Love help: My girl friend loves more soo much but i don’t know if - Help.com

well youre hurting her more whe youre making her believe that you love her as much as she loves you

u tell her how u feel and move on!

do it! maybe the hurt will make her go away!

well in this case i know how she feels! cuz im her right now with my ex ..so to help her nad not play with heart over n over again …go away !

but if u keep taking her back u r faking what she really feels for you and you need to have a sit down chat with her face to face and say this is best for us to not talk ever cuz i dont feel the same and us being just friends also wont help.. cuz ull see me and still feel the same way..so its best we part ways…tell her that

hey, i mean if she loves you that much, you breaking up with her will hurt her. no matter no. and when i got hurt, i didnt want to be friends with my ex. and if you arent happy then move on. its for the best for both of you.

ashleyy wrote:
hey, i mean if she loves you that much, you breaking up with her will hurt her. no matter no. and when i got hurt, i didnt want to be friends with my ex. and if you arent happy then move on. its for the best for both of you.

EXACTLY WHAT IM SAYING!!!

If you want to be friends with her, you have to be honest. That’s what friends do. And how did you end up going out with her if you don’t have feelings for her besides friendship? It seems to me that you should have been honest earlier, that would have saved her a lot of emotional investment, and really should do it now: the longer you wait the harder it gets for her and the less likely it is she (or your mutual friends) will be at speaking terms with you afterwards.

so rather sacrefice her HEART rather than sum just popularity of some friends????? how selfish if u really think about it???

u can always meet a new friend..btu u can never replace a shattered heart..

i know this cuz my heart is shattered and broken.

thats when you need not to be a door mat for everyone and stop being superman when ur not ..u cant please everyone its humanly possilbe..only GOD can do that dear..:)
and in this case you need to think about her heart and U…

You are going to hurt her, no matter how hard you try not to. It’s hard to accept from yourself, but you will be a better man for doing it now, rather than avoiding the pain. You do realize that you are protecting yourself, rather than her, right now, don’t you?
On the up side, I know many ex-couples that have had this very conversation and still hang out together every once in a while as friends. So you don’t have to lose her as a friend over this, as long as you do this honestly and tactfully. If she finds out in any other way than from you she will probably puush you out of her life.
Sometimes making other people happy means hurting them a little: they want you to be happy too, in fact that is one of the key factors in your ability to make them happy. If you are unhappy, that will show in everything you do, will cost you energy you cannot spend on anyone else.

cuz at the end of the day ….its you that u have to take care of…:)
but PSEUDONIEM is right ur going to hurt her no matter what ….just be a man n do it…ull learn next time!

now is the time to learn my man!

You will live - and so will she. Love can really hurt, and so can seeing someone you care for going through that. But we are resilient beings, we survive and live on and we are happy again with someone else.
And you will learn as well, exactly because you didn’t learn from it the last time. You will now avoid getting into a situation like this, because you realize it’s worse than you thought. Live and learn my friend, that’s what we’re here for.

pseudoniem wrote:
You will live - and so will she. Love can really hurt, and so can seeing someone you care for going through that. But we are resilient beings, we survive and live on and we are happy again with someone else.
And you will learn as well, exactly because you didn’t learn from it the last time. You will now avoid getting into a situation like this, because you realize it’s worse than you thought. Live and learn my friend, that’s what we’re here for.

THERE YOU GO!!

Your girlfriend loves you more than anyone else has huh? But you’re not sure that you love her like she does you? Thats a hard place to be put on. But you should be truthful to her. If you really don’t want to break her heart, tell her truthfully. Don’t continue on if she thinks that you love her back. Like pseudoniem said. Just be plain honest. She’ll have to agree on your terms and understand that you don’t feel exactly the same way that you do. You’re not being selfish at all. You’re not just worrying about yourself but about her feelings too. If you were selfish you would only care on your account, not just hers. Your friends should just accept the fact that you didn’t really feel the same about her. It is true that you’ll end up hurting her like everybody else says. But you’ll be hurting too. Trust me I know. I’ve been the breaker and the breakee. I feel your pain. I’m going out with the guy I dated in 7th grade. He broke my heart when he broke up with me without even telling me. But now, we’ve both matured and he’s asked me out again. We both feel the same about eachother, at sometimes. But if you do hurt her feelings, just be honest, tell her truth, and hopefully she’ll fully comprehend it. Then, you and her will be great friends!

Mortal………. I don’t think I have to say anything. You know what I will say. We covered this last time. Two posts ago.

..:O ?? anywayz …moving on..umm just wat “M” said also is gold there !!!

No, but I thought that may work.

wierdo..lol..;p

Lol Thanks

Why don’t you tell her you DON’T want to break up, but that you don’t feel as strongly about her as she feels about you?

Maybe you should tell you you need some breathing room and you want to take a break for a little bit. You can wait and see if your feelings change, and it’ll give her time to digest things.

BYRDIE!! just hush!! cuz that will make it worse!!!! ..why does he have to lie about his feelings and stay with her and make her believe he loves her when he DONT!

listen to me MORTAL…..i know from experience..;p

o stop!!! killing ur self???? wtf no no no..like come on ull be fine ..k:)

Yes, it seems like the right time for you to go away for a while, think about it, gather courage. Everything seems to be said by now. We will be here to hear the results, whether you broke up with her or not the next time we see you. Strength and love to you.

fallen angel wrote:
BYRDIE!! just hush!! cuz that will make it worse!!!! ..why does he have to lie about his feelings and stay with her and make her believe he loves her when he DONT!

Unfortunatly Fallen, He does want to be with her still, but just as friends. Its a different love. He loves her as a friend am I not mistken? He needs to do it in a way that is both to the point and not as painful. Talking it out would be a better way than just “DUMPING” her see? I second Byrdie. Sorry.

I’m confused. You have the correct answer Mortal. Fact is you fear being the bad guy . People always fear hurting people, being the bad guy. But you have to realize you are not a bad guy. You are doing whats best for both of you. Fearing hurting her is usually the selfish feeling of how it makes you feel to hurt her. It hurts you too.
Do whats right.

for once winter is right n not being weird..;p

I’m not suggesting dishonesty. Just tell her what you told us, that you don’t love her as much, and you’ve been afraid to tell her. And consider that that problem is pretty common, and might not be unresolvable. Let her absorb your feelings and maybe she’ll have some ideas for you, if she’s understood things correctly.

Sorry, I’m tired . Thanks.

SOrry be direct, when you are losing some one you really like or love that just sounds like excuses. She won’t want a Kano fatality and than , “oh but I prolonged your torture because I care. Most people think they hide emotions well. They don’t. she knows you want to leave. Make it final and give her closure.

Then yes, You need to sit and talk with her. This is not a matter easly remeded by just telling her “I dont love you and I dont want to be with you, but can we be friends?” Cant happen like that. You need to talk with her Mortal okay? If she does start cutting or suicide, you need to tell her parents. Its what is best for everyone in this.

Yes it can, but it depends on maturity. Be kind but be straight forward. Don’t make lil fibs to make it less worse.

WashuChan is right, if suicide is a possibility talk to her parents.

Agreed with Winter on that one, but it needs delacacy. My sisters a cutter, when I tell her that her skirt is too short she gets depressed. You have to tell her the truth, but as though you are not litterly killing her. I do hope that your delema is fixed soon, and I hope as well that you and her can contiune your friendship.

She’s probably been over-caring of you because she senses your hesitation and can’t think what else to do about it. I’ve been in the same position.

As I mean, choose your words wisely? btw, do not bring this subject up when others are around, this is a private matter and should be handled privatly. okay Mortal? Im gonna go to bed now. I will check you though in the morning okay? Good Luck.

Well said WashuChan, I agree completely. Take care.

Then just help her through it. If you feel that she might be cutting herself or attempting suicide, then just have a person watch over her carefully. Like her parents or siblings if she has any. Both of you should act on your maturity. You’re not going to kill her. If she does that, that means shes doing that on her own account. People cut just to let go of their own deppresion. But its nothing that serious. You should sit down with her and talk with her and tell her that its nothing that she should be hurting herself about. Tell her that may be one day, that she’ll find someone that she’ll really love, and that person will love her too. Both of you are still young so both of you still have time to find that special someone that makes your heart pound, make you feel light, makes you get the butterflies in your stomach, all those symptoms that sounds that you’re in love.

How are you being judged?

How do you know I’m not a guy? Anywho, to answer….. most people want to believe they are complicated, I find that not a fact. People have specific emotions and react in a few ways to each. I can figure what emotions you are dealing with from what your story is and what each emotion will dictate what action. I can tell from your initial question, your replies, and your written emotions what your maturity is, and what your actions to certain emotions will be based on all of those items. In simple, I pay attention.

if you like her then why not stay with her?

i realy hate this istuation
it seem liek not fair for a girl so better u have to tell with her
not keep her with this situation

I do hope that your problem will be resolved dear. I wasnt judging, I was just suggesting that things are taken carefully. I appoligise if it looked differently.

when one peerson in a relationship isnt happy , the other cannot be either. Although she may love you she probably senses that you dont feel the same way. She just might be in denial. Women know these things its wether you listen to them or not.