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The Best Day…

When you soar with the eagles, you tend to have their vision too!

~ The best day! ~

I woke up that morning still angry with my girlfriend. It was only the day before that she had basically told me that I was a bad parent. Ironically, this coming from of the woman that did not have custody of ANY of the thee children she had by three different guys! But I didn’t have time for any of that. I had to prepare for my trip to San Diego, embark on my future as a Life Coach, and I had mid-terms coming up; that was a 10 page paper on Social psychology - based on an interview done with a minimum of 5 people, and a group project in Adult Psychology (and the group hadn’t even met once together). Work was the same old stuff. Comparing the names from one file to another to make sure the banks applications were protected from.. hell I don’t know - disgruntled ex employees.. it was a boring, meaningless job to me. The only thing exciting about it was getting off early enough in the day, before the traffic going home was too bad.

I was running late for school that night, so I ran into a convenience store for a snack, soda and some smokes, and rushed off to school - not the healthiest of dinners but I had to have something! I was running late for my first group meeting for the group project. As luck (bad luck) would have it traffic was TERRIBLE that evening. I missed my meeting but had plenty of time to down my snack soda and even have a smoke before I got to school. I ran to the library, only to find my classmates breaking up and heading toward class, which started in only a few minutes. I ran along the side of one my team partners trying to get notes from the meeting I had missed. That’s when I felt the first pangs of indigestion.

Adult psychology was an interesting class so far. We’d only gone a third of the way through it, and it was this night that we had a guest speaker on “Baby Boomers”. I’d always been part of the gray line at the tail end of the “Boomers” because of my age, but I never felt more like a boomer as now, listening to this woman speak.

I happened to find some “Tums” in my book bag, the indigestion didn’t appear to be going away.

She had spoke for nearly an hour, and I’d taken a couple more Tums in that amount of time, but now it was time for a break. I went outside for a smoke, hoping that might help - I dunno, sometimes it did. I returned to the class thinking I should not have downed those tacitos so quickly washing them down with a soda.. I deserve what I got. The speaker started up again, talking about how she remembered her first crush.. a little boy with red hair and freckles.. she was talking about Howdy Doody, the famous puppet show of the 50’s. I felt like my stomach was inching up my throat into my mouth. I downed a couple more tums. I was feeling a bit flushed, and my jaw started aching like I had been clenching my teeth all night, although I don’t think I had been.

She spoke for an hour more, and I was feeling older and older, when finally it was time to go. I downed another tums on my way out, and as I drove home I called and told the witch that didn’t think I was a good father.. “I want you to drive me to the hospital, something’s not right”.

There is nothing more eye-opening that to have a Doctor come into your emergency room, and proclaim, “Yes, you are having a heart attack right now as we speak”. I’ve been in emergency rooms before, but I’ve never really ever been the emergency. Normally for me emergency rooms had been tests in frustration.. sit around and wait till someone can get to you. Not this time. The nurses, and doctors were were swarming around me like flies around (well you know). I saw them rush in a crash cart, “just in case”. IV’s pushed into my arms.. razors shaving chucks of hair so the monitors could be hooked up properly… then the deafening sound of that infinite PING watching the line go up and down never so happy to see it that way… knowing now if it went flat, the **** was really gonna hit the fan.

When you are dying, you have a strange sense of calmness. Nervous, and perhaps scared, but surprisingly calm too. They pumped me full of drugs and sent me via ambulance to San Francisco, (30 minutes away). It was the strangest road trip I’ve ever taken in my LIFE. So many things pumping through my mind - mostly the fact that it can’t be now… I have three of the most beautiful daughters… so talented, so wonderful…so young. When I got there I was poked and probed some more, and where the very dedicated and talented people -

Saved my life.

It was the worse day of my life, and it was the best day of my life (so far). By the end of the day, I was a non-smoker, and I was still alive. But I learned that no matter how much you KNOW, it is NOTHING compared to what you DO. My life will be forgotten very shortly after the line goes flat if all it reflects is what I know. It’s what I do that will linger in the hearts of others.

Bright blessings ~ Richard

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max_needs offline Verified User (5 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 36 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (13 minutes after post)

Yes..good post:)

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Shie offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 227 #
Gloversville, NY, US | 2 months ago (23 minutes after post)

wow… truly amazing.. so happy that you are still here… as for that girlfriend… sounds like she may need a bit of knowledge slapped into her.

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BD | 2 months ago (25 minutes after post)

Yea your right, its only our deeds that will be left behind. Lovely post!

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (38 minutes after post)

I wanted to add this too. My oldest daughter wrote this poem that brings me to my knees almost every time…

http://sweetcatastrophe08.deviantart….

I’ve shared it here before, and I know she doesn’t mind. But I’m sure many of you have not seen it. It’s directly related to this post though.

lol.. thanks Tammy… I’ll just say again, it’s not what we know, it’s what we do, and trust me… she’s not “doing” to well these days; “…goes around comes around”.

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Gloversville, NY, US | 2 months ago (1 hour, 27 minutes after post)

karma…. i absolutely believe in karma… the stories i could tell about the ex husband.. would have you dying… with all the karma that has came back to bite him in the rear..

very beautiful poem..

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An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (1 hour, 38 minutes after post)

How true , how true , well said Richard !

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (2 hours, 46 minutes after post)

OOoooh I’ve read the poem and seen some of your daughter’s work (and she is an amazing person - and artist!) and I’ve also heard the story (although not in so much detail) and Mr Cor De Lyon Sir, I love thee.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (2 hours, 47 minutes after post)

And for what it’s worth, if you were the bad father your girlfriend alleged you to be, I know for a fact that your children would not be the people they are now.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (3 hours, 9 minutes after post)

This is a wonderful story. When did it happen if I can ask? Inspiring thoughts from you as always Richard.

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Warminster, PA, US | 2 months ago (4 hours, 17 minutes after post)

why did she think you were being a bad father?

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Adolphus, KY, US | 2 months ago (7 hours, 38 minutes after post)

Very interesting read… however, I’m a bit confused… are you the character in the story? Did you have a heart attack? And did your daughter write that lovely poem for you, her dad??

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (8 hours, 2 minutes after post)

Whoa, that was an unexpected twist at the end lol. You’re quite a trooper!

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Richard cor de lyon offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 74 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (8 hours, 39 minutes after post)

thank you Charlie, you know I love you too, and could not be more proud of you if you were my own daughter! I’m so glad to hear of your happiness today too! Congrats on school and summer fun… bubblin’ with you :)

Yes, this is my story… my heart attack happened January 30th 2007. It’s interesting, when I look back at my journal for that day, which I always wrote in the morning, it reads; “Can you spell STRESSED?! I can!” That very same evening I had a heart attack. The next entry was not until Feb. 28, 07. Yes, the poem is written by my daughter after I had come home safe and sound. That picture is of my daughter, but it is photoshopped… she does NOT smoke.

My girlfriend thinks I am too liberal / carefree with my children. In some ways she is correct, in other ways, I see no reason to make mountains out of mole hills (as see her as the perfect evil stepmother). Case in point, I don’t care what my girls room looks like (it’s their room). It is almost impossible to keep after 3 girls to keep their room(s) clean. All I ask of them is to make sure I can CLOSE THE BEDROOM DOOR. Other than that, it’s their space and they should have their private space. As long as it’s not a sanitation issue (i.e. leftover food laying around) I’m not going to sweat it. Too many more important things in life if you ask me. I will work the girls about every 3 months and “spring cleaning” is done, and usually it’s not all that bad. Anyway… she’s one of those Virgos that is as anal as they come. She yells at her boys nearly non-stop when they visit for every little thing. Different strokes for different folks.

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nikko offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 17 #
US | 2 months ago (1 day, 19 hours after post)

I was in the hospital once. No one would know to look at me. My only “comfort” was my father who told me not to care about the people caring for me. I duly ignored him. I was right :) I’m here but I’m really hurt. I’m trying to answer my invites before I go to email.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (2 days, 4 hours after post)

*deep breath* You brought tears to my eyes with that Richard…I am glad you are okay. Blessings to you and your family

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Milwaukee, WI, US | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (2 days, 20 hours after post)

wow, glad to see your okay richard. i have a big lump in my throat after reading that.

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