit of that myself… but maybe we should all just give it a rest. I mean, just accept life for what it is, and not worry about what others do, think or say.

Anyway, I see I’m turning this into a rant, so I’ll stop here.

Only one more thing. Dealing with stress (for all ages) is all about finding the right tools for the task. Those tools are personal, and you’ll find your own ways as life progresses (or not, and end up on anti depressants).

Ok, sure, life is gonna get harder lol. I’m on the road to awesomevill and its paved with win and the guardrails are made of championship trophies.

Oneword,

various opinions have allready been said about stress, my opinion is somewhere in the middle of it and will leave that out for now.

However, I would like to address the cutting.
I hope you agree with me that that is not the way to solve things.

And if you don’t agree I am eager to hear your explanation, but be aware I will throw in the cons.

In general cutting is a way to control the pain. You cannot control the emotional pain (in your case: stress) thus you seek a higher level of pain that you can control: cutting.
Does this apply to you?

I personally think the cutting itself is not what first should be solved, but the reason why you do it. If that is fixed the cutting stops as well, as there is no need to do it anymore.

You state you don’t get a break.
Have you ever thought of creating little breaks yourself?
Half an hour a day could do the trick…

Last point for now:
May I say that I personally find your avatar a bit awkward.
Too me it shows me that you are almost proud of the cutting or something.
Would like to hear your reasoning behind it.

in all honesty here… i completely understand that.. in 8th grade i started getting depressed and dint know what to do.. my friends who turned out not to really be my friends dint help me at all ..but more of pushed me into cutting ..they spread rumors and told lies about me to ppl that i luved and trusted.. that yr was the hardest for me! i got to highschool not knowing what to do as a freshmen so i kinda stuck near one of my older friends…we got into a lot of fights which caused me to cut more.. and i got into some trouble for it.. then one day someone asked me whats wrong.. i said nothing…then they said well im here if you need to talk… that was the best sentence i have ever heard in my life..and now that person is my BEST friend…but unfortunately she is going to college this yr.. so the point is..you need to distance yurself from the stress and find new friends.!

I see both ways…example:
Some people smoke to handle stress others cut. I know a few.

Also I believe that parents dont realize how times have changed since they were in school. So they dont really understand how stressful it is. I also agree with Anthrax. I thought school was going to be my biggest worries not its how am i going to pay my bills next month while preparing to have my baby and dealing with my grief of losing my son. So there are a lot of stressful things you have yet to experiance and also on the positive some things will get better. You have a lot to look forward to such as a family.

yes but hopefully one day you will. Have a family of your own that is…im trying to do that right now

parents are all stupid….

dont cut, i nknow what its like and ive been there, holod an ice cube for 30 seconds, it hurts and it doesnt harm you
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