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Anyone, please just help ease my mind!

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My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me 5 days ago. She still lives with me etc and we are still really good friends! I moved to live in Copenhagen with her, im from Scotland. The problem i have is, now she wants to break, do i quit my job here and move back to Scotland to be with my family or stay in Copenhagen hoping things will work out between us? I feel if i go back it will make us further apart and harder being so far away from her, also i really love living in Copenhagen, i have been here for a year and a half. Also, after the break up she has been giving me mixed signals like she will hug me and lay in my arms etc But its all done just as friends? Last night she went out with her friend clubbing and before she left she hugged and kissed on the cheek and said she will see me later while hugging and before she went out the door blow me a kiss with her lips. Its hard though as she doesn’t txt me or talk 2 me like she used to but still says she loves me and ill always be special to her. She just needs time to be herself and not have the responsibilities of a relationship. What do i do?? I have so many thoughts i dont know were to begin! I love her and i know she is the one for me, we have been through so much together and had a trip to Paris planned and payed for August, my birthday gift for her. I respect her feelings but it doesnt make it any easier. Please just help my thoughts! Thank you!

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rizzamaeserran offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (26 minutes after post)

i guess you should stay with your family…i mean that life is complicated…she is only your friend…everybody goes through some rough times once in a while…but im sure youll work things out..pm me…thanks..

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (35 minutes after post)

Have you made anymore friends where you are. Other than your girl are you happy where you are. Are you enjoying your job. If the answers are yes then maybe you should stay there and enjoy the new experiences to come you never know whats around the corner.

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AnnetteCastro01260 offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (5 hours, 1 minute after post)

I thiink she just wants the best of both worlds. She enjoys being free and doing what she wants but she wants you to be there too. Its kind of like she has you trapped. I think you need to stick it out where you are and show her that life goes on with out her. Go out and party with your friends. When she sees that you are just as capable with out her she will start to think about what she really wants and then things will fall into place. Good luck.

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1 year, 4 months ago (5 hours, 6 minutes after post)

She simply isn’t ready or willing to be stuck in a one-to-one relationship. She loves you but not a relationship. She is being honest with you.

You have to decide if you want a “relationship” or you want her in your life.

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jewel_faith5 offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
US | 1 year, 4 months ago (17 hours, 53 minutes after post)

it sounds like she wants to go do stuff w/ a lot of guys and then she will prob. come back to u :\ sry thats what it sounds like

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 week, 5 days after post)

I think she wasn’t 100% happy and is stepping out, or wants to step out. She is thinking the grass is greener elsewhere.

Sit down with her and tell her that you love her and want to work it out.

It could be something as simple as she wants to get married and you have asked her. She might feel that she is waisting her time with you and wants someone who will get married.

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dannsad offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 week, 5 days after post)

and you HAVEN’T asked her is what I meant to say.. sorry

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